https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 22:31:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260648 Tue, 11 Aug 2015 09:39:41 +0000 JoJoGirl 2260648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bluebonnet: Awesome, this is helpful. Our sitter is really in over her head so you could be right. Although she is the most soft-spoken, non-emotive person I have ever met in my life so even if she's freaking out, LO probably wouldn't pick up on it :) I'm feeling more encouraged she hasn't had an accident since pee-hour yesterday so we'll see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260618 Tue, 11 Aug 2015 09:08:34 +0000 Bluebonnet 2260618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: We did OCPT about a year ago. I noticed that LO responded better to my Mom than my Dad. My Mom was great about properly prompting (lets put on our shoes, sit on the potty, then go to the park). My Dad would freak out the second LO was showing her tells and LO would flat out refuse to go to the potty for him (and things would escelate into a power struggle if DH, my Mom, or I didn't quickly intervene). </p> <p>I think that how your sitter is acting could be impacting how LO is responding. If your sitter is really stressed out about the whole thing, then LO could be picking up on it. The book talks about getting to a point where you do not care if LO pees on themself or the floor. If your sitter seems extra focused on the potty or doesn't react well when LO has an accident, then LO could be reacting to that. Hang in there this week and coach the sitter as much as possible on how to effectively prompt LO and what to do if there is an accident. Then refocus this weekend/next week. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260534 Tue, 11 Aug 2015 07:06:48 +0000 JoJoGirl 2260534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, basically we remind her where the toilet is - if she hasn't been in a while we'll say 'let's go pee' and if she says no, we back off. </p> <p>The rest of the day was fine yesterday - pooped in the potty a 3rd time and no more pee accidents, even playing outside for almost an hour. Hoping today will be smooth too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260382 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 21:25:42 +0000 blackbird 2260382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: same for us! Reminding E too often totally pissed her off more and made her refuse to sit for us. I guess toddlers don't like to be nagged ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260223 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 19:00:51 +0000 Kemma 2260223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: interestingly enough, I read somewhere that over-prompting / reminding is major factor in toilet refusal / regression. Life got much easier for us when we backed off on the reminding and just let Miss A do her thing (although I do still remind her before we leave the house, before dinner etc), and she now takes herself off to the toilet on a pretty reliable basis. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260189 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 18:24:49 +0000 blackbird 2260189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: well, a lot of the first and second blocks involves some prompting, whether you point out the toilet and let it be, or you take them to the toilet and have them sit and attempt to go, particularly after sitting for a long time or the other easy catches. She was against over prompting, which is often met with resistance. The whole "come, it's time to pee" thing, etc </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260182 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 18:11:23 +0000 HabesBabe 2260182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: When we read it, I thought that she said to not prompt, and that it's more of an impact (not sure if that's the right word) if they have accidents. I do remember that phase one can last awhile, but the "set the timer for 30 mins" wasn't one of the approaches. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260144 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 17:16:24 +0000 blackbird 2260144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: the author states that it takes about 3 weeks for children to realize they need to go before they do </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260139 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 17:13:05 +0000 Corduroy 2260139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: Re: 4x in 30 minutes, my LO has multiple accidents in a short period until we can get her to calm down, sit on the potty, and actually mindfully go. It's like she just lets out a little bit with each accident. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260097 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 15:57:52 +0000 HabesBabe 2260097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I thought with Oh Crap, Potty Training-- you don't prompt and set a timer? Stage 1 or whatever is bottomless, and they need to tell you when they need to go. That's what worked for us when we started to potty train. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260057 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 15:28:17 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2260057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Kemma:<br /> How old is your lo? It sounds like she's using the bathroom more when given the opportunity but not necessarily recognizing when she has to go and then going? Also will daycare help if you just hold off a month or aren't done yet? It could help with a little consistency rather than different sitters and vacation.<br /> I know it's frustrating but it will happen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260032 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 14:33:30 +0000 JoJoGirl 2260032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: We just trained her a week ago, so she's still in the phase of learning, not in the already-established phase, if that makes sense. She went about 90 mins yesterday without an accident (peed before playground, played, peed after playground) so the time is getting extended but we really just started. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260029 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 14:30:57 +0000 Kemma 2260029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This might be an unpopular opinion, but if you're having to remind LO to go to the toilet every thirty minutes then the notion of going to the toilet probably isn't that well established (says the lady who's daughter is finally getting it after nine months!).</p> <p>In my experience, having good days and bad days are pretty normal until they've really got the hang of it and can recognise their own cues without being reminded. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260017 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 14:07:45 +0000 JoJoGirl 2260017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: Ugh I assume so - I told her to set a timer on her phone!!! Let's see how the afternoon goes... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2260002 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 13:41:18 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2260002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I know! That's why I'm just nervous about starting this in general. As for the sitter - she didn't put a diaper on for nap, so maybe she's forgetting to put her on the potty every half hour and your LO isn't recognizing that she has to tell her that she has to go? I'm so sorry...so frustrating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259952 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 13:01:02 +0000 Smurfette 2259952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: R is dry after nap 50% of the time. But I will keep her in a diaper for a while to be safe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259949 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 12:59:06 +0000 JoJoGirl 2259949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Yes - diapers for naps are okay. Although this new sitter came over for a trial run on Saturday and FORGOT TO PUT HER DIAPER ON FOR NAP #(*$&amp;(#$*%&amp;. Postscript: LO miraculously woke up dry after a 2-hour nap. Go figure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259944 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 12:57:59 +0000 Smurfette 2259944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I know, I know! I already told her teachers we are doing boot camp over Labor Day weekend and we will be sending her without them. Well maybe for naps, I haven't got to that part in the book yet. I am starting chapter 3 tonight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259941 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 12:56:31 +0000 JoJoGirl 2259941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: Yikes! That would not work with my LO - saying goodbye again every 30 mins would be worse than just having her make a mess all over the floor! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259938 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 12:55:50 +0000 JoJoGirl 2259938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: You gotta get her out of those pull ups!!! They're not better than diapers. Read read read :)</p> <p>@birdofafeather: NOoooooo. The worst!</p> <p>So update - I just talked to the sitter since LO is napping. She apparently peed *4* times in the course of an hour (3 of which were accidents) which is really strange. Then she pooped in the potty for the second time today (!) so maybe all is not lost. Sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259936 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 12:54:38 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2259936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hoping you're able to get back on track tomorrow! I'm afraid of this when we potty train. My FIL won't change a diaper, so when he watches LO, I have to be the one to come down from WFH and change his diaper. So if I want him to go on the potty every 30 minutes, I have to be the one to go downstairs and take him, and that doesn't always work well with working from home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259931 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 12:51:39 +0000 birdofafeather 2259931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: Yeah, I've had to die to self like a hundred times on this journey or it would be the end of me. As I have said time and again, just keep chugging. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259930 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 12:51:22 +0000 Smurfette 2259930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I am glad that it well, until today anyway. Hopefully it is just the newness of the babysitter and you can get back on track tomorrow! I started the book last night. Perfect timing since she wouldn't go for us all weekend. But would say Mommy, I peed in my pull up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259914 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 12:38:44 +0000 JoJoGirl 2259914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mauxie: Yeah. Luckily she's only with the sitter til Friday, then we are on vacation all next week and will be with her all day every day for 10 days. Then another sitter, then back to school. Hopefully this week won't screw everything up! </p> <p>@birdofafeather: Ughhhh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259912 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 12:36:02 +0000 birdofafeather 2259912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's totally probable not just possible but I'm jaded because we have been dealing with potty training for 9 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259908 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 12:33:53 +0000 mauxie 2259908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe your LO feels as though she doesn't have to "please" the sitter with potty success. Perhaps a diff type of reward system just for the sitter? If she's going to be with this sitter for the rest of August, I'd want to try and save as much of the PT'ing success now or you may just have to re-train her when daycare starts up again. But, I think kids tend to do better with it at daycare if they see other kids going. Peer pressure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259848 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 11:53:08 +0000 JoJoGirl 2259848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mauxie: Yes - we are. Prompting every 30 minutes and reinforcing it's not okay to have accidents. We're working on it with the sitter but it's hard when I'm at work and she's home :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259846 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 11:52:14 +0000 mauxie 2259846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if she is newly trained and the babysitter is not on top of it, it's totally possible to regress :(</p> <p>Post bootcamp, have you been maintaining the PT'ing in a particular way that you could convey to the sitter? Remind LO to tell you when she needs to go constantly, or go at intervals? Rewards? I would try to get the sitter more involved in whatever capacity she can.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-for-a-new-babysitter-to-totally-un-do-potty-training#post-2259842 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 11:49:00 +0000 JoJoGirl 2259842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did the OCPT weekend bootcamp last weekend and LO has done great since then. She didn't have any accidents at all this past weekend (no poop on Saturday, two in the potty on Sunday, all pees in the potty). We were feeling really encouraged.</p> <p>Our daycare is closed in August and unfortunate timing meant LO is home with a relatively inexperienced babysitter this whole week. She did great this morning then peed her pants on the way home from the playground, was upset, and changed. The babysitter said she has peed in her pants twice more since then and "didn't seem to notice". UGH. </p> <p>Is it possible for her to just completely regress in one day because of a maybe not-attentive-enough caregiver?!</p> <p>ETA: I already reminded the sitter she needs to SET A TIMER and prompt every 30 mins but I'm worried LO has just lost it. </p>