https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 17:01:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-2201296 Sun, 07 Jun 2015 09:02:39 +0000 aderyn 2201296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is not involved all other than the fact he knows we are trying. To be honest, and don't hold this against him, he just isn't that interested in all the specifics. We have sex almost every day anyway, and I have no problem initiating so there won't be any issues on the days I'm fertile. I kind of feel like saying "This one is for the baby!" is a bit of a boner kill. :P We just have a healthy sex life, and I leave the TTC-ing up to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-2201193 Sun, 07 Jun 2015 01:32:42 +0000 Crystal 2201193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ah, so much has changed in 9 months. Now that we've been officially trying for over 2 years, he knows all the nitty gritty details. Romantic conversation, amiright? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-2199305 Thu, 04 Jun 2015 15:48:28 +0000 WinterBee 2199305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: Lol@ science.<br /> DH asks me if I've 'laid an egg' yet. Bahaha. Love him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-2199301 Thu, 04 Jun 2015 15:46:55 +0000 WinterBee 2199301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: I'm not tempting or charting, but he is involved with TTC. I've told him everything about how my cycles work (as much as I know haha) and we've talked about BD timing and the process... but we're still very new to it all.<br /> He's very supportive and aware of everything that's going on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-2197088 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 18:08:58 +0000 californiadreams 2197088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>he is totally involved in charting. Although I do tell him when i get an positive OPK so he knows we will need to be jumping each others bones for the next few days. And sometimes when I am couple of days away from expecting AF and getting anxious/hopeful. I also tell him when i get a BFN/AF. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-2196889 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 14:47:29 +0000 winter_wonder 2196889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. When we were temping dh would put the thermometer in my mouth and record all the temps. For ivf cycles he's always the one giving me the shots. In terms of researching things I would say usually no unless I specifically ask him to read something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-2196865 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 14:20:53 +0000 stiletto_mom 2196865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I deliberately kept him out of it because I didn't want to give him "performance anxiety". But after we hit the 6 month mark, our closest friends getting pregnant, and we went to the doctor for blood/urine and SA, DH asked me to "educate him".</p> <p>So I sat him down and showed him how my cycles worked. I can see it's affecting his attitude towards dtd, which makes me sad. :( But I think he wants to be more involved because it's taken so long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841981 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 10:41:37 +0000 PawPrints 1841981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not like I was, but he knew when my fertile window was coming up and would ask me every day what my OPKs were looking like. (Or, as he phrased it, "What were the results of today's SCIENCE?")</p> <p>[ETA] I guess I pretty much made a point of explaining things to him as I learned them - that helped me feel less like the whole thing was my job alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841948 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 10:22:23 +0000 Crystal 1841948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A little. Now that we are over a year into this, he knows I temp and use OPKs and monitor things, but doesn't understand the details, and sees them when I leave them on the counter. He trusts when I say fertile week is, but that's as far as his involvement goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841919 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 10:09:35 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1841919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell him when it's go time but that's it. He's spontaneous and I'm a planner. At first I gave him my bbt data and he was totally overwhelmed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841831 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 09:12:08 +0000 autumnlove 1841831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I showed him my chart yesterday and he wasn't interested at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841826 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 09:10:32 +0000 Mrs. BD 1841826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I told him when I was ovulating, or when I was close. That's about it! It wasn't real to him until he felt the baby move waaaaay later. Even now, at 29 weeks, I'm not sure it's hit him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841824 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 09:04:25 +0000 MaryM 1841824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I should add...that even though we don't get into the details right now, DH did take NFP with me when we were engaged. So he does understand how it happens and what OPKs mean and what not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841823 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 09:03:16 +0000 marionberry 1841823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we were trying my DH would listen and try to be involved. He'd even ask questions sometimes but he didn't get it much and I handled most of it myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841800 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 08:50:32 +0000 MaryM 1841800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not especially.</p> <p>I mean, we talk about wanting a baby and he's trying to find a new job so he'll be home more once we do have a baby...but other than seeing my OPKs in the trash when he empties it...it's not like we share every detail of my cycles. </p> <p>But we also work opposite schedules, so when we have the time to talk, I don't really want it to be about CM and the scientific side of TTC.</p> <p>So he's on board, but I don't think it's necessary for him to know all the details. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841784 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 08:42:12 +0000 snowjewelz 1841784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He def warmed up to it! He'd ask me if I took my temp, and ask me when I'm fertile haha. But I kept most of the nitty gritty to myself haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841582 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 23:54:01 +0000 sapphire 1841582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did all the tracking but he liked to know when my fertile days would be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841565 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 22:46:42 +0000 cascademom 1841565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's aware of my fertile days. We added a lubricant for this next cycle because he's been wanting one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841512 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 22:07:34 +0000 mrsjyw 1841512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He knows my fertile window and asks how many bars and such. Somtimes I mention cm. He keeps track of when we bd etc. Ive never temped so neither of us know that. He knows I have ff tracking and around when the tww is etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841505 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 22:04:15 +0000 Vegmama 1841505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: Same as you ... Although, we aren't TTC right now. It's funny how involved he was, and now he's probably pretty clueless as to my cycle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841492 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:56:04 +0000 auggiefrog 1841492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's mildly involved. I let him know when my fertile period is. I've talked to him about temping and other 'odd' things I do to help TTC. He does his part also, researching a little on his part. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841491 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:56:02 +0000 JennyG 1841491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all! When we decided we were ready for TTC #2, I asked him how much he wanted to know. His response "Don't we just BD and it happens?" Umm, maybe, but we probably need to be a little more proactive to make it happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841486 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:52:49 +0000 rattles 1841486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely. We used NFP to postpone pregnancy, so by the time we were TTC, he knew as much as I did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841484 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:51:44 +0000 bhbee 1841484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>honestly DH was just confused. he was happy to play along if I told him we needed to schedule some "special time" (yes, I am a dork like that) but he didn't really need to know more than that. even going through infertility stuff, he pretty much just wanted to be told what to do. fine by me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841470 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:42:20 +0000 Raindrop 1841470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell DH everything but DH thought everything was gross! :) I can't blame him.</p> <p>He just wanted to know when he had to BD with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841467 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:39:42 +0000 pui 1841467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At first, I did involve him quite a bit. But then I realized it just made him anxious so I stopped telling him about it and notifying him when fertile times were and just initiated sex on those days. It worked better for us that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841465 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:37:32 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 1841465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say the beginning no, he wasn't really that involved and I didn't really want him to be. As time went on I would tell him when I was O's but the most involved he was was during my IVF cycle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841460 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 21:34:51 +0000 MrsStar 1841460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell him when my most fertile time would be so he knows we would have to make an effort during that time but that's about it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841402 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 20:53:34 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1841402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. He was interested in my charts and read part of TCOYF. When we were doing our IVF cycle he sat in the room with me while I gave myself my shots. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-partner-involved-in-ttc#post-1841380 Thu, 28 Aug 2014 20:41:53 +0000 MrsBrewer 1841380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mean besides the obvious BD hahahahah. </p> <p>Do you talk about your temps, or OPK's, so they're aware when your fertile period is. Or is your partner more stand off-ish and is just going with the flow?</p> <p>DH is actually pretty involved. He hands me my bbt every morning, looks at my chart with me, and we talk about my cycle </p>