https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 19 Jun 2026 11:52:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom/page/2#post-2307201 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 08:22:36 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 2307201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is how it works at my son's preschool, but we can ask quick questions of the teacher, too. I find that going just a few minutes later (but not late enough to make me "late") means there are only a few kids left and it's not a big deal then if we chat or go in the room (sometimes my son drags me in anyway to see a project/toy/whatever.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom/page/2#post-2307169 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 08:04:51 +0000 Alivoo01 2307169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like being able to ask the teachers how is day was and if anything happened/occurred today. At our daycare, they stop filling out the daily sheet once they turn 1, and even before then, it's sometimes hit and miss with them populating it. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom/page/2#post-2307139 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 07:45:23 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2307139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ra: And PS, I think your message does not make you sound like "that" mom. You aren't bashing the process. You are open and asking for clarification on why it was done and how you can come together to find an alternative solution that will meet your needs. Also, you should never have to justify your wishes (first time mom or not, if you are worried about your child thats valid). Also, even though I talk to other parents, I try not to bring that into messages or conversations with the director. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2307129 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 07:31:18 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2307129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually wouldn't love that change either. I could be ok with it if allowed into the classroom in the mornings or at some point. But my daughter goes half days while most of the kids are full day kids so it's sort of different. (Eta like she would be one of only a few being sent out.) I guess the main thing would be if your son seems happy then I'd go with it. But no, I don't think you're necessarily being that mom! Communication between teachers and parents is important, so I hope they figure something out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2307100 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 06:59:41 +0000 looch 2307100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ra: every one is "that parent" at some point, don't sweat it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2307090 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 06:25:06 +0000 matador84 2307090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't read pp's but I don't think it is a huge deal. I do think they should meet you at the door at least so you can ask how their day was briefly if they don't do daily sheets. Our preschools stops daily sheets at age 2. I just ask for a quick, how was his day? at pick up. Teachers are still teaching class and working in late care until 5:30, so I could see if they have to stop supervising children to have a long conversation with parents every day, this might be the reason for the curtailing the normal pick up.</p> <p>I feel like they should at least greet you. But again, I don't think this is a big thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2307082 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 05:19:18 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2307082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh and PS we had to have a chat with our daughters three year old teacher because she wasn't communicating what she did all day and we wanted to be informed. It was a huge issue for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2307081 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 05:18:31 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2307081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't allowed in my sons room (age 1). It's too hard for them to keep them away from the door and make sure parents aren't stepping or bumping into kids. There is a half door and when we come a teacher brings us his bag and him. We can stand at the door and chat for a second about how the day went. At first j was a bit annoyed and wanted to see the room. But seeing a room full of babies and toys and teachers I get it that it's just too hard to have parents coming in and out. </p> <p>I assume they have to send a teacher to the door with your child? Or as you greet your child can you flag a teacher over so you can have a quick update? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2307068 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 02:37:29 +0000 plantains 2307068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be bothered by the procedure, I think it makes sense, but I don't like the lack of daily sheets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2307064 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 01:50:22 +0000 lamariniere 2307064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it is that weird, as long as you are given an opportunity to chat with teachers either before or after school. It sounds like you don't have that opportunity though, so I would also wonder about what exactly my kid is doing all day long. I think you are right to ask about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2307060 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 01:37:52 +0000 lemondrop 2307060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not be happy with the changes at all. I was just talking to another mom from our class last year. We had a teacher who never sent home any information on what was going on. She and I started being the first at drop off and the last at pickup so we could get feedback from the TA's at least. We also started sharing anything we got out of the kiddos.</p> <p>This year we have an awesome teacher who sends weekly plans. It is very helpful since our boys are verbally delayed, and talking about the day is one of our targets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306980 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 21:34:58 +0000 sunny 2306980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is in a preschool program now (she's 3) and the teachers are only there during the school day (9-3) and then she stays in the aftercare program until I pick her up. I never get any indication about her day unless one of her teachers happens to be watching the aftercare kids because they don't do daily sheets. I wish I got a better idea about her day but it seems like this is what it will be like for school. </p> <p>She can talk but she's not very reliable yet because she always says "yes" when I ask her if she ate her lunch or napped and I know it's not true!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306974 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 21:30:26 +0000 Ra 2306974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was probably just because it was the first time with the new procedure for the teachers and the parents were caught off guard. Also, judging by your answers, I am being a little neurotic and need to cool my jets. I've never been away from him so I need to just let go of that control and trust the teacher/school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306955 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 21:06:39 +0000 hilsy85 2306955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is how it is for us too--we wait outside and the teachers call the kids out one by one. However, I always make sure to ask how his day was and how he did. I can't imagine you can't do that with his teachers? I just usually wait til all the kids have been picked up. We definitely don't get any sort of daily sheet or anything</p> <p>Eta I think a few hours of preschool and full day care are very different--for the latter I would want more details about what he did over 8 hours especially if he goes every day. Preschool for a few hours a few times a week is different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306943 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 20:55:52 +0000 Keybee 2306943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think they need to make sure parents can communicate with the teachers </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306938 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 20:51:06 +0000 blackbird 2306938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is so weird! I don't even need a list or anything from the teacher-a good day comment suffices for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306887 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 20:16:13 +0000 fancyfunction 2306887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is how our preschool does pickup also. M just started the 2'a program and it has not been an issue. If the teacher needs to talk to a parent they just let the parent know to hang back a bit. Also, we bring the kids into the classroom in the morning and can also speak with the teachers at that time or email them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306864 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:56:36 +0000 Tanjowen 2306864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ra: You are not "that" mom at all! My LO baby school wants us to do car drop off and pick ups because it makes transition smoother for everyone (1-2 yr old), BUT I get text messages during the day on his status, and I can communicate anytime via an online forum. It would be a fine procedure if they would make sure to communicate with you in another eay, but that doesn't seem to be the case. I would be frustrated too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306859 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:54:03 +0000 Ra 2306859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: I think that might be part of the issue. We were kind of blindsided by it. There was no prior communication warning us of the change and no explanation for the change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306855 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:50:06 +0000 travellingbee 2306855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not being a pain. I wouldn't be ok with this set up at all. I go in to pick up my son and always talk to the teachers. They have a board with info about what they did that day and they tell me about his nap etc. I'd never be ok with him being sent out like a prisoner being released LOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306853 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:48:23 +0000 BananaPancakes 2306853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is how our preschool does it. It wasn't a big deal last year because there were only 7 kids in his class, but there are 12 this year and I was having a hard time finding out what I wanted to know. I've become more assertive as the year has progressed (it started 1.5 months ago), and just linger to talk after class or I speak up to the teacher releasing DS right then. I'm mostly concerned about the potty since I suspected he was holding it all morning, and now we've worked out a plan. But I did have to step up to be heard. Soemtimes i show up a few minutes late and most kids are gone by then, which allows me to talk a bit longer with them. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306838 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:31:31 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2306838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ra: I wouldn't say that. I knew what the procedure was going into the program and was OK with it because DD is verbal enough to tell me about her day. I wouldn't be comfortable having no idea how things were going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306836 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:30:56 +0000 catomd00 2306836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be comfortable with this at all. I don't like feeling like I can't show up and observe at any time if I feel the need to (which I never have.) I also like to know if anything notable happened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306833 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:27:54 +0000 Ra 2306833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, I am "that" mom. And now I feel like an ass. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306832 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:27:47 +0000 lilteacherbee 2306832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ra: As a former preschool teacher (I've taught different ages from 2.5-5), I think it's a little odd, but I can see what they're trying to do. I completely understand that it gets kinda crazy at pick-up with parents in and out, but there should be some sort of routine that helps with that (like an assistant teacher reading books/activities to the class as parents come in, so that the teacher is available to talk, answer questions, etc.) If nothing else, I would definitely expect a daily sheet for this age group because communication between teachers and parents is so important! I think this would be okay if you were able to talk to the teachers at some point to find out how your child is doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306831 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:26:54 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2306831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ours is the same as @Andrea. If I need to ask questions I stay behind a bit or talk to the teachers in the morning at drop off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306829 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:24:52 +0000 Bao 2306829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is how they do it at LO's school, I get just a few seconds to ask how she was and other questions I send through email. It bothered me at first but I guess it's a safety thing. I never know what she does at school, most of the time.</p> <p>If I do want to chat a bit more I put myself at the end of the pick up line. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306828 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:24:39 +0000 mrbee 2306828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's an ok procedure, as long as it's possible to talk to the teachers after pickup is all done and the rush is over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306823 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:23:30 +0000 Andrea 2306823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our preschool does pick up outside and it has never been an issue for me, but I don't care to have a daily report. I see the teachers in the morning and I can ask them questions then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-weird-or-am-i-being-that-mom#post-2306821 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:20:56 +0000 gracecat 2306821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the exit process is fine if they had some way for you to communicate with the teacher or staff. Without that, it does seem odd and I would also want there to be some kind of means for exchange. </p>