Hellobee Boards Topic: Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 03:24:28 +0000 gingerbebe on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166794 Mon, 04 May 2015 17:36:42 +0000 gingerbebe 2166794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hotchildinthecity: That may be, but if he has a helper living with him, it sounds like he has some kind of underlying issue. I would just play the "there is this crazy old man that is a danger to himself and others (i.e. me and my small child)" card. If that can be established through a history of police reports (and follow-up reporting to your condo board), it could help in getting court-ordered treatment or something of that nature. Additionally, I may (nicely) inform the landlord and/or condo board that you are considering seeking legal counsel for the situation to discuss your options because you feel that you and your (recently adopted and adjusting) child are in danger. It might put pressure on the parties to resolve the situation faster. hotchildinthecity on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166780 Mon, 04 May 2015 17:18:44 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2166780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @gingerbebe: he may have something else going on, but his main problem is the massive amount of vodka he consumes :shocked: gingerbebe on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166775 Mon, 04 May 2015 17:16:35 +0000 gingerbebe 2166775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It sounds like your neighbor has mental illness problems, or early onset dementia. I would keep calling the police and just say there's an elderly man acting strangely or that you want a welfare check done or mental health check done, etc. Keep calling, keep having the cops come out to check on him, and that will eventually build the case or flag him with the city so that they will try to deal with him or maybe take him in for an evaluation. hotchildinthecity on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166773 Mon, 04 May 2015 17:14:02 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2166773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hilsy85: that's actually a good idea. One of my friends is lawyer. I will chat with her :) hilsy85 on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166771 Mon, 04 May 2015 17:12:31 +0000 hilsy85 2166771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hotchildinthecity: oh totally...but maybe if you meet with a lawyer, he can help you write a threatening but vague letter you can give to the condo board/landlord and maybe that would scare them into taking more serious action? I don't know, I would just want to explore all my options!! I'm sorry you're in this situation :( hotchildinthecity on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166767 Mon, 04 May 2015 17:07:05 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2166767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hilsy85: I just do not think we could scrape together the cash to move right now...not to mention the change would be rough on J. hilsy85 on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166765 Mon, 04 May 2015 17:03:39 +0000 hilsy85 2166765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I agree with meeting with a lawyer and reviewing your lease/discussing the case. They would have the best idea of what, if anything, you can do. Modern Daisy on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166722 Mon, 04 May 2015 16:12:50 +0000 Modern Daisy 2166722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ This is def not the best option, but on the flip side you could intentionally try to get your landlord to want you to move. Not sure exactly how, but if she wants you gone she might give back the security deposit and let you break the lease! I had friends in your situation (renting condo from owner) and since they randomly decided they wanted to move back in, they started harassing my friends to move and even paid for part of the moving expenses! hotchildinthecity on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166601 Mon, 04 May 2015 14:44:13 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2166601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @bunnylove08: we're in contact with the building owner/manager. He is the one who put DH in contAct with the ADA. bunnylove08 on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166597 Mon, 04 May 2015 14:42:45 +0000 bunnylove08 2166597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hotchildinthecity: Did you try to contact the building management office. You can file a complaint and I believe the board can figure out what to do. I dont think they will be able to kick him out or anything. they may fine him. hotchildinthecity on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166578 Mon, 04 May 2015 14:35:01 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2166578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Foodnerd81: yes, I need to get more details about this condo board situation but my husband did speak with the ADA a month or so back and they said they were building a case. @mrscobee: he might be scared of my husband (who is a physically large/intimidating person) but whatever makes him avoid me is fine with me! I've lived in New York for over 10 years in four apartments and I've never even considered calling the cops before. Then I move to the nicest apartment we've ever lived in and this is what we get :/ blackbird on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166573 Mon, 04 May 2015 14:34:34 +0000 blackbird 2166573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ leave a steaming pile of poop on his doorstep? :) catlady on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166558 Mon, 04 May 2015 14:25:36 +0000 catlady 2166558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ As others have suggested, I would document everything and start negotiating an early end to your lease. Look for anything in your lease that would let you out. If you know in advance that your landlord is going to keep your security deposit, I would just withhold the last month's rent from your landlord. looch on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166521 Mon, 04 May 2015 13:49:17 +0000 looch 2166521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would get a lawyer and review your lease. Personally, I wouldn't be able to handle that kind of anxiety in my living arrangement not would I want to expose my son to it, you know? mrscobee on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166517 Mon, 04 May 2015 13:46:13 +0000 mrscobee 2166517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would continue to document everything and put pressure on the condo association. I would continue to be vigilant and on guard (carry mace?). I think the financial costs sound big to try to get out, and your landlord doesn't seem like she'd be willing to cut you a deal. Then you'd lose a bunch of money on this jerk's behalf. Most likely he is just crazy and won't harm you. The fact that you said that he seems to try to avoid you means that maybe he isn't showing a track record of aggression toward you? I'm sorry you are going through this. And I agree that you could have an awful neighbor again somewhere else (God forbid). I can relate. I have awful neighbors (a married couple). DH and I are scared of the woman. ETA: Could you tell your landlord you are scared of him and request extra safety measures be installed (i.e. video camera surveillance)? Maybe there is a way you could legally require her to do that (since you as a renter are entitled to some degree of safety). Or maybe your building already has that? But just wanted to throw it out there, as it could help deter his crazy behavior, be used as future evidence against him, or the potential cost of the system could be used as bargaining power against your landlord (i.e. if she doesn't want to pay for it, she lets you out without requiring large payments from you). Keybee on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166507 Mon, 04 May 2015 13:39:06 +0000 Keybee 2166507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ That sounds terrible, I'm sorry. I guess all you can do it keep calling the police and hope the board will work against him. rachiecakes on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166494 Mon, 04 May 2015 13:30:53 +0000 rachiecakes 2166494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would ask your landlord/the owner to complain to the condo board and see if everyone can get something done about this. Foodnerd81 on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166482 Mon, 04 May 2015 13:26:28 +0000 Foodnerd81 2166482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hotchildinthecity: so the condo board is already putting pressure on him? I don't know what else you can do- I'm sure kicking him out would be a horribly long legal process. Can you be involved with any board meetings even though you aren't owners? We started renting in my condo building, then bought, and we are definitely more in the loop as owners. I can understand the reluctance to move. Not only would getting out of your lease suck, you'd have to find another place, which usually means a brokers fee for you doing most of the work anyway, and moving expenses, on top the first last and security. It's a lot of cash all at once even if you didn't already have significant adoption expenses. And then you never know what other kind of neighbors you will have. :( hotchildinthecity on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166456 Mon, 04 May 2015 13:06:24 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2166456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @littlejoy: I definitely don't talk to him! Luckily, if he is going to leave his apartment and he sees me in the hall, he goes back in and shuts the door. He probably thinks we're the ones calling the cops. hotchildinthecity on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166452 Mon, 04 May 2015 13:04:37 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2166452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @ElbieKay: unfortunately my landlord is very difficult to deal with. She nickels and dimes us to death and it's pulling teeth to get her to fix anything, and for a very new apartment, there has been a lot wrong! I cannot see her ever giving back our deposit if we break the lease. ElbieKay on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166433 Mon, 04 May 2015 12:57:23 +0000 ElbieKay 2166433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hotchildinthecity: Well when I suggested you break your lease, I did not mean you should give up your deposit. I meant (but did not spell out) that you should talk to your landlord about your concerns and see if you can move out earlier than expected, but on good terms. You might still have a cashflow issue though. ValentineMommy on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166432 Mon, 04 May 2015 12:56:32 +0000 ValentineMommy 2166432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I agree with the other ladies. I'd see if anything can be done about breaking the lease and/or getting your security back, given the circumstances. Unfortunately, I was previously in a similar situation in my old apartment. We ended up breaking the lease (and losing money to do so) because I felt so unsafe, especially when my bf (at the time) wasn't home. It turned out that those neighbors we had issue with were involved in the 9/11 attacks. It was worth losing the money and getting away from them. littlejoy on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166431 Mon, 04 May 2015 12:54:11 +0000 littlejoy 2166431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would keep a log of everything. It sounds like you've already done a great job of documenting. I am so sorry you're dealing with this. That's got to be so, so stressful!!! The landlord and owner should agree to sit down and talk with you, together. Maybe face-to-face, everyone will realize there are things that can be done. Certainly the building has a list of policies that owners must sign?! I would not talk to him, the nurse, or the roommate ... I think that having everything in writing (complaints/questions) to your landlord and building owner is really, really important. The owner might even be able to use it to get him out! hotchildinthecity on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166430 Mon, 04 May 2015 12:53:08 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2166430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @ElbieKay: lol I should have added a wink face! I did not think you were being insensitive. We just finally are digging out way out from all the adoption expenses and getting our finances in order, so the thought of having to mess all that up because of this asshole is upsetting me. Madison43 on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166424 Mon, 04 May 2015 12:50:12 +0000 Madison43 2166424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Your landlord in the unit owner, so he needs to put pressure on the Board to take action.. As a tenant, the Board and the managing agent don't really have to deal with you. That said, even if the Board was highly motivated, civil actions can take years to resolve, so there's no guarantee it would even help your situation. I'd start negotiating with the landlord to let you out early .... :sad: ElbieKay on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166420 Mon, 04 May 2015 12:47:15 +0000 ElbieKay 2166420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @hotchildinthecity: Ah. I'm sorry, I was not trying to be insensitive. hotchildinthecity on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166417 Mon, 04 May 2015 12:44:32 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2166417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @ElbieKay: the thought of trying to find first months, last month's and security is making me want to throw up :wink: ElbieKay on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166408 Mon, 04 May 2015 12:39:29 +0000 ElbieKay 2166408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would look into breaking your lease. If you offer 2 or 3 months notice then they will have plenty of time to secure a new tenant. 2littlepumpkins on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166405 Mon, 04 May 2015 12:35:22 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2166405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think if the police and lawyers are already involved I doubt there's any more they can do at this point. :( You could ask to break your lease but I doubt it'll happen while maintaining a good record. I would try to just keep tabs on the situation for now and see if the case is going anywhere.. nana87 on "Is there anything that can be done about my neighbor?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-there-anything-that-can-be-done-about-my-neighbor#post-2166401 Mon, 04 May 2015 12:34:01 +0000 nana87 2166401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh wow, that really, really sucks :( I know my lease is a pretty standard lease (I'm in NYC also) and I'm pretty sure it has a "good neighbor" clause--maybe there's something in the condo agreement that owners have to sign to that effect?