https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 06:08:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1003237 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 08:13:53 +0000 Sunshine1810 1003237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I think it's a faux pas to ask no matter what the occasion is! It seems more common to give monetary gifts for weddings though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1003107 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 07:20:11 +0000 mrs. 64 1003107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think in some places people are much more likely to give money than tangible gifts, but I'm not sure that asking for money is appropriate anywhere. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1003105 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 07:19:48 +0000 Dandelion 1003105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, it's rude.</p> <p>When I had my shower, I loved the gifts...baby stuff is so cute! I had a couple of people give money, and while I appreciated it, it just wasn't as fun to open.</p> <p>For a wedding, it makes a little more sense, but I think it's rude to ask for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1003059 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 07:08:21 +0000 lomom 1003059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's totally rude. We didn't register for our wedding and wound up with a ton of cash. We had lived together for 3 years and owned a home for 2, it felt too silly to go register for towels and stuff like that. We were remodeling our kitchen and the extra cash was nice for that! I always recommend skipping the registry if someone truly prefers cash, instead of saying "monetary gifts are appreciated" on the invites! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1003028 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 06:53:34 +0000 Adira 1003028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@honeybear: I agree!!! That's so rude!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1003024 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 06:51:50 +0000 looch 1003024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Around here, there are things called "green showers" which are basically money gifts.</p> <p>Personally, I always give cash. It's always the right size and color, it doesn't need to be exchanged. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002771 Fri, 09 Aug 2013 01:12:08 +0000 sunny 1002771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its tacky but I almost always give cash anyways :-P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002417 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 22:00:24 +0000 PointeShoesTutus 1002417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was under the impression that it is still a faux pas to outright ask for cash gifts. I also thought it was in poor taste to make any mention of gifts on invitations (some say shower invitations are the exception). But sometimes I feel like a cranky grandma trapped in a 29 year old body so who knows.</p> <p>What is the point of having a shower if you ask for money? Sorry, you get a cheap blender from me then! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002395 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 21:56:09 +0000 Grace 1002395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always give money at weddings and gifts at showers. It is a faux pas for the recipients to ask though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002372 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 21:51:54 +0000 MsLipGloss 1002372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Faux Pas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002360 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 21:49:21 +0000 rawrasaur 1002360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That really bothers me. I don't think anyone should suggest what you should gift them unless asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002128 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 21:03:44 +0000 Navy_Mommy 1002128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would NEVER give cash at a baby shower. That defeats the purpose of the shower... SUPER tacky. </p> <p>I've had friends decline gifts for first birthday parties and ask for either a contribution to a college fund or a donation to a specific non profit and I wasn't bothered by that. (It wasn't on an invitation, just spread by word of mouth) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002113 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 21:01:37 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1002113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ah rude! When people ask for money I specifically don't give it to them. I think it's so rude!</p> <p>My step dads parents threw their own 50th anniversary party and asked for cash! Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002112 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 21:01:36 +0000 Boheme 1002112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tacky! Someone telling me that pretty much guarantees I will get them a toaster. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002079 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:57:19 +0000 Foodnerd81 1002079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tacky and rude for both. Totally fine to tell people, IF they ask, for a wedding (like I had a friend straight up ask if we preferred a registry gift or cash, so I said we didn't need any gift but if they wanted to, cash). </p> <p>For a shower it just doesn't make sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002051 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:53:21 +0000 MrsF 1002051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never seen that. It seems kind of tacky to me. I was actually surprised how many people gave us monetary gifts for our wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002041 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:51:24 +0000 Jellyfish 1002041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've seen it on wedding invitations and think its a bit too forward and tasteless </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1002004 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:46:00 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1002004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was ON the invitation!? Rude.</p> <p>You get a toaster. I really don't like when people dictate my generosity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001994 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:44:03 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1001994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Faux Pas :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001983 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:42:34 +0000 MamaMoose 1001983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@honeybear: I agree. I would be horrified. The only people I have ever (or would ever) ask for money is my parents and I ask for it in the form of 529 contributions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001965 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:40:00 +0000 jhd 1001965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@honeybear lol I agree! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001961 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:39:06 +0000 mrsbookworm 1001961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's tacky to ask for any occasion, especially in print! If you'd really like monetary gifts, I think it's better to tell a few close family members/friends and then if anyone asks them for ideas, they could mention that money would be helpful... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001956 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:38:49 +0000 mrs. bird 1001956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>on the invitation?!?! that's not cool. i don't think you're ever supposed to mention gifts in a wedding invitation, there shouldn't be an expectation of a gift, for a shower since gifts are expected i think it's appropriate to mention where the couple registered on a card included with the invitation, but i don't really understand a shower just for cash. people like gifting items at showers, it seems extra tacky to just say you want cash. that would rub me the wrong way as a guest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001942 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:36:48 +0000 chopsuey 1001942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seen it for weddings, but not for showers!<br /> I think it's annoying to write that on invites.<br /> We give cash anyway! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001938 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:36:01 +0000 honeybear 1001938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Stickler here. I'm gonna say that's straight up rude. 'Faux pas' is being too generous, in my ornery, old-fashioned opinion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001930 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:34:43 +0000 jhd 1001930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SIL wrote on her FB invite to my 7 yo niece's bday that all she wanted was money. I got her a present because I genuinely enjoy shopping for her and she has always really liked the stuff I pick out. We had to miss the party so I haven't given the gift yet.</p> <p>I feel like it is still a faux pas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001903 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:30:00 +0000 JamieLee 1001903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In my opinion, that's a faux pas for either occasion. Wedding invites in general aren't supposed to mention gifts (registry or otherwise)... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001897 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:28:48 +0000 swedishfish 1001897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely still consider that a faux pas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001895 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:28:39 +0000 Andrea 1001895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have seen that for weddings, but not for a baby shower! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-becoming-the-norm-to-ask-for-cash-as-gifts#post-1001888 Thu, 08 Aug 2013 20:27:42 +0000 Rubies 1001888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In both a recent wedding and a baby shower invitation, there it was worded, "Monetary gifts are appreciated."</p> <p>What the heck? Is it now becoming the norm to ask for money? Or is it still a faux pas? </p>