https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 31 May 2026 01:54:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-535520 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 21:11:19 +0000 marionberry 535520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up in a family of 3 kids. I was the oldest. We all had the best relationship and the only negative was that when we went to the fair, someone had to ride with mom or ride alone. I am actually likely to have 3-4 kids and have no worries about just 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-535044 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 17:23:50 +0000 winniebee 535044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we plan on 3. DH refuses 4 because he wants to be able to all fit in a regular car (even though I'm sure we will succumb to a mini van eventually)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-535033 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 17:20:24 +0000 Mrs. Blue 535033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would rather have 4 than 3. DH and I both came from families of 3 siblings, and we tend to thing someone was generally left out. Part of it I'm sure is that you often end up with two of one gender and one of the other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534994 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 17:03:24 +0000 birdofafeather 534994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are from families of 3 kids so we always think of 3 kids as a family! We just had our first, so we'll see where we land! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534962 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:51:37 +0000 blackbird 534962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HA, so it totally sounds like a crapshoot, basically :P</p> <p>I was one of two and I routinely left my brother out of stuff! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534946 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:42:08 +0000 tororojo 534946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have always wanted 3 and never thought of it as bad. Although DH has 2 younger sibs and I think they leave him out of stuff--don't know if that's because of sibling number or because they're both super immature/irresponsible, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534938 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:38:31 +0000 jedeve 534938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hated being in the middle of 3. The oldest is doing something new and exciting. The youngest is the baby. I want 2 or 4. Two they only have one sibling, but four is so many! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534937 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:38:28 +0000 daniellemybelle 534937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that with three kids, two will always end up closest somehow. That happened in my family, and it seems to have happened in every family of three that I know. Still, I don't know if that equates to "left out"! My two brothers are closer to each other than me, but I am super close to my mom, and the only girl, so I don't mind at all. There are all kinds of family dynamics! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534931 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:34:13 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 534931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a third child but I felt left out because of the huge age difference between me and my siblings. My brother's seven years older, my sister is five years older. They're sixteen months apart, so they grew up really close. I was jealous of it because my sister often acted more like a second mother than a sister.</p> <p>That being said, we're considering three. Henry and this next LO will be about fourteen months apart. I think if we make sure the third one is born a few years from now, say by 2016, we'll be fine and so will our little family. But we might stop after two. I would like three but it depends on our ability to support three. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534926 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:32:29 +0000 Mrs. Pen 534926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Bee: at least you hope!! haha the family I worked for had 4 kids in 4 years!! Once she had the third that was when she realized she needed a nanny.</p> <p>@MsMini: same here- 2 seemed too few but whenever I see families with 4 kids I balk... </p> <p>@Foodnerd81: haha same here!! Since my youngest sister wasn't born until I was 15 (and the oldest was 20), I always felt I was growing up in a family of 5 kids, which I did. I was #3 of 5 as well, and felt left out. My older sis &amp; bro are a year apart, so they had the same group of friends in school and hung out together all the time. I am three years younger, and #4 is three years younger than me! So I felt the same way until we became adults and now I have great friendships with all of my siblings (two are still teens though and one is in elementary!). In the end, it never really mattered. I still have fond memories of childhood and being left out here and there didn't give my emotional scars haha. I think as long as kids are loved and cared for - that's all you can do :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534925 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:32:07 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 534925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are leaning towards 3 i think (none yet!) we both are from families of 3. I'm the oldest and were are really close in age: 24, 23, 21 (me, sister, brother). DH is the middle: 27, 24, 20 (brother, DH, sister). </p> <p>We ganged up on each other when we were younger, but as other have mentioned, it was always different and never just two of us ganging up on one person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534912 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:28:46 +0000 Shutterbug 534912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think kids will always leave each other out at some point when there's more than 2. DH is one of 4, but there are 3 boys, and he's always been much closer with one brother than the other, and the two of them would sort of leave the other one out. You could also argue that his sister was left out by the boys. I'm the oldest of two with a brother, so I don't have much input on sibling dynamics (well other then having a little brother is 'soooo annooooying' when you're growing up, haha) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534899 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:27:07 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 534899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm one of two sets of three. I'm the oldest and only child my parents had together. They both went on to have two more with my stepparents. I get along great with all of my siblings. My husband wants 3 or more. I'm not sure how many we will have yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534886 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:22:37 +0000 tequiero21 534886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We r open to 3 but happy w 2... I would rather have 4 than 3 but hubby is opposed to 4... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534881 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:21:27 +0000 Mrs. Bee 534881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i have heard that the transition from 2 to 3 is the hardest because you're outnumbered. after 3, it doesn't matter if you have 4+ because the oldest is more independent at that point.</p> <p>we're 2 and done for sure... we're not tough enough to handle 3! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534872 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:18:06 +0000 MsMini 534872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me and DH are both from 3 kid families, and we are planning on having 3. If you only have 2, if they aren't getting alone there is no buffer. With 3, if you weren't getting along with someone at that time there was always someone else to play/talk to etc. I think 2 isn't enough, but 4 seems like too many for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534870 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:17:53 +0000 Ree723 534870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am one of three kids and the middle child to boot! With an older sister and a younger brother I always used to joke that I was nothing special, not the oldest, not the youngest, and not the first/only girl! I loved it though. My sister and I are only 13 months apart and we've always gotten along really well; my brother and I are pretty close too. actually, we're all really close.As someone else said, the three of us would squabble and gang up 2 on 1 sometimes, but it was a different combo all the time so it never was a big deal.</p> <p>My mom was also hyper aware of middle child syndrome (she's a middle child too, although the only girl) so she made a special effort to shower me with just that little bit of extra attention.</p> <p>We are aiming for three kids - we think it's a great number and would be perfect for our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534867 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:17:42 +0000 JoJoGirl 534867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm one of 3. I dunno if it's one of those things you can control. I know LOTS of people who are 1 of 2 who don't get along with their sibling. The 3 of us did pretty great together, although my older and younger brother aren't that close to each other. But i wouldn't say it's a reason not to have a 3rd. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534861 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:16:50 +0000 mrsmenow 534861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have never wanted to have 3 because of this theory. I had 2 sisters growing up and one was always left out, so I really really was against having 3 girls. Well guess what I got, 3 girls. And there is no way we are having a 4th-DH is wanting to be done and we can't swing it financially. </p> <p>Mine are spaced out quit a bit though, they are 10, 4, and the newborn. I am hoping once the oldest is not wanting to play with her younger sister than my middle and youngest will play together and my oldest will be busy being a moody teenager to care too much of what they are up to:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534853 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:15:30 +0000 Cherrybee 534853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no! I hadn't thought of this!! I want 3!!! Oh well, we will see....! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534833 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:10:51 +0000 Foodnerd81 534833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never really thought about this much, but I'm #3 of 5 and I was definitely the middle child-- my old brother and sister were less than 2 years apart, then 4 years until me, 3 to my next sister, and they are 2 years apart-- so the two biggest age gaps were around me. I think that was the biggest thing about me being 'left out'-- the older ones were in college, the younger ones were in elementary school, and I was in high school-- there was just a big age and maturity difference. However, my older sister has always been my best friend still, even with our age difference. I really think if my parents had stopped at 4, my younger sister would have been the left out one, because her personality was just different from ours. </p> <p>DH is one of 3 brothers and he has said that growing up, often it would be 2 against 1, but it changed who was pairing up. Now he's way closer to one brother, but they live near each other and the other one is across the country. </p> <p>So I say it's fine. But the kids outnumbering parents and the traveling difficulties are the things that make me think 2 will be enough for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534798 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:01:21 +0000 lemondrop 534798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our goal is to have 3, with the option for a 4th if money permits. That said, we are both from families with 2 kids of opposite genders, so what do we know!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534797 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:01:21 +0000 Smurfette 534797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It does make it harder to not have even numbers. I feel like one of us always felt left out at some point or another. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534791 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 16:00:09 +0000 prettylizy 534791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't want more kids than parents, then they could ban together and stage a mutiny! lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534790 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 15:59:52 +0000 Mrs. Pen 534790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: hahah then that would be the case with 3+, not just 3 ;)</p> <p>@MediaNaranja: aw that is sweet!</p> <p>@AprilK: bahaha that totally made me laugh out loud. I remember that with my sibs too but being there were five of us (and one more later on) there was usually a sib or two that did't want to be a part of the ganging up or whatever... it's interesting to hear family dynamics though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534784 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 15:58:29 +0000 Sammyfab 534784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on the gender combinations. I'm the middle of 3 girls and my sisters and I would never choose to have 3 children because of our childhood (and mainly my middle child status!). I have many friends who are 1 of 3 where they're either the only girl or the youngest girl (but still in the middle) and they never had issues being the middle child. My sister's husband is the middle of 3 boys and while he was favoured growing up, I think there were still middle-child issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534780 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 15:57:49 +0000 MrsTiz 534780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is the reason I wont have an odd number. I've also heard that it is much harder to parent 3 than 2 because the parents are outnumbered then lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534779 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 15:57:43 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 534779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is with your mom. He wants an even number. He was the oldest of three and although he is definitely the golden child he has strong opinions of having either 2 or 4. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534772 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 15:54:32 +0000 MediaNaranja 534772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am one of three and I loved it, and it is the same reason I want three! I am the middle child, but I am also the only girl so we each had something special...you were either oldest, youngest, or the only daughter :) I am very close with both of my brothers (there are 2.5 years between the oldest and I, 3 years between the youngest and I). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bad-to-have-3-children#post-534770 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 15:54:08 +0000 T.H.O.U. 534770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was part of a family with 3. I loved it. Perfect number to always have someone to be around. The worst though was traveling because 5 is hard for hotels/cabs/etc. </p>