https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 04:12:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551206 Wed, 18 May 2016 12:34:45 +0000 tlynne 2551206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a reward, not a bribe. A bribe would be given to her BEFORE she did what you wanted...a reward is given AFTER she does what you want. : ). That's why bribes don't work...but rewards can be very effective, LOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551201 Wed, 18 May 2016 12:29:06 +0000 birdofafeather 2551201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i love these answers! and i might start a sticker chart or quarters as my new survival technique! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551198 Wed, 18 May 2016 12:27:30 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2551198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did that with DD1 around 2.5/3 yrs old because she wouldn't stay in her bed. We gave her a puzzle piece for each night she stayed in her bed. If she got all the pieces (4 total). then she could pick something fun for us to do that weekend. Worked like a charm! </p> <p>... Now to get DD2 to do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551192 Wed, 18 May 2016 12:24:31 +0000 Mommy Finger 2551192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell people that my parenting style is bribes and threats so. . . . :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551155 Wed, 18 May 2016 11:31:28 +0000 Tanjowen 2551155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's definitely a good incentive! That being said I happily believe and employ bribery a lot. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551154 Wed, 18 May 2016 11:28:57 +0000 PinkElephant 2551154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: we recently started giving my two year old a sticker on the AM when she stays in her own crib...it is helping the situation a lot. If she gets up at night, we remind her she won't get an Elsa sticker in the AM if she comes in our bed. She generally agrees to stay put. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551148 Wed, 18 May 2016 11:22:18 +0000 Eko 2551148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Isn't this also reward style parenting? Similar to giving food if they do x? Same difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551138 Wed, 18 May 2016 11:16:05 +0000 sarac 2551138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can't it be both? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551093 Wed, 18 May 2016 10:23:04 +0000 youboots 2551093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was going to say cash incentive.....@pwnstar you beat me to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551089 Wed, 18 May 2016 10:18:59 +0000 catomd00 2551089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://behaviorcorner.com/bribery-vs-incentive/" rel="nofollow">http://behaviorcorner.com/bribery-vs-incentive/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551076 Wed, 18 May 2016 10:07:58 +0000 CakeLady 2551076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: oh man, I have to wait 2 years to not have a middle of the night intruder?!? DS goes to sleep in his own bed, but wakes up EVERY night and screams until we bring him in our bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551074 Wed, 18 May 2016 10:05:07 +0000 mediagirl 2551074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: she will be 4 soon. She is totally into incentives. And understands having things taken away. I don't think she would have gotten this as well at 2. Thankfully she doesn't start sleeping in our bed, she just comes in randomly at night when she wakes up and finds she is all alone and wants to snuggle with a warm body. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551073 Wed, 18 May 2016 10:03:40 +0000 CakeLady 2551073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: how old is your LO? I desperately want my LO to sleep in his own bed, but he's just about to turn 2, and I am not sure he understands incentives (or bribes, or parenting) yet. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551057 Wed, 18 May 2016 09:40:25 +0000 jape14 2551057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a part of operant conditioning called positive reinforcement. You're giving a reward/incentive (the quarter) to increase the likelihood of the desired behavior (staying in bed until the sun comes up). Perfectly legit in the psychology world and in parenting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551048 Wed, 18 May 2016 09:33:25 +0000 yoursilverlining 2551048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's just reality! And a quarter for working towards decent sleep is a damn good deal! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551047 Wed, 18 May 2016 09:30:56 +0000 T-Mom 2551047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's just one of the tools in your toolbox that you use in the job of parenting... and smart parents know how to use their tools... Hope it works... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551046 Wed, 18 May 2016 09:30:09 +0000 yellowbird 2551046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man! Genius! I've been doing this same scenario but offering a chips ahoy. Lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551044 Wed, 18 May 2016 09:29:22 +0000 mediagirl 2551044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: @erinbaderin: good call for having a plan at the end. Maybe we will move to a sticker chart and have a big prize if we go a month or something like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2551033 Wed, 18 May 2016 09:12:20 +0000 erinbaderin 2551033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's both, but who cares? As long as you have a plan for when/how to stop paying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2550984 Wed, 18 May 2016 08:35:56 +0000 ValentineMommy 2550984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whatever you call it, I say it's worth it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2550959 Wed, 18 May 2016 08:13:25 +0000 winniebee 2550959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: I call it "survival of any parent"</p> <p>@Anagram: haha!</p> <p>So, I would TRY it and if it worked maybe do it for a week and then try to shift to another reward system eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2550947 Wed, 18 May 2016 08:05:48 +0000 mediagirl 2550947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: @Foodnerd81: @Anagram: @pwnstar: killing it this morning, ladies. KILLING it. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2550946 Wed, 18 May 2016 08:04:29 +0000 pwnstar 2550946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither - an INCENTIVE. :wink: </p> <p>And truly, when it comes to sleep, pretty much whatever works works. Because it's so damn important! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2550945 Wed, 18 May 2016 08:04:21 +0000 Anagram 2550945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both? Put it on a sticker chart and you can feel smug about your quarter parenting method. ;-0 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2550938 Wed, 18 May 2016 07:59:44 +0000 Foodnerd81 2550938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's smart. I would gladly pay 25 cents for a night of sleep! </p> <p>(Says the mom gong through M&amp;Ms like its my job during potty training). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2550936 Wed, 18 May 2016 07:58:59 +0000 Truth Bombs 2550936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call it "survival of the working parent" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-bribery-or-parenting#post-2550934 Wed, 18 May 2016 07:57:33 +0000 mediagirl 2550934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What would you call this? Say your child appears in your bed every night, sometime in the middle of the night. You want said child OUT of your bed. You tell said child that if they sleep through the night in their bed and only come in after the sun starts coming up, they can have a quarter. One quarter for every night they sleep the entire night in their room. </p> <p>Bribery or parenting? </p>