https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 23:44:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803689 Thu, 23 May 2013 13:22:28 +0000 heffalump 803689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a friend who always asked me for all of the wedding events if her LO was invited, even though I always put her LO's name on the invite. I think when they say family they mean everyone, but it doesn't hurt to ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803246 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:16:53 +0000 mythreeboys 803246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were invited to a wedding when my LO was 5 months old and still EBF every 2-4 hrs. We have two older boys aged 3 and 5 and I didn't expect them to be invited but I asked my husband (it was his coworker) to ask if we could bring LO since we'd be too far from home to go back and forth. They told us no and I was a bit upset. I didn't end up going to the wedding because it would have been to difficult to coordinate and I don't pump. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803185 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:56:03 +0000 runsyellowlites 803185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: We took P to church starting at just a couple weeks old without issue. Generally if you wear the baby, people don't touch (and we go to a BIG church). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803179 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:54:31 +0000 MrsBrewer 803179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: If anything, and you dont want them to feel obligated, have you husband ask via text or email. That way they can take their time when responding and not feel "on the spot" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803177 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:53:56 +0000 Lozza 803177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: If you want to take the baby, maybe get a good baby wrap or sling that will keep the baby close to you and away from others- at 5 weeks, especially if there's noise/other stimulation going on and you're wearing him/her, s/he will probably mainly sleep through it and if you're wearing a sleeping baby, no one is going to get in the baby's face or ask to hold him/her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803162 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:49:58 +0000 Bao 803162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually family includes everyone and "Mr. and Mrs." includes just adults. I would ask to ease your mind but I'm almost certain it means all of you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803150 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:45:17 +0000 Boheme 803150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: I was wondering about the shots thing too. We were thinking of taking separate vehicles so I could skip the reception and avoid LO having any unnecessary contact. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803144 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:43:41 +0000 regberadaisy 803144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: we had a family wedding when I was around 4 weeks pp. We actually went and opted to keep baby home (my mom was still here) bc she hadn't had any of her shots yet. But having the option to bring her is nice! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803142 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:42:50 +0000 mrskc 803142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think since it says "family", they mean everyone including your new LO. They know you're pregnant, right? That's probably why they addressed it like that instead of Mr &amp; Mrs. If you're comfortable asking, ask. Otherwise, just take the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803139 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:42:24 +0000 Boheme 803139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: I like it! I'll have DH ask the groom. And who knows if I'll even feel up to it by then...I may be a sleep deprived mess lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803130 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:39:24 +0000 regberadaisy 803130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would assume bc it says Grizz "Family" that baby IS invited. But since it sounds like you're close I would just text them. Say something like "hey, got your invite - love it! It's addressed to Grizz Family but I just wanted to double check if you're OK with the baby coming"? That way via text they have time to think and response. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803127 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:39:04 +0000 rachiecakes 803127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I were to address to "family", it means all are welcome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803126 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:38:34 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 803126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: ok let's assume they feel obligated to say yes, your baby will be in a seat and quiet and not walking around and not eating or dancing. It can't be that bad?<br /> I assume they already mean yes by the wording on the invite though. If I wrote family...I meant family! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803125 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:38:17 +0000 Bookish 803125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the PPs, if it was addressed to 'Family,' I always take that to include everybody! Sounds like a casual wedding, and they are good friends, so I wouldn't think it would be a problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803124 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:37:35 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 803124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would ask for clarity. Addressing it to the family definitely implies parents and kids, but it could be they didn't know to write Mr and Mrs instead. Does a 4 week old have a strong enough immune system to attend a wedding? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803122 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:37:15 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 803122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: we had a strict, childless wedding but yet even I would assume any baby that young would come! I think any baby that is not mobile and Bf has to come or else the parents probably couldn't come.<br /> I'd take him? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803121 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:37:13 +0000 oliviaoblivia 803121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Family includes baby in my book! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803119 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:36:45 +0000 Boheme 803119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do any of you think they'd feel obligated to say yes? I want them to do whatever they're comfortable with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803115 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:35:37 +0000 runsyellowlites 803115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would call just to be safe, but since it was addressed to the "Family" and not "Mr. &amp; Mrs." and doesn't have an rsvp card/info it's safe to assume all are invited and is casual enough that it would be an issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803114 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:35:24 +0000 petunia354 803114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The same thing happened to us shortly after LO was born!! No RSVP info card or anything and it was addressed just to our last name. It was DH's cousin so he just called and asked her. Luckily it was a super casual wedding so she said we could bring him. I think it's totally okay to ask and I'm they would much prefer you to call and ask than to just show up with baby :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803111 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:33:56 +0000 MrsBrewer 803111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well when I addressed invitations, when I wrote "Family" I meant everyone! So I would assume that you LO would be invited. But just to be safe, maybe have you husband call up the couple and ask?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803110 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:33:19 +0000 cascademom 803110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would ask before assuming anything. Since it's addressed as "Grizz Family," it might be a kid friendly wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-baby-invited-etiquette-question#post-803106 Thu, 23 May 2013 10:31:46 +0000 Boheme 803106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I were invited to a wedding that will take place when our LO is around 5 weeks old. Its going to be a small super casual afternoon wedding with a cake and punch reception. Our invitation was addressed to the Grizz Family with no RSVP card that indicates how many are invited. I don't want to assume LO is welcome, but I also don't want to miss attending because LO will be too little to leave behind. DH actually introduced the couple, so we both really want to be there. </p> <p>Should we ask them if its ok or not, or should I just skip attending and stay home with LO? I don't want to put them in a weird spot! It just wasn't clear on the invite.</p> <p>ETA: I'm familiar with the church and know exactly where I'd sit to avoid LO making a disturbance. There is a back pew where I could make a hasty exit if need be! </p>