https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 00:40:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-353617 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 10:33:15 +0000 mrsjyw 353617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH does a good job staying in shape and keeping himself "attractive..." :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-353605 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 10:29:52 +0000 Mrs. Pen 353605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: my husband LOVES to look nice. Whenever we go anywhere, even somewhere casual, it's a button up shirt and dressy dark wash jeans! He's so cute. </p> <p>The only time he dressed differently was during our summer vacation, but even then it was a polo and shorts :) I love how he dresses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-353545 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 10:04:57 +0000 Mrsbells 353545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we both lounge around in our shorts etc, thats doesnt bother me, also not combing hair or brushing teeth doesnt bother me either.<br /> I do want him to make an effort to look nice if we go out and maintain his weight but thats about it and he already does that </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-353535 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 10:00:58 +0000 Cherrybee 353535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've both gained a lot of weight since we met. The health aspect really bothers me for both of us but looks wise I don't mind him being a bit rounder!! I love him regardless. I also don't mind him slobbing around in sweat pants in the house BUT what really bothers me is when we need to go out to the supermarket, say, and he puts his smart, tailored coat on with his tatty sweat pants and goes out like that!! I pray we don't bump into anyone I know because he looks like a crazy person who got dressed in the dark. Now, I'm not the most stylish person in the world and I slob about it my PJs at home but, when we nip out to the shop, I always make sure my clothes match and I've brushed my hair! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-353494 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 09:45:40 +0000 Alivoo01 353494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing that bothers me about my hubby's appearance is the extra weight he's gained since we've been together. He's put on about 30lbs of happy weight. Yikes! It doesn't change my perspective of him, but I wouldn't mind if he lost all that extra weight. He doesn't even really have to be fit and muscular (although I wouldn't mind), but I would like him to be at a healthy weight for his sake. Doctors have deemed him to be in the overweight BMI and is starting to become a slight health issue. Sadly, no matter how much I hint at it or tell him directly, he just doesn't seem to care. Sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-353363 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 08:46:33 +0000 LemonLong 353363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as basic hygiene is being covered, we're good. In the beginning, we had some arguments about clothes though. My husband is very specific and stubborn with his clothes, but his style is really outdated and that can be hard for me since I do like to dress well, like his business pants need to be pleated and not flat front which would look so much better on him and we once got in a fight because he really wanted to buy bright white old man new balance tennis shoes and it was just too much for me! He also refuses to wear low socks, and would never wear sandals. He dresses like he's sixty instead of 30. Luckily, he has many other qualities about him that I love, so I can look past the way he dresses without finding him less attractive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-353263 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 07:35:04 +0000 mediagirl 353263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Weight is no where near as big of a deal as looking nice. My husband and I are both very casual people. I love it when he wears a button down (whether it's with shorts or with pants) and he knows that so when we go out, that's what he wears most of the time. If he started going out in sweats and didn't brush his teeth or shower, I would have a problem. If he gained weight, I would not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-353198 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 23:23:43 +0000 Pink Champagne 353198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband does a great job about staying in shape. But he does it for himself- I could care less if he had defined muscles or great abs, but working out makes him feel good about himself.<br /> We both eat really healthy, so that has never been an issue nor will it probably ever be.<br /> As far as hygiene goes... I'll be happy as long as he showers every day. He's had bad breath before, and I've told him to go brush his teeth. But I think it's ok to bring those things up to your spouse. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-353175 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 22:32:22 +0000 cranberryapple 353175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing I'm dissatisfied about is his belly flab! He definitely let himself go in that department, but I guess I'm more annoyed with how he got the belly in the first place, and that was due to lack of self-control when it came to eating sweets and junk food! Grrrrr! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352297 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 00:36:52 +0000 Grace 352297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'd be worried if he started to gain a lot of weight, but that would be because I'd be concerned for his health, not because he'd be less attractive to me. He has to dress up for work, so if he wants to dress stubby on the weekend, it doesn't bother me. But bad breath is a no-no in our house. There's no kissing with morning breath (for either of us). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352240 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 23:14:38 +0000 sarac 352240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetMamaM: Yeah, sickness is never pretty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352154 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 21:15:47 +0000 alayaya 352154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sugar.Biscuit: My hubby has gained some weight too, since he hurt his knee playing rugby. I still think he is very handsome, but I don't find the extra weight attractive. So I know exactly what you mean.</p> <p>Personally it doesn't bother me. Sure it would be nice if he put a bit more effort into his looks, but I can be lazy in that area too so I shouldn't judge. I do dress nicer than he does most days... His hair always looks better than mine though, so I guess we're tied. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352153 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 21:15:34 +0000 Mrs. Pen 352153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@caffeinated: totally agree. Not to say I don't have (many) days of sweatpants and tees. Like right now (just got home from working out). I don't care if he wants to lounge around either... but neither of us is going to spend the whole day with bad breath and crazy hair lol</p> <p>Also, I should say I am by no means skinny!! I have a hard time keeping my weight in check but I want to be respectful of my husband and I wish him to be for me. However, like some pp's said, my husband is totally great about the days that I do just look blah and always tells me I'm beautiful no matter what :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352141 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 21:07:49 +0000 autumnlove 352141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want my husband to be fit but I think I would be attracted to him if he gained weight, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352137 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 21:02:53 +0000 Freckles 352137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I don't think it's shallow. I think couples are happiest when there are no significant changes after you get married. DH and i both care about leading healthy and active lifestyles, so i don't foresee either one of us gaining too much weight. But we dress like bums at home...i still find him attractive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352094 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 20:21:04 +0000 pinkcupcake 352094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DigAPony: agreed. </p> <p>We're both total homebodies and we love to hang out all day in sweats. As long as his hygeine is good (which it is!), I don't mind if he hangs out in his PJs or skips a shower one day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352087 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 20:15:30 +0000 SweetMamaM 352087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: lol it's probably not the jammies that are unattractive, it's the red nose, wet sneezes and croaky voice. In sickness and in health though right? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352081 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 20:11:53 +0000 sarac 352081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetMamaM: I think jammies are hot, honestly, and I love it when my husband walks around in his underwear. It's the not showering on work-at-home days that bugs me. I am a daily shower person, and I kind of think everyone should be too. Or everyone who's hair gets greasy after a day, which is everyone in my house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352077 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 20:07:59 +0000 sarac 352077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, it's kind of hard. I take a lot of pride in my appearance and how I dress and such, and my husband just . . . doesn't. He dresses well because I buy him flattering and stylish clothing, but he could totally care less. He's really handsome and fit too. He appreciates the way I dress, but honestly he barely notices it. As I've grown into my self and found my sense of style and confidence, I've really started to enjoy fashion and clothing and my looks. I think it's a fun way to express yourself, and I wish he'd see it a bit more. </p> <p>I guess I'm glad that images isn't important to him (AT ALL) because I'm overweight and used to be really overweight. But now that I really make an effort, it would be nice if he noticed a little more, or made a little more effort once in a while. I really appreciate that substance is what matters to him, and deep down it's the most important thing to me too. But style is fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352072 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 20:05:10 +0000 DillonLion 352072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DigAPony: ditto </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352070 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 20:03:58 +0000 DigAPony 352070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be pissed if my husband got mad at me for wearing grubby clothes around the house or having morning breath/bed head. If I can't relax in my own home, that's a deal breaker for me--so I would never get upset if he did the same things. If it were a case of chronic bad hygiene, then yes, I would be concerned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352061 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 19:57:49 +0000 DillonLion 352061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not super important to me. As long as basic hygiene is covered I'm happy. Is rather he do what makes him comfortable over striving to keep his personal appearance perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-352032 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 19:43:49 +0000 blackbird 352032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. It is to both of us. There's a difference between being sick or having a rough couple of months and just letting yourself go to hell in a handbasket because you can. It's also about sense of pride </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-351946 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 18:13:18 +0000 SweetMamaM 351946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I agree. I mean, right now I'm sitting on the couch still in my pajamas (it's afternoon here) all bunged up with a head cold - I know I don't look too attractive but he still loves me lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-351928 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 17:59:00 +0000 Mrs. Pen 351928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetMamaM: oh obviously!! haha I would never even consider leaving my husband if he let himself go lol it's not a deal-breaker. But a courtesy to show the other that you still care and put effort into presenting your best selves for each other :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-351921 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 17:54:45 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 351921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um... Well we have both let ourselves go. HS suffers from chronic pain and isn't able to do much of anything without hurting so naturally he has gained weight, I have gained sympathy weight. I have A LOT of sympathy for him lol. I don't find his belly attractive but I find him attractive (if that makes any sense). </p> <p>The pop thing @rainbow sprinkles my husband can drink a 12 pack in a day! He doesnt drink alcohol anymore so when we are with friends an family he will drink it like he would have if it was a beer! I REALLY don't care for it but he thinks I'm being critical of him &amp; fights back about it. Someday maybe he will change, in the mean time I just let him do his thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-351905 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 17:38:42 +0000 Ree723 351905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and no - DH and I are both into living healthy lifestyles and keeping fit, so if he started living a super unhealthy lifestyle, I'd be concerned - but more from a health aspect than an aesthetic one.</p> <p>As for keeping groomed - nope, don't care. When we're home, we're in happy pants 95% of the time (pj pants for him, yoga pants for me) and it doesn't bother me at all. We're pretty low maintenance though.</p> <p>That being said, if DH was walking around the house with BO and morning breath all day, I'd withhold all affections....which would get him running to the shower quite quick! lol</p> <p>I will always find DH incredibly attractive, but if he let himself go health-wise or with personal hygiene, that's a different matter and one that could be addressed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-351902 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 17:35:11 +0000 SweetMamaM 351902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm on the fence about this one, I try to maintain myself as well (if not better) than I did before our marriage so I'd like to think he would extend me the same courtesy... But it isn't a deal breaker. On the whole, kind of important? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-351901 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 17:34:59 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 351901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep it is important to me. We had this conversation last night because I told him he was drinking too much pop (we currently have diet coke in the house and I see it as a "treat" to have on hand cuz I like to drink it once a week or every other week). He was having like two a day! I told him that he can't stop being health conscious just because he is married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-important-to-you-that-your-so-keep-himself-attractive#post-351866 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 16:57:08 +0000 chopsuey 351866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! He does a good job staying fit and sexy without me having to say anything ;) </p>