https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 18:43:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-514271 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 20:07:15 +0000 BananaPancakes 514271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T-Mom: Ha. Control freaks unite! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-514191 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 19:15:13 +0000 Meridian 514191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! No LO yet, so things are still pretty even because we both do everything together most of the time: cooking, dishes, laundry. He vacuums more often than I do, but I do the straightening up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-514177 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 19:04:35 +0000 T-Mom 514177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bree72: I could have written this verbatim :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-514154 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 18:42:37 +0000 Crisark 514154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both work full time and I usually work the latest out of the both of us so he does a lot more homework and dinner and things like that before I even get home.<br /> He's extremely hands on. Especially on his days off. I'll come home to laundry going or done and the house picked up.<br /> I'd say it's mostly even but if it's not it's him doing more than me.<br /> I'm a tad spoiled but he knows I appreciate him more than words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-514149 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 18:37:16 +0000 BananaPancakes 514149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ummm, not really. I do most parenting and almost 100% of the housework, even though I work full time, too. He'll do anything I ask, but I have a terrible fear of sounding like a nag (seriously women who nag drive me insane) so a lot of it is my fault. He just doesn't seem to notice what needs to be done, and like I said, he'd do anything once I ask, but it's hard to let go of the "it's easier to do it myself" mentality. Nevermind the fact that I have always been super independent and a bit of a control freak. I really wish he would just see that the trash needs to get taken out or that bottles need to be washed. He tries, but he's just so much messier than I am. I would be much grumpier about this, but we have a maid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-514095 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 18:00:03 +0000 PrincessBaby 514095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband works offshore, and so most of the parenting falls on me! But I think we're more than even, bc he does really really well financially for our family and also when he's home, he would be fine with being the sole caretaker if I let him bc he doesnt get to see her for weeks at a time...</p> <p>And as far as household stuff goes, we have a maid service and when he's home, he pretty much does all cleaning/cooking... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-514042 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:23:53 +0000 lemondrop 514042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, most of the house stuff is mine, but most of the work is my husband's. I think it it's only fair since he supports us financially. He does take care of the chores that I hate though. </p> <p>As for parenting, it isn't 50/50 since I'm still nursing, but he does a great job with what he can do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-514037 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:22:19 +0000 Minnie_Girl 514037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh...lately, not so much. I have two pt jobs, am the primary caregiver for LO, and do the lion's share of the housework. I was fine with the arrangement before DD, but now I'm starting to feel overwhelmed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-514028 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:18:01 +0000 banana 514028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's totally divided fairly and I'm so glad that it is! My DH is a neat freak like me, which really really helps alot. He hates mess/clutter so he'll clean up cause it bothers him. The cooking isn't fairly divided though (100% me). But he does so much cleaning that I don't mind that much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-514013 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:09:23 +0000 yoursilverlining 514013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Parenting - yes.<br /> Household chores - No; my husband does way more than I do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-513967 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:49:55 +0000 Alivoo01 513967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. I do pretty much all the chores at home right now, but when the hubby gets into his cleaning mood, home boy can clean!!! He's also great about prepping/making dinner before I get home so that all we have to do is heat it up. I don't think this will change once LO is here, but I'm hoping he'll take on more "responsibilities" with the baby when s/he arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-513965 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:49:38 +0000 Freckles 513965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think so. He works, but when he gets home he watches LO while i cook, does dishes/cleans kitchen, gives her a bath, and takes out the garbage. On weekends, he will let me have one day to sleep in while he gives her breakfast and plays with her. He also will look after her while i go to spin or yoga class, do groceries, and make dinner on saturdays.</p> <p>I am still the one putting LO down for naps, but it is a routine i am afraid to break. Even though i do a bulk of the housework, he still contributes quite s bit, and gives me enough "me" time that i don't resent him or feel unappreciated. </p> <p>During his annual review, he gave me credit for everything i did with LO to allow him to accomplish what he did...because the chair commented on how he managed to be productive considering he had a new baby to look after! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-513932 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:37:38 +0000 boiledpnut 513932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. For example, today I told DH I needed to do this, this, and this. He is perfectly capable of doing all the things, but said he'd hold the baby while I did it all. Um, no. I don't think so. I guess he thinks that since it's his day off, he gets a free ride. Of course, I haven't had any sleep, so I might just be extra moody today too. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-513925 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:35:37 +0000 BoogieBea 513925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's pretty fair. I think we can both do more in terms of tidying up the house day to day though. We need to do some major organizing/decluttering. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-513921 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:34:30 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 513921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we've divided things fairly. We're both happy with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-513919 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:34:02 +0000 Bao 513919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, DH works 6 days a week and sometimes even 7, so I think it's fair I do most of the work. He actually washes/dries the laundry (it's on the lower level of our apartment building), and I fold it. He will do dishes sometimes and clean up the kitchen once in a while. I pay bills, vacuum, clean the toilet and bathroom...almost always. In addition to the dishes/kitchen when he is away. He helps with LO if she is having a rough night and waking up a lot (which is almost always!)...so long story short, yes things are pretty fair!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-513905 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:30:32 +0000 chopsuey 513905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think so. DH travels, but when he's home, he's home 24/7 and I put him to work! haha.<br /> He goes on outings with our DD, wakes for night feedings, helps clean and does chores. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-the-householdparentingother-work-divided-fairly-between-you-and-your-so#post-513893 Fri, 18 Jan 2013 16:24:55 +0000 mrbee 513893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you feel like the household and parenting work in your house is divided fairly? </p> <p>That doesn't necessarily mean that it's exactly evenly split... it just means that you both feel that it's fairly divided. What sayeth you? </p>