https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 17:03:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732866 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 14:50:07 +0000 singingbee 732866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I think email would be just fine. So much better than have to call everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732864 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 14:47:55 +0000 singingbee 732864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycrz: we lost our baby at 20 weeks and they classified it as a miscarriage. Our state required us to decide what we did afterwards, cremation or burial, since we were 20 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732795 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 13:33:49 +0000 Arden 732795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine. And I would add something in the email about how they aren't ready for questions right now, otherwise people will be emailing and calling going "What happened? Do you know why? Did you have to go through labor? When are you going to try again?"</p> <p>People are nosy like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732778 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 13:25:37 +0000 LovelyPlum 732778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, email is good. It lets you be specific and protect their privacy and space as well. Prayers to your friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732759 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 13:09:36 +0000 MrsH 732759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Email would be good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732739 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 12:55:02 +0000 Lindsay05 732739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is sad. I would think it's ok. But I personally prefer email over almost anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732715 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 12:29:02 +0000 Smurfette 732715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sad! But yes I think email is fine </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732714 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 12:28:56 +0000 T.H.O.U. 732714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine and be specific if you can. Do they want calls and visitors? If people want to send something would they prefer cards food flowers or donations? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732710 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 12:26:09 +0000 autumnlove 732710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycrz: I sent my friend a text to ask about this. Her sis was induced and had to birth her son but she wants the email to be vague and just reference a loss. I think she is worried about questions about the birth and they aren't ready to talk about it. :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732702 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 12:19:32 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 732702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think email would be fine. Its a whole lot of stress/work to call everyone individually, and an email can provide the necessary information without the sender being pumped for details. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732630 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 10:43:33 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 732630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the email I would ask for the couple's privacy. Once the email goes out the word will spread and the couple may not want to talk to fam and friends right away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732602 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 10:11:10 +0000 Dandelion 732602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Email is fine. It's hard to break news to people over and over again. One blanket email is really a lot easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732592 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 10:02:45 +0000 matador84 732592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think email would be appropriate. my only concern is someone might not get the message and that could be awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732585 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 09:53:51 +0000 babycrz 732585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree email is just fine.</p> <p>I'm pretty sure past 20 weeks is considered 'stillborn' and not a 'miscarriage'. Not sure how they are referring to the situation.. but to me it seems like a pretty big difference. I'd make sure she refers to it appropriately (whatever the family chooses) out of respect for the mom.</p> <p>Prays for your friends whole family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732576 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 09:43:14 +0000 .twist. 732576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think email would be fine. Honestly, if people get upset about how she tells them she lost her baby then they are totally insensitive. </p> <p>I know personally, I wouldn't want to talk to anyone and an email would be much easier. I don't think that etiquette applies in this type of situation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732572 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 09:38:56 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 732572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>aw that is so sad. I think email would be fine. DHs cousin had an MC and she told us via email (actually FB message) and it was fine. Actually, it was probably easier to think of a way to reply then having had her tell us over the phone or in person. Sorry for your friend :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-email-ok#post-732569 Sun, 21 Apr 2013 09:35:07 +0000 autumnlove 732569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend's sister had a miscarriage at 21 weeks almost 2 weeks ago. They have informed their closest family, friends and work but a lot of people still don't know. :-( She asked her sister (my friend) if she can inform other family and friends for her so some of the comments about her baby stop. </p> <p>My friend was going to throw the baby shower so she has almost everyone's email address and contact info...would it be ok to send a quick email and bcc everyone and let them know about her sister's loss? She plans on calling their older relatives and friends who don't use email a lot. </p>