https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 11:34:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong/page/2#post-1598385 Tue, 29 Apr 2014 02:12:52 +0000 Cherrybee 1598385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: Thank you, I really appreciate that. They're being really chilled about it at the moment - my SIL was also born with the condition and had to wear a cast of some sort of harness as a baby - but I think the reality will hit them should she require treatment to be honest. I think right now they're in some sort of shock, whatever they say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong/page/2#post-1598308 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 21:59:21 +0000 travelgirl1 1598308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Of course :happy: You're right, my LO was born with it and I'm very sorry to hear about your niece - I really hope she doesn't need treatment. But if she does, if her parents want to talk to anyone about what it's like coping with a baby in a pavlik harness, I'm happy to chat to them. Fingers crossed for her :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong/page/2#post-1597853 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 15:57:28 +0000 Cherrybee 1597853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>FWIW - I have learnt a lot from this thread - have done a little more research myself - and I'm glad I asked the question. I will probably source a different sort of carrier for baby #2 - not because of the facing-in or facing-out situation (I can see that certain positions facing in are equally as bad) but because our carrier doesn't support the right bits and position the baby in the right way. </p> <p>But my acquaintance is still a cretin! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong/page/2#post-1597826 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 15:40:52 +0000 Cherrybee 1597826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: Oh no, I'm sorry. Will you accept an apology? I never meant to upset you - I wasn't *snickering* at hip dysplasia, I was laughing at the suggestion - made so dramatically - that a carrier would permanently damage a child. Your little one was born with it as I understand? I remember when she was in her plaster - I was following your journey. My niece is 10 days old and was also born with "clicky hips", as they put it. She may need a frog plaster going forward. Of course it's no joke. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong/page/2#post-1597691 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 14:49:49 +0000 heartonastring 1597691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Douche waffle? Most certainly. Based on your posts about her she sounds like a real peach.</p> <p>Yeah, echoing PPs, a lot of the BWing world is very anti-facing out. IMO, do what you want with your own child. Having said that, the biggest drawback I see (aside from the hip thing, which I really don't believe would be an issue unless your child already had hip problems) is the comfort factor. It's not ergonomically ideal for mum or baby and leads to a lot of mums with very sore backs, which can lead to quitting baby wearing and that can be seen as a major sin in the hardcore BWing world.</p> <p>Tl;dr I'm not dogmatic, but some BWs are. Forward-facing can lead to major discomfort for mum and baby which may end the BWing relationship prematurely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong/page/2#post-1597634 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 14:36:05 +0000 travelgirl1 1597634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: okay maybe I'm being sensitive her but this "photojane: She's WALKING??! After you ruined her hips?? But.... how?!! *snicker*" I don't feel like there's any need for. hip dysplasia isn't so funny when you're in the thick of it, you know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong/page/2#post-1597627 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 14:34:58 +0000 rachiecakes 1597627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got a lot of these comments with DS in the Bjorn. Little did they know of the screaming/crying/hysteria that broke out every time I tried to get DS in the Ergo or Moby or any kind of swaddle for that matter. The Bjorn was a lifesaver! </p> <p>Until J was a toddler he hated anything that faced in and would bash his fists and face into my chest while screaming bloody murder. It was truly the only time he was unhappy.<br /> My 'welcome to motherhood' was the realization that what works for some kids doesn't always work for others. The time I spent researching these things and the money I spent buying them and he fought me on every one! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1597592 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 14:27:52 +0000 looch 1597592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, we had a car seat back in the day but it's not something I would use today, so just because something's been around for a long time doesn't mean that it can't be improved upon.</p> <p>I think, as with most things, it's the delivery of the message that also impacts people's feelings towards things. If someone comes at me all judgey and making me feel like a dope, of course I react more strongly. If someone shows me information that leads me to a better or different choice in a neutral manner, I am more likely to embrace it. I see this the same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1597589 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 14:26:52 +0000 rattles 1597589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: My DD's ped said the same thing, and I don't think you sound preachy, fwiw :happy: We have a Beco, and I let DD ride forward facing once or twice, but she looked less comfortable and it was definitely harder on my back. Generally, it seemed to me like there wasn't much benefit and there was some potential risk, so we stuck to other carries. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1597579 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 14:25:09 +0000 travelgirl1 1597579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: you are very right about the hip dysplasia diagnosis, I know people in my support group whose kids were diagnosed at 3 or as late as 5! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1597570 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 14:22:37 +0000 travelgirl1 1597570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I honestly, honestly don't want to sound preachy at all. Honestly! However, this is something very close to my heart. My daughter's orthopedic surgeon does not recommend it at all. He warned us against doing it and said the position the baby is in does not support the hips properly and if the baby is at risk of hip dysplasia (my daughter was born with it but often it's not diagnosed until toddlerhood) it can make it worse. Now that's just one surgeon's opinion but, having seen my LO go through treatment, I would not want to do anything with future LO's that may heighten their risk. There's great info on this on the International Hip Dysplasia website. Hope that didn't sound preachy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1597567 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 14:20:33 +0000 kjpugs 1597567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seconding (thirding, fourthing?) the comments regarding HD. That's why we choose not to. But more because LO loves the walker/jumper so we figured we keep limiting "crotch danging" to those arenas, since there isn't another option for those, while babywearing has more than one option.</p> <p>Your friend is nuts. It's more of a concern- probably less risk than say, someone eating junk food! But you wouldn't walk up to strangers all day and say YOU ARE KILLING YOURSELF EATING THAT BURGER AND 40 OZ SODA! I think it's a preference/educated choice you can make. Real risks that you see every day (like unbuckled kids in cars, or carseats propped on a shopping cart) are far more dangerous and are ACTUALLY "bad" or "wrong" or "dangerous" as opposed to someone wearing a baby forwards. CRAZY! Give me popcorn for the crazy girl show here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1597559 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 14:16:52 +0000 pastemoo 1597559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The short answer is it is NO, it is NOT WRONG.</p> <p>There are more comfortable options and many many other things people may say to you but it is not wrong.</p> <p>Some people in the babywearing community have strong feelings about forward facing. I have read and I disagree. And of course, every baby and every family is different, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1597447 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 13:54:02 +0000 Cherrybee 1597447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: Im sure you're probably right - I had never heard this at all, myself. We were gifted our carrier so I didn't do much research on it - but I'm sure most people don't research, they just go to the shop and buy one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1597388 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 13:36:26 +0000 ShootingStar 1597388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will admit, I sometimes see people using Bjorns/crotch danglers and assume they just don't know any better. Bjorns may not be the devil incarnate, but there ergonomic options that are more comfortable for the carrier and don't have the hip dangers or overstimulation for the baby. But I'd never go up to a stranger and tell them what they're doing is wrong. </p> <p>@MamaMoose: I think the theory on back (and hip) carrying is that the baby can choose to turn away/turn into the wearer if they're over stimulated, but in forward facing they don't have much option. But don't quote me on that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1597300 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 13:08:11 +0000 Cherrybee 1597300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: She's WALKING??! After you ruined her hips?? But.... how?!! *snicker* </p> <p>Yeah, this acquaintance is a tool. DH summed it up perfectly when he said "Oh no, her baby appears to be strapped to a twat". I'd delete her but then what would I rant about?! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596904 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 10:41:48 +0000 Anagram 1596904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We wear our LO facing out and have since she had really good neck control at 6 months. We only turn her in if she needs a nap. I'm really wanting that new Ergo 360. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596886 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 10:33:48 +0000 MamaMoose 1596886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a much bigger issue for smaller babies in terms of over stimulation. I mean, doing the ergo in a back carry is perfectly fine for hip alignment but TECHNICALLY the baby is facing the world and could be over stimulated. But I don't worry about that much with my 17 month old. Hell, I worry the world is overstimulated by HER when I let her run wild. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596846 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 10:19:13 +0000 JerricaBenton 1596846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We use an ergo and I personally wouldn't forward face because of potential hip/joint issues, knowing LO likes to snuggle and lay against me (even at over a year!) And because it just plain doesn't look comfortable or ergonomic to me. If I switch her it will be to facing forward but against my back. Every baby is different of course and if your babe is comfy, happy and developing properly then you do what works I guess! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596816 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 10:03:08 +0000 lamariniere 1596816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: I agree. Everything in moderation right? I think I could only wear my chunker of a baby up to an hour anyways. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596738 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 09:30:39 +0000 .twist. 1596738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: douchewaffle! *snickers* :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596734 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 09:29:34 +0000 photojane 1596734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have the baby-torturing-device known as the "crotch dangler," and wear Sadie forward-facing. The horror! Now that she's walking, she doesn't actually like to be worn anymore (she is an explorer), but from about 6m on she would only be worn FF. I don't think I ruined her. ;) If someone came up to me and told me I was parenting wrong I would very promptly tell her that she is clearly doing life wrong &amp; needs to check herself. Your "friend" is not my kind of buddy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596714 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 09:21:41 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1596714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: The only part that I would disagree with is that even if there isn't a Hip dysplasia diagnosis, it shouldn't mean that parents don't worry about hips. If you wore a baby FF for long periods of time and very frequently I'm sure it could cause HD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596693 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 09:15:21 +0000 Modern Daisy 1596693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All in the same week I noticed DS straining to turn his body around in the Ergo so he could see out and a few days later during a routine checkup our pediatrician (unprompted) told us to switch to an outward facing carrier! </p> <p>I did my research first and ended up with the Beco, like a couple other Bee's on this thread. I had heard that the "crotch danglers" are not only harmful to baby but also very uncomfortable for the parents as well. DS LOVES his Beco and I only take him to and from daycare in it and for a quick errand on the weekend. I do get nasty looks sometimes but no one has actually approached me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596677 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 09:09:10 +0000 Greentea 1596677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have read that baby essentially needs to look at you as a sort of filter for how to react and process the world. So, same for strollers, I have seen it recommended that baby face you until at least 6 months. I know ergo was all about facing the parent until recently when they came out with ergo 360 that safely supports (in a physical sense) baby facing out. Personally I think baby facing parent is good for the first 6 months and after that baby seems to want to explore more on their own; so long as the carrier supports them properly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596666 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 09:04:25 +0000 lamariniere 1596666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: @rahlyrah: re: hip dysplasia, I agree with my limited medical knowledge that FF probably doesn't cause it but can exacerbate an existing condition. I found it interesting that my baby was screened at birth and 6 weeks for hip dysplasia (she was normal). However, I remember seeing babies in the maternity ward already in the harness to correct hip dysplasia and a friend of mine had a baby with hip dysplasia that was diagnosed at birth and she was in the harness for about 6 weeks. </p> <p>I find it hard to believe that FF would significantly contribute to hip dysplasia in babies that do not have an underlying condition. Baby Bjorn has been making carriers for 30+ years and if there were a real problem, I imagine they would have modified their design long ago. FWIW, we wore my son FF in a Bjorn from 3 months until he was about 9 months and we switched to an ergo. He is totally fine. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596648 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 08:56:02 +0000 Foodnerd81 1596648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. You're "friend" is a douche waffle. :) </p> <p>But I have read the warnings about forward facing, mostly on here or links that I found through here. Like others said it seems the biggest concerns are hip issues (which would probably only be a problem if there were pre-existing issues), over stimulation, and not being able to check on baby as well, plus it's not as comfortable for the wearer, generally. </p> <p>I read the warnings and chose to get a Beco Gemini so I'd have the option to wear her FF if she wanted, but with an ergonomic facing in option. I HATE wearing her facing forward! It's uncomfortable for me (I feel like her little butt is pushing into my stomach) and I am always worried about her because I can't see her face. But if it works for other babies, whatever. </p> <p>I had C in the Moby when she was really teeny, facing in, and a stranger came up to me and said she was "so happy" to see me wearing her facing in, she sees moms with them facing out and it's "so bad"... I was like, well.... thanks, stranger? Glad you approve. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596580 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 08:36:25 +0000 blackbird 1596580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, it may not be "ergonomically ideal" but anyone who makes it their mission to "correct' other people like that is a douche waffle, anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596549 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 08:24:11 +0000 Mae 1596549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've heard this for various reasons. And I'll admit when I see someone in public with a newborn crotch dangling FF and head flopping around I do cringe a little. But not my kid = not my place. Either to approach her or to reel about it on fb. I feel like this is the sort of thing where you should have your views and keep them to yourself unless asked. And being so..... crusading... about it does make her a bit of a "douche-waffle" imo lol (can you post more rants plz? they are my fav... heh). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-wearing-your-baby-facing-out-wrong#post-1596535 Mon, 28 Apr 2014 08:17:09 +0000 californiadreams 1596535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: seriously! it is like there are 2 worlds too. when i went shopping and talked to friends who were not on all the parenting websites, i was recommened the bjorn, so i got it without researching it. I also saw it everywhere i went so i never questioned it until i read about it on HB! </p>