https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 16:32:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348949 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:34:09 +0000 Bookish 1348949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. We lived together for a year and had already combined our finances. Pre vs Post-baby though? YES. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348908 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:26:36 +0000 Anagram 1348908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married life isn't too different from dating life for me. And we didn't even live together first...but our first year together wasn't much of an adjustment---no fights or anything.</p> <p>But life after having a baby----VERY different. We're both just so tired all the time and there's always SO MUCH to do. I'm lucky to have a husband that is 100% into parenting so I never feel like I'm doing it alone, but still. Just...Exhausting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348902 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:24:57 +0000 irene 1348902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't classify it as "married life" and "unmarried life"... because it is more of a long process/transition. The day you get married it won't be a huge difference, but it will be a pretty big difference from the day you first moved in together (unmarried) to 10 years after you are married..... life insurance, health insurance, joint taxes filing as married....etc. Just a lot more chores and detail. Or at least that's the case for me :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348901 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:24:49 +0000 illumina 1348901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nothing! We lived together beforehand, so nothing changed. When people say the first year of marriage is the hardest, I take that to mean the first year of living together. Boy was that an adjustment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348895 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:23:53 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1348895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Moving in together and adjusting to that was more difficult than adjusting to marriage.</p> <p>But, having a family is another difficult transition! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348890 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:23:07 +0000 MrsH 1348890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is for us because we didn't live in the same city while we were dating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348887 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:22:55 +0000 doodlepoodle 1348887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really, we lived together pre-marriage so that hasn't changed. Pre-kids is a LOT different though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348884 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:22:40 +0000 yellowbird 1348884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! We didn't live together before we were married and now we have a LO too, so everything is way different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348883 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:22:14 +0000 MrsKoala 1348883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since we lived together before marriage, nothing has really changed. I suspect that it will be different when baby comes next month but I feel like we've done our best to set our expectations of how things will change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348882 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:22:09 +0000 septca 1348882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think so. MY DH and I really struggled with the decision to get married. We were together for a long time and had made some major life investments together (i.e., buying a house) before we made it legal. But, in the end, I think we both agree that being married is somehow different. There is something to be said for knowing that you are *really* in it together, for better or for worse. Divorce isn't really something we believe in, especially after having kids, so I think marriage made us simultaneously better communicators (and more honest with each other) and better fighters (it's more important now that we "fight fair"). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348881 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:22:09 +0000 Greentea 1348881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married life is way different for me! Like night and day. Much much better... but like @mrbee: maybe I am thinking of life now with baby... was there life before? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348880 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:21:10 +0000 snowjewelz 1348880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Day to day is very different for us since we did not live together while dating or being engaged. So married life is different in a really good way! We weren't long distance while dating, but did not live that close to each other and we have very different work schedules so I love it so much more that at least we wake up &amp; go to bed in the same bed :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348879 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:20:55 +0000 looch 1348879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When it was my husband and I, no, it wasn't different. We did the same things as before, mostly going out for dinner, travel, etc. The biggest thing though, is that we were long distance and not living together, so that changed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348875 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:20:02 +0000 Mamaof2 1348875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married life I think is pretty much the same as non married although I think Married life pre kids and married life after kids is a lot different! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348874 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:19:38 +0000 babycanuck 1348874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say yes - no more trying to get out of family events I don't want to go to LOL but besides that and the habits of living together it's the same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348873 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:19:25 +0000 pui 1348873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Day to day, so far, not really. I'd say the biggest difference is the way people perceive us and our relationship. People just don't take your relationship as seriously when you introduce a girl/boyfriend rather than your wife/husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-married-life-much-different-from-non-married-life#post-1348867 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:17:09 +0000 mrbee 1348867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At first I didn't think so, but over time I think that you just get busier with family... and the things that came naturally at first, become things that you have to schedule and make time for. Although technically, maybe that's more me comparing life with a family versus life pre-family.</p> <p>How about for you: is married life much different from non-married life? </p>