https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 10:00:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1030200 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 20:32:59 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 1030200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: Hugs. I know ... it's disturbing to watch and oh man my ILs saw him do it once and flipped out and were all "WHY do you let him do that???" I was like, "LET him??? If I could stop him, I would!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1030185 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 20:25:18 +0000 creativemomma15 1030185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: my DH has had success with redirecting by playing chase... Although tonight he kept going back to what he wanted so it was a long night of chase for them. I will have to come up with some exciting redirection ideas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1030183 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 20:23:43 +0000 creativemomma15 1030183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skibobrown: I was just thinking this afternoon about how frustrating it would be to not be able to communicate what you wanted. I am hoping that we can stay patient and help him get over the head banging, I can deal with the tantrums and such but the self destructive stuff is hard. It's just hard to not give in because DS is stubborn and doesn't switch gears very quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1030179 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 20:20:53 +0000 creativemomma15 1030179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: thanks for your experience... I will try to prepare for more bruises... I thought the clingyness was normal but it's hard to keep telling yourself that when everyone questions you! The combo of the head banging and extreme clingyness is what worried me when people kept asking. It just makes you feel like something's wrong or you are screwing up. No one around me seems to have any experience with the head banging so they are quicker to show concern. Ugh, I hope he learns to talk more soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029912 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 17:51:35 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 1029912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were there as recently as a few months ago. LO is turning 26 months and it seems like now that he's getting better at expressing himself, he can make it known that he's frustrated in "healthier" ways. So I would be prepared for it to continue for awhile, but I bet it will taper off eventually. He still occasionally smacks his head with his hand. Meh. As far as the clinginess, that also sounds totally normal! That is also getting better for us, but it's still rare for LO to play independently for more than 5, maybe 10 mins. And yeah, he'll often try to drag me where he wants me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029892 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 17:39:10 +0000 Kimberlybee 1029892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My niece use to do that head-bang drama but one time when she was 18 months or so, she banged her head pretty hard and nobody was able to catch her in time, it scared her badly, she stopped immediately. She never did it again after that. Hopefully, your son just grows out of it like my niece did. She's now a bright, highly verbal, and calm 5 year old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029795 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 16:33:16 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1029795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is the best resource I've found so far.<br /> <a href="http://www.parenting.com/article/head-banging" rel="nofollow">http://www.parenting.com/article/head-banging</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029786 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 16:27:56 +0000 skibobrown 1029786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no advice other than to say that toddlers all seem to do some pretty crazy things. I've heard this age is the "peak frustration" time b/c they have so many wants and needs but don't know how to verbalize them. They channel their energy into all kinds of crazy stuff. My daughter at 16 months is turning into a shrieker. It's not self-destructive, but still quite disconcerting. I would ask your pediatrician in case this could be a sign of something worse, but it's probably something you'll just have to wait out and deal with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029776 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 16:23:26 +0000 pelikila 1029776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go ahead and check in with my pediatrician with regard to the head banging. Even if your pedi says it is totally normal behavior, at least you'd have an answer for people that question you and you would get some peace of mind. I would suggest calling and explaining to the nurse and let them guide you to whether waiting until your 18 month appointment is recommended or going in a bit earlier. </p> <p>As far as the wanting you to stay close, that is still an issue sometimes with C at 2.5 years. He isn't constant with it but some of that is due to daycare exposure and needing to be a little more self sufficient than if I were with him all day. I think that your LO is likely to out grow over time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029764 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 16:16:08 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 1029764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: Oh honey, I'm not offended at all. That's why I shared :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029695 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 15:40:24 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1029695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: I think I would go ahead and schedule a visit now, just in case it continues to get worse and he really hurts himself. :-( It's kind of alarming, but it might just be a phase. I hope you get some better answers really soon. </p> <p>Oh - have you tried making sure he's getting LOTS of exercise outside? Maybe he just has too much energy and needs to expel it? Kind of reaching now... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029676 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 15:34:08 +0000 Lindsay05 1029676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: Yikes that sounds tough :( I know DD does throw some tantrums and throw herself on the floor but luckily no head banging. It's hard to just ignore them when they are physically hurting themself. Can you redirect with something? Like 'mommy has to go get the laundry, do you and your toy want to help mommy?' Trying to get them involved as much as possible? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029667 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 15:30:12 +0000 creativemomma15 1029667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NaturallyCathy: Please don't take this the wrong way, but I am glad to hear I am not the only one out there! It is so hard to no what to do and I think anyone who sees it judges him as having "problems" because he is hurting himself. Couldn't he just lay on the floor and cry? I just feel like I screwed up somewhere along the way</p> <p>@BabyBoecksMom: I haven't yet. He goes back to the Dr in one month for his 18 month appointment and he only kicked it into high gear with this after his 15 month appointment. It just doesn't seem to be getting any better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029655 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 15:26:16 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1029655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: I think I would give in if DD was hurting herself like that- that must be awful to watch. Have you talked to the pediatrician? How long has it been going on? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029652 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 15:26:06 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 1029652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I had advice for the head banging but we're in the same boat. Whenever he's upset for whatever reason, no matter how big or how small, he basically pitches a fit. He'll shriek, run away, and throw himself into/agains something. Tell him no in the hallway, he'll run to the living room, throw himself into the beanbag and just lay there. Or worse, hit the rug and bang his head a few times. Then'll he'll cry because he hurt himself. It's so frustrating! He's 18.5 months old and it just seems to be getting worse :( Here's hoping we can both find a solution because I feel like a crap mom too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029648 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 15:24:55 +0000 creativemomma15 1029648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: He is starting to talk... He has close to 10 words, some of them seem to come and go. Like he says uh-oh and correctly but might not say it for days at a time. </p> <p>ETA: We are trying to teach him come and help because I think those would be useful in these situations. </p> <p>@BabyBoecksMom: @T.H.O.U.: I think it's the combination of the two that can worry me. And it doesn't help that people close to us are asking if we should see if he needs help. In my head I can rationalize the behaviors, but I just didn't think it would be so much in a day! It's like he needs our full attention all day long, every minute, and if we aren't there the pulling starts and if you don't come right away the tantrum with head banging follows. I mean, how do you not give in when he is physically hurting himself like that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029632 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 15:21:07 +0000 deerylou 1029632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>May I ask if he's verbal? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029623 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 15:18:09 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1029623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure about the head banging thing - that might just be an outlet for him... almost a way to soothe himself? (Awful, yes, but I think it happens). As far as the pulling, that seems to be something that happens at this age. DD is 19 months and she won't pull, but she'll keep trying to get us to follow her into a room to watch her play. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029615 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 15:15:19 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1029615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dn't know about the head banging thing. But I know my toddler doesn't let me far out of her sight. I think thats just normal for her personality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-something-wrong-need-some-advicesupport#post-1029598 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 15:11:04 +0000 creativemomma15 1029598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off, I apologize that this may be long but I am at a loss for what to do and feel stuck. </p> <p>My son is 17 months old and has been stuck in this head banging phase and pull me everywhere... Whenever he gets upset about pretty much anything, he bangs his head on the floor/chair/wall/whatever is closest. Once he banged it on the bathroom rug, but it was too soft so he switched to the tile floor. He will move your hand if you try to protect him from hitting something hard/dangerous. This now happens when he wakes up from nap/nighttime and wants up. All in all it happens many times in a day and leaves me feeling terrible because I just can't stop it every time. </p> <p>Also, he insists on pulling me everywhere around the house. I can sit down for one minute and he will be right there pulling with all his strength to get me to go to wherever he wants to be. When we get there, it is usually just him wanting me to watch him and I can't get anything done or leave the area. </p> <p>I am exhausted. I feel like some of this is normal behavior but maybe more frequent or extreme. I don't want to sound like a crazy overreactive mom but I can't help but worry if there is something wrong I am missing. It doesn't help that different people have questioned me on it. I am just stuck and feel a little helpless. I barely get a break on my days at home because he only naps 45 minutes-1 hour all day so we are going going going all the time. I will say that I understand that he is trying to communicate his frustrations with the head banging, it just seems so severe sometimes. And I can understand that he wants the security of mom being close, but is it too much? I am expecting baby 2 in January and I can't help but think that this is going to be so hard when that time comes!</p> <p>Any tips for how I can help him? Do I need to seek help from someone else? Does anyone have any experience with this? </p>