https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 17:13:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-weird-to-bring-a-gift-to-an-i-canceled-my-wedding-bbq#post-2730598 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 11:29:11 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2730598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is a really sweet idea. I couldn't imagine how hard it would be to call off a wedding so close- you feel so much pressure. Hope she's doing okay. She sounds like she has a good support system, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-weird-to-bring-a-gift-to-an-i-canceled-my-wedding-bbq#post-2730575 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 06:13:13 +0000 honeybear 2730575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you take her out to dinner? Or do something else with her as a group/one-on-one? I feel like this might be a situation where, if I were in her shoes, I'd like to have company and do something diverting. A spa is nice, just kind of solitary, and maybe that feeling isn't one she would want to dwell on. But it really depends on her personality. I'm guessing she's okay with hanging out with a group of close friends and family, since she's hosting the party anyhow. I'd try to get a feel for where she's at and let that help you decide. </p> <p>I agree that an experience gift is the way to go, maybe even a bunch of little ones (bagels and coffee on a Saturday morning, a walk at the park, a movie, etc.). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-weird-to-bring-a-gift-to-an-i-canceled-my-wedding-bbq#post-2730568 Sun, 30 Apr 2017 05:38:45 +0000 winniebee 2730568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Super sweet idea. Spa, food, or wine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-weird-to-bring-a-gift-to-an-i-canceled-my-wedding-bbq#post-2730561 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 22:55:37 +0000 PawPrints 2730561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's thoughtful, and I also was going to suggest a spa/massage gift cert. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-weird-to-bring-a-gift-to-an-i-canceled-my-wedding-bbq#post-2730557 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 22:11:55 +0000 psw27 2730557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's really sweet of you, not weird at all. This is obviously a stressful situation so I agree with @cole 's suggestion! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-weird-to-bring-a-gift-to-an-i-canceled-my-wedding-bbq#post-2730552 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 21:25:25 +0000 PinkElephant 2730552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a spa/self care gift of some sort sounds like a great idea. If she's staying with her parents for now rather than moving out on her own with her new partner, she might not want to hold onto the sort of household gifts you'd typically get at a bridal shower/wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-weird-to-bring-a-gift-to-an-i-canceled-my-wedding-bbq#post-2730549 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 21:07:10 +0000 Coral 2730549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: Love this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-weird-to-bring-a-gift-to-an-i-canceled-my-wedding-bbq#post-2730548 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 21:02:58 +0000 nana87 2730548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: such a good idea! I was thinking a physical gift might be awkward if she doesn't want a material sort of reminder of the wedding being called off or sees it as a kind of consolation/pity gift. But something like a spa day is a good self-care idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-weird-to-bring-a-gift-to-an-i-canceled-my-wedding-bbq#post-2730547 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 20:53:34 +0000 bloved 2730547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love @Cole: suggestion! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-weird-to-bring-a-gift-to-an-i-canceled-my-wedding-bbq#post-2730546 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 20:47:38 +0000 Cole 2730546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vote you go for it! What about a gift certificate for a spa? Calling off your wedding takes guts and it must have been a really heart wrenching decision and a spa day is probably in order! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-it-weird-to-bring-a-gift-to-an-i-canceled-my-wedding-bbq#post-2730545 Sat, 29 Apr 2017 20:45:03 +0000 Coral 2730545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A little back story: my sweet cousin was going to get married this coming weekend but ended up calling off her wedding last week. Since her wedding was so soon, she was unable to cancel some of the vendors and has decided to host a BBQ instead. She just returned the shower gift to me and, since it was a group gift, we were thinking of using that money to buy her some things...is that weird? (I won't make a show of it and will probably just slip it into her room or ask my aunt and uncle to give it to her sometime. )</p> <p>If you don't think it's weird, I could use some suggestions! She's decided to continue her education as a nurse, is very religious, and is a horse trainer. </p>