https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 21 Jun 2026 11:09:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413916 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 11:57:14 +0000 JoJoGirl 2413916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No no no. That's exactly why she has 5 days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413912 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 11:53:05 +0000 Mrs Panda 2413912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You know, these responses really does make me wonder if all the other parents really were ok with it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413803 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 10:39:25 +0000 Truth Bombs 2413803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is one of the many reasons we use a center instead of in home. Something like this would infuriate me. Since your contract states MLK day she's out of line. The 21st is not MLK day, therefore, if she's closed that day, it's a vacation day. End of story. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413799 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 10:36:36 +0000 Adira 2413799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, I think if even ONE of her clients has an issue with her doing this, she shouldn't do it. It doesn't matter that the other parents don't mind. YOU do and you're a paying costumer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413797 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 10:35:35 +0000 Adira 2413797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: I don't understand how she has the gall to move a set holiday around when she she has it written down which days are holidays. That's really dickish on her part. But like you, I probably wouldn't want to make a big stink if you aren't going to be staying with her long term anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413782 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 10:25:52 +0000 Mrs Panda 2413782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: you're right- it's not an extra day off, and we would have to deal with childcare on the 21st either way, but she is sort of gaming it to save a vacation day. </p> <p>@catomd00: I think if she wanted to do that, she would have to specify in her policy that MLK is a floating holiday and she can take it whenever she wants. I work for the federal government and there's no way they'd let me move a holiday, and DH works for a university, so same situation.</p> <p>@Adira: all that is set out in her written policy, including the soecific holidays. Her 5 vacation days, she just says she'll give as much notice as possible. It's usually a week or two notice.</p> <p>At this point, DD had 8 months until kindergarten, so I probably shouldn't ruffle any feathers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413721 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 09:43:30 +0000 snowjewelz 2413721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be annoyed too since I, too, barely have enough PTO as is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413663 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 08:46:43 +0000 Adira 2413663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be PISSED!</p> <p>You mention you have to give her months advance notice if you leave - isn't that in writing somewhere? Are the holidays and the fact she had 5 personal days not written down somewhere?</p> <p>This sucks. I'm sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413646 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 08:32:54 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2413646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: @runnerd: true not everyone has MLK day off, my husband has all bank (school) holidays off, but I don't including MLK. However, for one of us to stay home in the middle of the week, which is when the provider is closing, does require a vacation/ PTO day, so her switching the holiday is still inconvenient. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413637 Fri, 08 Jan 2016 08:20:57 +0000 babynumber1 2413637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: I would be furious. My work schedule is not flexible like that and I would have to reschedule a ton of meetings </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413513 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 22:51:17 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2413513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be a little annoyed that she didn't give much notice. But I'm not surprised most parents are fine with it. Lots of people don't get MLK day off so whether she takes Mon or Wed is a non-issue for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413507 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 22:43:03 +0000 winter_wonder 2413507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be annoyed. I also think it's irritating that she didn't give you much notice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413483 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 22:12:46 +0000 catomd00 2413483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How many days notice does she have to give you for a floating day? It's annoying but I wouldn't raise a stink about it. MLK is not a "big" holiday for a lot of employers it seems, so I'd ask if I could switch days of that's possible in your job. MLK, Columbus Day and Presidents Day were ways floating holidays for us at my old job - we could take that day or use them another day instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413475 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 22:04:57 +0000 californiadreams 2413475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would be annoyed too, very much. But i am confused or maybe missing something...she is not actually getting an EXTRA day off, is she? since she will be working on the 18th? or is she expecting that no one will send their kid that day since they have it off and that is the bonus? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413430 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 21:06:18 +0000 pinkcupcake 2413430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: I would definitely be annoyed! The only way this would be fair if she had a floating HOLIDAY that she could use. Not fair to the parents, but IDK what you could do :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413424 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 21:02:13 +0000 coopsmama 2413424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband doesn't get MLK day off either so this would be a non issue for us BUT that said I do think it is a very sneaky way to get an extra bonus day in. And that's not right! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413420 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 21:00:29 +0000 Mrs Panda 2413420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: haha, that's what DH said too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413418 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 21:00:02 +0000 Mrs Panda 2413418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: huh, really? I guess assumed everyone had that.</p> <p>@skipra: interesting! </p> <p>Ok, I feel good that I'm not just crazy and unreasonable but also confirmed i should just leave it alone and make he best of it! Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413407 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:53:19 +0000 runnerd 2413407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sucks in your position, so I get why your upset, but I probably woudnt say much else - I'm guessing a lot of the parents don't have that day off anyways, so they don't care (I don't get MLK off) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413404 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:51:04 +0000 erinbaderin 2413404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sucks. I'm also skeptical that all the other parents were fine with it - as far as you know, she told everybody who complained the same thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413359 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:06:01 +0000 skipra 2413359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be really annoyed and don't think it's right. But to answer your question I have been able to do that in previous jobs, especially if the holiday fell during a busy time. But I was not a daycare provider and did not have people rely on me like that. I wonder if she had a previous job where that was ok? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413358 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:05:21 +0000 Mrs Panda 2413358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: that's a good thought - I'm still irked by it, but maybe finding a way to make it a good thing is a better way to think about it! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413356 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:02:08 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2413356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope I sure can't switch "company" holidays at work! That would definitely irk me.</p> <p>Are you still planning to have her stay home? It could be fun for both girls to have one on one parent- daughter days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413355 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:01:55 +0000 Mrs Panda 2413355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetCaroline: no, she can kick us out whenever (but we have to give a months notice if we leave or forfit a month's tuition!). Yeah, both DH and I are very low on PTO. We'd have to figure something out for the 21st regardless, but it'd help if that counted as one of her 5 days, instead basically making it six days we'll have to scramble now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413354 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:00:22 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2413354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: yes that's not cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413353 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 19:57:03 +0000 SweetCaroline 2413353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, that's dumb. Do you have a contract? I'd be pretty upset, as a parent who is scraping the bottom of the PTO bank. However, without a contract I don't think I'd do anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-this-worth-raising-a-stink-about#post-2413349 Thu, 07 Jan 2016 19:50:34 +0000 Mrs Panda 2413349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My older daughter goes to a home-based daycare/preschool, and the preschool takes the normal holidays, plus 5 floating days whenever she wants. She emailed all the parents last night and said that she wants to switch the upcoming holiday from the 18th (MLK Day) to the 21st. So she'd be open on what was the holiday and closed on the 21st instead. I emailed back and said this didn't seem fair, since we have the 18th off work and we can't switch our holiday, so we would need to find separate childcare for the 21st. Plus, we'd end up paying for the 18th for nothing, since we wouldn't send her. I suggested she keep the 18th as a holiday and use one of her floating holidays if she needs to take the 21st. She said the majority of other parents were fine with just moving the holiday, so she's going with it.</p> <p>I don't actually think I'll make a stink or say anything more, but I was surprised other parents were ok with it. I mean, she's moving a holiday day so she doesn't have to use one of her vacation days - you don't really get to do that in any other job, right?</p> <p>Or am I the crazy one here? </p>