https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 21:44:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal/page/2#post-1992406 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 18:00:34 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1992406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mama2em: Yup...August 14th! Thank you so much! Please stay in touch! :heart: :happy: :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal/page/2#post-1992397 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 17:44:07 +0000 mama2em 1992397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's either August 14th or 15th...for some reason, it's different depending on if they put in my retrieval date or my transfer date. Is yours the same date?? I know we had our transfers around the same time! Wishing you all the best and keeping my fingers crossed for more and more reassuring scans :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1992382 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 17:28:40 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1992382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mama2em: Congrats!!! What is your due date? Must be within a couple days of mine! :happy: I'm balancing optimism with the realistic (and somehow comforting, given my past experiences) NBHHY (nothing bad has hapened yet). Wishing us both the happiest and healthiest of pregnancies! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1992337 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 16:51:48 +0000 mama2em 1992337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: hi! just noticed you posted this thread! i also had an US today and saw a flickering blob! i've been so nervous, but it def. feels a little better seeing that. i have moments where i feel really nervous throughout the day, but just gotta have faith that everything will continue to go well. i hope you're doing ok, i feel like we haven't "talked" in so long! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1991820 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 12:48:28 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1991820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lazypanda: Thank you! I'll join you all in a few weeks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1991810 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 12:45:26 +0000 lazypanda 1991810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh boo, I noticed my post did not go through. But so glad to read your update! I would just add that I continue to have the IF anxieties but it's getting better with each passing week. Something that helped keep me sane was being able to see my acupuncturist between appts. Her treatment focused on needlepoints to hold &amp; support the pregnancy while also helping alleviate some of my worries. Looking forward to seeing you on the pregnancy after IF thread! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1991545 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 10:32:08 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1991545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GoGoSnoGirl: Thank you!!! The difference in how I feel is like night and day! SO helpful! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1991528 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 10:25:00 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 1991528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: yay for your flickering blob!! :heart: :grin: Great news &amp; I'm so glad you got some early reassurance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1991522 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 10:20:16 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1991522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@momazon: Thank you, dear! I'm sending you so many good thoughts right now! :heart: :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1991085 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 23:28:58 +0000 momazon 1991085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: Yay for a little blob and a little flicker! This has made my night, so happy for you! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990839 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 21:20:00 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1990839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: Thank you! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990829 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 21:15:52 +0000 simplyfelicity 1990829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: I am so happy you had a great ultrasound! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990786 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 21:04:01 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1990786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Pinecone316: Feeling SO much better! Not completely out of the woods, obviously, but I really had myself going for a while with those betas.... :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990530 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 18:50:07 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 1990530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: congrats on seeing the little flicker! Glad you got some good reassurance :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990510 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 18:18:03 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1990510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anya: Thank you! :heart: "Normal" is always a miracle!</p> <p>@Torchwood: Yes!!! All of them! :goodluck: :goodluck: :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990490 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 17:59:52 +0000 Torchwood 1990490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: Crossing all the fingers and toes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990488 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 17:57:51 +0000 Anya 1990488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations on your successful ultrasound! I don't have anything to add that the others haven't said already, but I just wanted to further validate your feelings. I hope you continue to feel more at ease and enjoy that little miracle heart beating inside of you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990377 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 16:26:15 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1990377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: It is a BIG deal! FX hard that both of us have our sweet take-home babies this August!!! :goodluck: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990367 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 16:20:43 +0000 Torchwood 1990367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: I think we're about 4-5 days apart. I'm Aug 9th. And I'm so glad your ultrasound went well! That relief of seeing the little heartbeat is such a great feeling. The tech yesterday didn't know my history, so she was a bit startled by how loud/shaky my sigh of relief was when she said, "and there's the heartbeat." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990346 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 16:08:35 +0000 Dandelion 1990346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stay guarded with M up until he was breathing in my arms. I don't think it ever really goes away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990328 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 15:55:13 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1990328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So...at least for now, I'm feeling much better. I stared my fear down...and was rewarded with the sight of a little blob measuring right on with a little flicker! :happy: :heart: :goodluck: This is perhaps the only time in my entire life where crazy has paid off. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990325 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 15:52:32 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1990325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Yup, they're pretty awesome. One of my doctor's partners saw me...and told me that she, too, had done IVF!</p> <p>@catomd00: Thank you! I definitely don't mind at all. :wink: </p> <p>@Torchwood: I can only imagine the shape your anxiety must take. Wishing you the very best! :heart: I'll need to go look on the August board (eventually) and compare our due dates! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990239 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 15:16:00 +0000 Torchwood 1990239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted a few days ago on the August thread- "I have a history of depression and anxiety problems, and of very bad pregnancy outcomes. So I know I'm going to have bad days, when I can't help but be worried or freaked out. On those days, I just remind myself that it will pass. I will have happy/calm days too. And I try to give myself a lot of grace. If I need to spend most of the day reading or watching tv to keep my mind off of things, I let myself. (Though admittedly that's a lot easier since I don't work.) I try to take nice baths or eat a favorite food or something that will make me feel better. I know I can't keep from worrying sometimes, but I can choose not to let the worry take control and make a genuine effort to take care of myself."</p> <p>I was terrified before my ultrasound yesterday. I've just had too many bad ultrasound results to ever trust that things will be fine. Seeing the heartbeat was the BIGGEST relief. But it won't last. I'll be freaking out again soon. I start counseling tomorrow, primarily for anxiety. The thought of going to the anatomy scan makes me want to just crawl out of my skin and run a million miles away. I have no idea how I'll get through the days leading up to it (hoping the counseling can help with that!). (The anatomy scan is when they first found the hydrocephalus in our daughter that wound up costing her her life.)</p> <p>Anyway, all that to say that you're totally normal, and as all the responses have made clear, you're in good company. I'm really glad your OB was willing to work with you and get you in sooner. Hope it all goes/went great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990199 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 14:51:51 +0000 catomd00 1990199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope you don't mind me posting because although I haven't experienced it, I know my sister experienced very similar feelings after her loss. Her successful pregnancy after her first MC was much different then her successful pregnancy before MC. She has talked to me quite frequently about how much more stressful the post loss pregnancy was and she wishes she hadn't of worried as much so she could enjoy it more, but also that she doesn't know how she could have not been so worried. (She also had low betas and lots of scary spotting at the beginning of her pregnancy after her loss that obviously worried her but it all ended up being just fine. </p> <p>Sending you good thoughts for a healthy, sticky baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990188 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 14:44:17 +0000 ValentineMommy 1990188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: Yay!!!! We can go through it together &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990187 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 14:43:49 +0000 blackbird 1990187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: Your office sounds fabulous!!!! I hope the reassurance you get today helps carry you through for a couple more weeks. Honestly, frequent scans were the only thing that really helped me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990177 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 14:32:11 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1990177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: Thank you! You're exactly 2 weeks ahead of me! :heart: </p> <p>@Mrs.Pinecone316: @Espion: @GoGoSnoGirl: @littlejoy: @simplyfelicity: Thank you ladies so much! I hate feeling like a crazy person...but I'm glad to know that this is at least (mostly) normal! Thank you for all of the kind words and reassurance. In a funny twist of fate (the most neurotic wheel gets the grease?), I am currently sitting in my OB's office after calling to ask "can you help reassure me?" (and breaking down in tears)...and will be getting an early ultrasound today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990134 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 14:02:24 +0000 simplyfelicity 1990134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it just takes time. I am 12 weeks and 1 day and while I have relaxed a bit, I am still nervous about a missed miscarriage since I haven't seen the baby since 9 weeks. I just have to remember that my body was designed to do this and my previous losses have no bearing on this baby whatsoever. My MIL announced to family and friends yesterday (under the condition they keep it off Facebook) and now I feel so exposed and some pressure. Feelings are not truth and I am just worrying-- like a mother is apt to do. But, yes, I know the feeling well. :heart:<br /> Like you, all my previous ultrasounds were heart-wrenching and so I was SO SCARED that this one would be the same. It was my only reference point, but little baby was wiggling it's arms and it was a beautiful, beautiful experience. I UGLY cried, it was so many emotions wrapped into one moment.<br /> I can't wait to hear about your amazing ultrasound. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990131 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 14:00:30 +0000 littlejoy 1990131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel for you!!! After my m/c and challenges getting pregnant again, I was symptom spotting like crazy. I had so much angst, and completely psyched myself out before I'd go to the bathroom every time (I had a natural m/c, and always feared it happening again). It's so tough, and I just want you to know that your feelings are so normal (not that it makes it any easier). Every milestone (dating scan, 1st trimester ending, 20 weeks, 24 weeks, full term, etc.) was such a bittersweet moment. I felt like I could celebrate a bit, but wondered when it would go wrong. </p> <p>I now have an 11 month old baby ... the worry is still there, but I think that's pretty normal. </p> <p>I just think that once you've felt loss, it's a reference point while moving forward ... It does make the good things so much sweeter though. My heart is with you!!!! </p> <p>My betas were really low, too. I remember seeing other mamas on HB posting their betas, and they were 2-4 times higher than mine on the given day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-pregnancy-loss-ptsd-is-this-normal#post-1990116 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 13:52:12 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 1990116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: hugs to you. :heart: I was definitely anxious after my loss earlier this year when I got pg again. And when I bled quite a bit right at 5w while using the bathroom, I cried &amp; begged &amp; pleaded that it wasn't another m/c. I freaked out &amp; called my DH &amp; the RE &amp; was certain I was losing our 2nd. I got a few more betas drawn &amp; was able to get in for both a 6 &amp; 7 wk u/s. Each step was good news &amp; made it easier to break the time into smaller blocks until the next milestone. I'm now 17wks &amp; while at least once a week I still wonder "am I sure I'm still pregnant?!", I've gotten nothing but good news at each appointment &amp; feel mostly happy &amp; excited now. I'm hoping &amp; praying for you that this is your take-home baby, &amp; while each day may drag on until you get to your scan, hopefully you can focus on other things &amp; just try to have faith that all is well until you can know for sure. :goodluck: :heart: :happy: </p>