https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 22:05:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2003575 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 06:04:29 +0000 looch 2003575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: With the exception of bridal and baby showers, of course. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2003473 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 00:07:10 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2003473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always specify no gifts. We usually get books. You definitely get more thoughtful gifts when you specify no gifts, ironically! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2003464 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 23:58:02 +0000 daniellemybelle 2003464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Just a few. Maybe three and we had about 50 people. We got maybe 15 donations. We asked folks to bring unwrapped clothes, books or toys if they wanted to the party. I took LO to drop them off at the children's hospital. I hope to make it an annual tradition. Next year, we will definitely ask folks to label their gift or have a way for them to leave their name though because I had no way to write thank you notes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2002572 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 13:14:23 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2002572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you don't want toys as gifts, don't throw a party, or specify "no gifts please." </p> <p>You can't specify which kind of gifts you want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2002469 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 12:14:11 +0000 PrincessBaby 2002469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not give direction on gifts on an invitation, unless the direction is that you are not accepting gifts or something along those lines. If someone asks you, then share, but definitely never put it in the invite. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2002459 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 12:03:35 +0000 Greentea 2002459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't mention gifts. I don't think people want to be told what to buy honestly. If they do, they will ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2002405 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 11:38:17 +0000 littlejoy 2002405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DisneyBee: I wouldn't include it ... But if someone asked, I'd totally give them that info. If they press you and say they want to do a gift, tell them that LO can always use books. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2002337 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 11:04:35 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2002337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't put it personally because it feels like outright asking for money. Plus people enjoy buying things for kids, even kids who need nothing. Maybe make it known to your close friends and family that you've started saving with a 529 and they might mention it to others if they ask what to get him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2002094 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 09:09:44 +0000 AmandaB8 2002094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We put an info card in there - DD's clothing size and 529 link were on there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2002078 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 09:00:31 +0000 LuLu Mom 2002078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not mention it on invite, but if someone asks I would spread the word by mouth and say "actually with Christmas we were hoping to get clothes for spring and books, or even a donation to his college would be great!" I would tell my mom/sisters and they are usually good about spreading the word. Also, I would have no problem telling my best friends, we always tell each other what we/our kids "really" want in terms of gifts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2002062 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 08:50:36 +0000 looch 2002062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ineebee: me too, I like the insert idea as well. I am very practical when it comes to gift giving and I loathe the idea of people donating items I gifted for a host of reasons, so I'd much rather see this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2002017 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 08:28:16 +0000 ineebee 2002017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: I like that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2002011 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 08:20:59 +0000 MrsTiz 2002011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that on a typical invite I would wrinkle my nose at that but maybe you can print out little cards with the link on it to slip into those who you know wouldn't be offended and those who had already asked about it? So if you know your neighbor would be off put, don't put one but if your friend asked about donating she'd have the link? Idk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2002002 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 08:06:17 +0000 ineebee 2002002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As someone who always has trouble thinking of gifts, I would appreciate it, but I can see how most others would be put off by it. One thing I've seen that is kind of in-between is indicating that no gifts are necessary. This at least limited the amount of toys received. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2001994 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 07:57:56 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2001994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: did you still receive gifts for your LO? How did people donate to the hospital? Direct to hospital? Bring gifts or checks to the party for the hospital? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2001933 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 04:37:33 +0000 daniellemybelle 2001933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We included an insert asking no gifts &amp; for donations to the children's hospital instead. Got the idea from a HB blogger! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2001895 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 01:06:31 +0000 DisneyBee 2001895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Looks like it's unanimous...no mentioning it then. I assumed so, but thought I'd ask my fellow HB'ers. I'll just send the link to my friends that ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2001889 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 01:01:52 +0000 wheres_c 2001889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No gift mentions on invite! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2001884 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 00:50:17 +0000 winter_wonder 2001884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't put any info about gifts on the invite </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2001883 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 00:49:50 +0000 rrachael 2001883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally I have no problem with people asking for donations to a college account in lieu of toys ... But when my cousin did this, my mom and aunts were super put off by it. So - based on that, I'd leave it off the invite and just mention it if someone asks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2001879 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 00:46:23 +0000 Ginabean3 2001879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally wouldn't put anything about gifts on any kind of invitation. People will inevitably ask you or family or close friends what to get your LO and at that time you can verbally suggest something! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2001872 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 00:34:42 +0000 coopsmama 2001872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: This.</p> <p>I don't think it's appropriate to specify what kind of gifts you want unless someone asks for that information. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2001871 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 00:34:00 +0000 autumnlove 2001871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I think gift requests on invites are rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2001869 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 00:33:08 +0000 anonysquire 2001869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't put it. If friends want to donate they can ask privately for the info. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-disrespectful-to-write-this-on-an-invitation#post-2001868 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 00:31:31 +0000 DisneyBee 2001868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my DS2's 1st birthday is coming up in a few months. We have a ton of toys from Christmas, and also have a lot of hand-me-downs from DS1. </p> <p>Therefore, I was going to request books or clothes, instead of toys, on the invitation. However, would it be disrespectful to add a link to DS2's 529 account? Some of my friends have said that they would contribute to his college account, but not sure how everyone else would take it. They can definitely see through the link that it is for college, and not for ourselves. However, I know money can be a sensitive subject for many people. </p> <p>Thoughts? </p>