https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 18:52:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong/page/2#post-1309410 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 08:12:06 +0000 babycanuck 1309410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Snowdrop: Good to know! Thanks! I will have to look for it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong/page/2#post-1309337 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 06:24:26 +0000 Snowdrop 1309337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: oh forgot to say it's an old herb so has lots of names including agnus castus and chaste berry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong/page/2#post-1309336 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 06:19:48 +0000 Snowdrop 1309336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: it is an herb which works on your pituitary gland. It syppresses prolactin which in turn produces stronger O and higher progesterone. It's widely available but i got the tincture as its meant to be better absorbed. There is a chance of course that it won't work but I know enough about my cycles and hormone levels to know that just leaving it to nature is going to be pretty fruitless so im will to take the risk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong/page/2#post-1308904 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 20:52:41 +0000 babycanuck 1308904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Snowdrop: What's vitex?? is it something I can get without a prescription? </p> <p>I'm so frustrated with this whole thing I'm actually considering going back on BCP and not bothering anymore </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1308471 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 16:55:27 +0000 Snowdrop 1308471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: I've started with b6 and will be doing vitex too CD1-O after I get AF. I have a LPD too because of elevated prolactin. Maybe we could try it together? I should be due on tomorrow and feel no cramping what so ever so I'm hoping the b6 might be starting to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1308290 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 14:49:18 +0000 babycanuck 1308290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septca: As long as I can remember I've had dark CM/spotting for a couple of days before AF, and with the exception of the first two years I got my period, I've always (random 2 months in the last 3 years excepted) had a 28 day cycle. I've been off BCP for two years now. My doc has tested me for her stuff, she won't send me to an RE until DH goes, but I keep seeing on here B6 helps with LP so maybe I'll do that next month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1307495 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 10:28:44 +0000 septca 1307495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On the contrary, I think you are actually doing everything *right.* The low stress level is really key in my experience - easier said than done, I know. Rather than starting a hardcore exercise program, I would concentrate on getting in a yoga class 1-2x/week. That REALLY helps me - it's great for your body and mind.</p> <p>Also, not sure your husband would go for this at all, but one supplement I believe in is royal jelly. It's great for men, too, and really easy to take (just a spoonful a day). If you think there is any chance your husband would go for that (my DH and I did it together), I don't see any harm in trying it.</p> <p>ETA: I went and looked at your charts. The only things that seem at all off to me are your short LPs and spotting before you get AF. Both of those things can be symptoms of something - usually a hormone imbalance. I know you said your husband is anti-SA, but how does he feel about you getting some testing done? If I were you - with your charts - I would ask about getting CD3/21 testing to start. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1307444 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 10:11:32 +0000 pui 1307444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you are doing anything wrong at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1305499 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 06:38:05 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1305499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The other book that's good in the e reader (and free I think) is the sperm meets egg plan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1305495 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 05:58:46 +0000 Honeydew 1305495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck Don't put that added stress on yourself by thinking you are doing anything wrong ttc. I do hope your dh can be a true partner and go to see if it may be a male factor.</p> <p>We ttc for 12months w no bfp and went to an re. Dh was prescribed clomid to help up his testosterone. At 23 months of ttc we were about to embark on the Ivf path, and turned out we got a bfp on our own. That cycle I gave up caffeine, but other than that we kind of gave up ttc because of our plan to start the Ivf process. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1305411 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 00:37:34 +0000 googly-eyes 1305411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm no expert but I don't think you are doing anything wrong. Sorry you are having to wait so long. Hopefully your dh can get on board for testing. I don't get why the doctors require that. I mean I do but I don't. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1305387 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 23:45:33 +0000 SweetMamaM 1305387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A couple of things that seemed to help us were cutting back caffeine, visiting a Chiro (me) and eating less convenience food. I'm not saying any of that will get you pregnant, but it might be some other options to feel like you are doing something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304856 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 17:08:06 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1304856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know what you mean, I feel like I'm doing something to prevent us from getting KU. I mean, it is my fault because I don't seem to be ovulating, but still! I need to work out. Let's do it together! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304843 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 16:57:56 +0000 babycanuck 1304843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Someone: I'm almost into the TWW and after this cycle we are going to discuss the SA testing. Hopefully he's more open minded this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304838 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 16:54:16 +0000 Crystal 1304838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: me too, friend, me too. Hugs to us both. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304837 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 16:53:42 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1304837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was borderline overweight and lost about 20 lbs with exercise and portion control...I then got pregnant on my 3rd cycle trying (6th month, for various reasons). It helped to have something to focus on during those months besides the wait for ovulation, madly having sex for many days, and the the dreaded wait. Whether or not losing weight actually had a positive effect on my fertility I'll never know, but it certainly had a positive effect on my mindset.<br /> Best best best of luck xx </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304832 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 16:46:13 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1304832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I realized that my earlier response wasn't very sensitive (I wrote it too quickly, sorry!) My point is, that we can do all the right things, or all the wrong things and it may not make any difference unfortunately. </p> <p>Whats your DH's latest on getting tested? Does he realize that he's the road block here? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304767 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 16:13:17 +0000 babycanuck 1304767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: Not very helpful for me, although I tend to be a pessimist to begin with. I do think it's realistic on what are good things to do to help in the beginning stages. I don't know. I think I'm just feeling lost including my rose coloured glasses. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304762 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 16:11:52 +0000 Crystal 1304762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: I rarely wake up at the same time, so I'm not sure how effective temping will be for me.</p> <p>Did you find What to Expect helpful?</p> <p>Some of the resources makes getting pregnant seem so easy, it's kind of depressing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304759 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 16:06:23 +0000 babycanuck 1304759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: I have it on my e-reader and I read a little bit, but I haven't read the whole thing. Maybe I should keep myself busy with that. I also read the beginning parts of What to Expect but stopped after "so you got a BFP". I saw people on here using FF and that's when I started to do it. I have stopped at different points in time out of frustration but started temping again this month. Most of the time i used it to track how long i had my period for and how often we DTD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304758 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 16:03:58 +0000 Crystal 1304758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: I am just starting to get into tracking and temping, so I'm unsure how to read that, sorry. </p> <p>I also just ordered some wondfos too- here's hoping for baby dust for us!</p> <p>Did you read tcyof? How did you get started with the tracking and tempings? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304756 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 16:02:43 +0000 Snowdrop 1304756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: urgh men! Seriously I wish I could just chill out and play on my xbox till we get a bfp! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304749 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 15:59:19 +0000 babycanuck 1304749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Snowdrop: Done that and tried. :( Let's see how things go after this cycle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304748 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 15:58:28 +0000 Snowdrop 1304748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: I know you've probably already tried this but could you get him to o for a SA by saying 'I know there won't be anything wrong with you but the doctors won't start dealing with any issues I have before they have your results and I'm getting really upset and stressed out about it, I think starting treatment will help me relax in the knowledge that we are going somewhere' my DH is a man's man and he doesn't understand the worry either he says, if it takes 3 years that's just 3 more years we have to enjoy just the two of us... With I had that attitude! Thinking about you </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304744 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 15:53:09 +0000 babycanuck 1304744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: I am temping, although it's totally out of whack this month.</p> <p>I ordered some more wondfos for my next cycle</p> <p><a href="http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/babycanuck" rel="nofollow">http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/babycanuck</a><br /> Hopefully it shows on there, been wacky </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304740 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 15:49:52 +0000 Crystal 1304740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: mine is the same way. I don't think they realize how devastating it is to get your period month after month. </p> <p>He assumes that since it takes other couples a long time then we are still in the normal range and nothing is wrong, we just need to keep trying. It's so frustrating. </p> <p>Are you charting or temping or anything? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304713 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 15:21:26 +0000 HolisticMama 1304713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also- I weigh over 200 pounds and my reproductive endocrinologist didn't mention a single thing about my weight, which I thought was surprising. So don't let your weight weigh you down. Ha. Bad pun. Sorry. Did it make you smile?</p> <p> :silly: </p> <p>I was thinking of training to walk a half marathon this year not for health so much as to get my mind off of baby making. You could look into some healthy outlets, as well. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304709 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 15:19:24 +0000 HolisticMama 1304709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:: hugs ::<br /> Oh, @babycanuck, I'm so sorry that you are struggling! I think everyone struggling TTC wonders this same question. You aren't alone in your doubts. </p> <p>There are lots of things you can do- seed cycling, luna conception, yoga fertility, castor oil packs, essential oils, herbs, prayer, sleeping with a kokopelli under your pillow....but it's possible that none of those things would help, especially if it's potentially a sperm problem. </p> <p>Although you can certainly focus on other aspects of your health- it would definitely benefit your wellness in some regards, but might not produce the results you are looking for. </p> <p>It sounds like answers are right around the corner! This cycle is so exciting...either a BFP or starting down a different path of clarity. Exciting stuff! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304701 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 15:08:35 +0000 babycanuck 1304701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: He knows I'm frustrated with the whole process. He is much more relaxed about it all. I think talking to friends he realizes we're not the only ones that its taking a while for, but that doesn't help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-possible-that-im-doing-something-wrong#post-1304699 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 15:04:46 +0000 Crystal 1304699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: I think all we can do is focus on our personal health. (At least that's what I'm telling myself.) </p> <p>It can't hurt to try to eat cleaner and get in better shape! And you have some really great goals above. </p> <p>However, there's only so much you can do on your own before one of both of you need to explore it with a doctor. Does hubs know how you feel about it? </p>