Hellobee Boards Topic: Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 00:29:37 +0000 cupcakemama on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90866 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 16:54:22 +0000 cupcakemama 90866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I am back at work part time. Neither my mum or mil have said anything bad about it, they are both very supportive. Mum likes hearing about LO's day care, the things they do and how lovely they are with LO. ecogirl on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90854 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 16:41:49 +0000 ecogirl 90854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yoursilverlining Oh yes, Grandmother's always get a pass :) BSB on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90841 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 16:32:55 +0000 BSB 90841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Considering I've always been the bread winner in our relationship and the DH is knows this, my family and his family will have to be supportive of our decision. DH is in school right now and maybe in a couple years he might make as much as me but until then, I'll have to be a working mom. We already talked about this before we got married that he would love to be a SAHD or WAHD. I'm fine with it, too! MsMamaBear on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90831 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 16:25:30 +0000 MsMamaBear 90831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, the women in my family have always worked,my mom/aunts, so if I had stayed home, then they would have looked at me funny.LOL regberadaisy on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90766 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 15:34:54 +0000 regberadaisy 90766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm going back to work. I love my career, it's not just a "job". My mom is a hard worker with great work ethics and my MIL was a SAHM but she semi-worked for their personal business. They are both supportive of whatever decision I decide to make. I think my mom just feels really bad that she is unable to help us out by watching our baby full time for us. She would do it in a heartbeat if we lived close by. heffalump on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90760 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 15:30:31 +0000 heffalump 90760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Both my MIL and mom were SAHM's, so they're very supportive of my decision to stay home with LO. Sha on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90730 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 14:54:06 +0000 Sha 90730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents and in-laws are supportive of me working full-time. They actually cut me a lot of slack about not being a great cook/housekeeper bc I work full time and bc I'm the breadwinner while my husband's in residency. But, my husbands's cousins are all SAHMs and they are sometimes a bit judgy like "I just couldn't do it...leave my kids to be raised by someone else." BUT, my FIL is judgy of them like "When are you going to get a job?".....sooooo in conclusion I've decided you can't please everyone either way so I might as well do what works for me for now. yoursilverlining on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90688 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 14:16:16 +0000 yoursilverlining 90688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @ecogirl: My grams said that to my mom, who was like “As if R gets to boss *her* around and tell her what she can and can’t do!!!!” which my grandmother did agree with :D My grandmother says the funniest things, but she is 90 and adorable so she gets a free pass. ecogirl on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90684 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 14:11:23 +0000 ecogirl 90684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yoursilverlining that is so funny that your grandmother said that! haha :) Did you just smile? eeh on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90674 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 14:01:16 +0000 eeh 90674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @sulli301: It is frustrating at times but I often respond with something like "you choose to prioritize working (they don't have kids and probably never will) and we choose to prioritize me being home with our baby once he/she arrives." One isn't right or wrong, it just reflects our different thoughts, opinions, and viewpoints. She's gotten better about keeping her comments to herself because I've gotten better at not reacting which is what she's looking for. yoursilverlining on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90667 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:58:35 +0000 yoursilverlining 90667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don’t think my MIL would truly support me being a SAHM mom. I don’t think she would ever say anything to me or my husband about her thoughts (we get along great and she is awesome), but she is very career focused and I think she would feel that I was taking advantage of my husband/her son a bit by choosing to not financially contribute equally to our household. My mom was a SAHM mom and I think 6 or 7 years ago she would have given me a bit of a hard time for not staying home, but considering the precarious financial position my parents are now in (and will be in for the rest of their lives) due to her not financially contributing for 30+ years – she doesn’t say anything to me one way or the other about my choice to continue working. My 90 year old grandmother asked if my husband would “allow” me to work once LO is here LOLOL - I don’t care what anyone else in our families think, and don’t know what their opinions are. sulli301 on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90654 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:51:14 +0000 sulli301 90654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @eeh: I'm sorry to hear about your sister! She probably is just stressed/tired in her own working routine & *thinks* that SAHMs get to nap whenever or lay around & organize their closets! So not the case! Sometimes there is a little more flex as far as when you do things but I am working sun up to sun down! After dinner & DD is in bed I almost always fold laundry while DH & I watch tv or I clean something once he is home to play with her, etc! Good luck :) eeh on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90572 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:02:10 +0000 eeh 90572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My husband's parents are very supportive of our decision to have me stay home once the baby is here because his mom did the same thing. It's a bit more foreign to my parents since my mom always worked and my dad has always taught me to have a good work ethic. They understand why it's important to us though (my husband has NO schedule so any routine and structure will come from me). The one person who makes comments about it is my sister. She'll frequently say something like "must be nice to not have to go to work" or when I said something about my color coded closet she commented that "people with jobs don't have that luxury" even though I work now and my closet is color-coded. It gets annoying but I know that we just have different opinions on this so I don't let it bother me too much. Baby Boy Mom on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90567 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:01:34 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 90567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents are "eh" about me being a SAHM. They really want me to go to grad school and get a "better" job, whatever that means. My in-laws are much more supportive, luckily! mediagirl on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90563 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:00:15 +0000 mediagirl 90563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents are totally on board. His still don't understand it (his Mom was a SAHM as soon as she got pregnant with her first). I think it's a generational thing but also, my parents have seen me succeed and do well in my field. They might be slightly disappointed if I decided to stay at home! But either way, they would be supportive of my decision. kml636 on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90562 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:00:07 +0000 kml636 90562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ This is a tricky one. My family was traditional and my mom was a SAHM; my MIL was a single working mom. I feel like she looks down on SAHMs. I am not sure exactly what I'll do, because even my mom said she thinks I would be bored being a SAHM. So, maybe I will try to work part time, but I really don't like my career choice too much to begin with. I've already worked for ten years and make good money so our monthly income would basically be cut in half... ouch! I just don't know what to do... hilsy85 on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90550 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 12:55:29 +0000 hilsy85 90550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I haven't told my family that I plan to be a SAHM when LO is born. I think DH's parents will be thrilled about it. I think my parents will be fine with it, but maybe a little...mystified? As to why I would want to do that. My mom worked through raising me and my sister, and still works now even though she's technically retired. So it might be hard for them to get it. My sister will be super jealous--she really wishes she didn't have to work. I'm kind of dreading telling her, actually--i'm going to put it off as long as possible! emahlee on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90548 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 12:53:00 +0000 emahlee 90548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'll be a working mom. Like you, I like my work and have no intentions on giving up my career. My mum is supportive. She was a working mom herself, though more out of financial necessity than anything. However, my aunts (her sisters), who were SAHMs, always ask if I'll be going back to work after mat leave and when I tell them, "of course" they give me a surprised "REALLY?!" and then proceed tell me the horrors of daycare. It is annoying. calsmom on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90525 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 12:37:22 +0000 calsmom 90525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My family is supportive of our decision for me to stay home when our son is born. I think I am the one that has issues about it. I want to work! autumnlove on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90515 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 12:28:51 +0000 autumnlove 90515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @ecogirl: sorry to hear that...family can be so judgey! my mil/mom always remind me that DH is a dr. and can provide for us and they raised multiple kids on much less. They both put their careers on hold until their youngest child was in grade school and def want me to do the same. Maybe I will when/if we have more kids...maybe! sulli301 on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90507 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 12:24:54 +0000 sulli301 90507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Both of our families were supportive of my decision to stay home. MIL was a SAHM so she loves that I want to do that too. My mom always worked, so I think she doesn't really understand it but is supportive of it (at least to my face). chopsuey on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90488 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 12:17:17 +0000 chopsuey 90488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents are totally supportive of my decision to stay home with my LO. At first they were concerned that I'd get bored, but now that they see how much I love it, they're happy and thankful that we can afford for me to stay home. mamabolt on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90480 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 12:13:13 +0000 mamabolt 90480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My MIL is not, when we were talking about looking at daycares she kept mentioning "oh, I know you wish you didn't have to look at them at all." and similar statements. So she definitely thinks I should not be working. My mom is cool with me doing whatever makes me happy. In an ideal world I'd work PT, but if I can't do that, then I'd rather work FT and keep my sweet benefits. Andrea on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90477 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 12:11:20 +0000 Andrea 90477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My mom was worried about daycare, too, and said why don't I stay home. Then she came to visit and saw what a handful the LO is and changed her tune!! My MIL was always supportive of me going back to work. I think she had regrets about being a SAHM so that is why. Hopefully they will see that daycare is fine and come around to your decision. ecogirl on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90475 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 12:08:51 +0000 ecogirl 90475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ That has got to be annoying! I got the opposite from my mother and sister. They were shocked that I wasn't going to finish my residency and become a doctor. They kept calling it a waste. Thank you ladies! haha My MIL said I bet you couldn't wait to quit school and stay home once you married my son! But I expect nothing less from her :) autumnlove on "Is your family supportive of your decision to work/stay at home?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-family-supportive-of-your-decision-to-workstay-at-home#post-90470 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 12:05:12 +0000 autumnlove 90470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Is your family supportive of your decision to be a a stay at home or working mom? I go back to work soon and my mom and MIL want me to quit my job. I love my job and have no plans to quit soon so I find it annoying when they turn on the drama...lots of crying about how I will let daycare raise DD.