https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 22:11:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-easierdifferent-when-its-your-own-child#post-31303 Sat, 10 Dec 2011 14:14:32 +0000 heffalump 31303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Being a mom is the hardest thing I've ever done. My baby girl has reflux so I've spent many hours listening to her scream with no way to soothe her. But during all that I was already bugging my husband for another baby because I just love her so much, I want more of her. Not surprisingly he wasn't on the same page with having another one so quickly ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-easierdifferent-when-its-your-own-child#post-31266 Sat, 10 Dec 2011 12:31:56 +0000 Honeybee 31266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was surprised by how much easier/happier/more fulfilling parenthood has been than what I thought pre-baby. Absolutely it's exhausting and frustrating and difficult, but as a parent you get all these little hidden gems of moments that more than make up for the difficult times. Other people don't get to experience sleepy snuggles and sloppy kisses like parents do, and I think those little moments make it easier to handle the tantrum-throwing, crying/whining monster moments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-easierdifferent-when-its-your-own-child#post-30888 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:33:55 +0000 Andrea 30888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Sadly, I realized this when observing one of my friends. She doesn't spend a ton of time with her child and I believe this is why he misbehaves for her because she doesn't know how to control him. :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-easierdifferent-when-its-your-own-child#post-30887 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:33:24 +0000 sorrycharlie 30887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I keep telling myself it can't be that bad, or people wouldn't have more than one! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-easierdifferent-when-its-your-own-child#post-30880 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:30:21 +0000 mrbee 30880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: That's so true! Sometimes I see other people interact with Charlie, and I realize that not everyone speaks Charlie-ese. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-easierdifferent-when-its-your-own-child#post-30878 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:28:51 +0000 Andrea 30878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You will also know your own child a lot better so that makes it easier. The more you know about the child, the better equipped you are about how to deal with them when something happens. But you'll still be tired and sometimes frustrated .... don't think that goes away with your own child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-easierdifferent-when-its-your-own-child#post-30877 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:28:35 +0000 sorrycharlie 30877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blushink: that's what I'm hoping - that since its your own child it might be easier to handle</p> <p> @mrbee: This is true! I've heard that, my cousin says its easier to handle because you can teach them to change behavior.</p> <p>Side note, just texted my mom with this question an she says other peoples kids are easier to deal with. I hope she's being sarcastic! Haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-easierdifferent-when-its-your-own-child#post-30874 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:27:19 +0000 photojane 30874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i sure hope so. i nanny for my 3-month old nephew a few days a month, and some days i think "i cannot get up this early every day with a baby!"... so selfish, i know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-easierdifferent-when-its-your-own-child#post-30869 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:23:07 +0000 mrbee 30869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's easier when it's your own, because you can discipline them and change their behavior! :-) So you have a sense of control over the situation... I think that helps a lot! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-easierdifferent-when-its-your-own-child#post-30867 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:22:30 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 30867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sure it's different but I won't lie and say its all unicorns and rainbows. I get frustrated, tired but its part of it and seeing its your child, you accept it and grow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-easierdifferent-when-its-your-own-child#post-30865 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:20:47 +0000 sorrycharlie 30865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I watched my 2 year-old nephew earlier today, and went home exhausted and frustrated. He was horrible--throwing things, spitting, screaming, etc. He is always like this--not only for me. Then tonight I'm babysitting the girls I used to nanny, an I'm wiped! </p> <p>I'm hoping that when it's your own child, the frustration underlies love and patience, and the exhaustion accompanies elation. </p> <p>But I'm petrified it won't. I am so scared to keep ttc because I'm afraid I'll be a tired, frustrated bad mom! :(</p> <p>Is it easier when it's your own? </p>