https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 19:21:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2757036 Tue, 11 Jul 2017 08:00:16 +0000 looch 2757036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Your FIL and my mother seem to be cut from the same cloth! My mother usually gets complete compliance from my son, but she is much more patient than I am and has the ability to appeal to my son in a way that I cannot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2757032 Tue, 11 Jul 2017 07:49:09 +0000 avivoca 2757032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: OH MY GOSH YES. So temperamental. She started crying today because she sat back in her chair and the chair "hurt her." And then cried again because she sneezed and boogies flew out her nose (because she wouldn't blow it). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2757024 Tue, 11 Jul 2017 07:33:12 +0000 Cherrybee 2757024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I wish you lived near me, we could have playdates and drown ourselves in wine &amp; commiseration! I made a conscious effort this morning to apply all of the techniques that work for E and she was lovely ALL MORNING not a single blip.. .... But the baby toddled around falling over, trapping her fingers in drawers, clinging to my leg and crying for two hours solid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2757022 Tue, 11 Jul 2017 07:10:31 +0000 Foodnerd81 2757022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: 100% the same here- if given 100% attention and I make everything super fun, C will be fine too. But I am effing tired and I also have an increasingly cranky 18 month old who needs my attention and sometimes I just need my almost 4 yr old to put her shoes on without a production. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2757010 Tue, 11 Jul 2017 01:37:02 +0000 Cherrybee 2757010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: yeah but he has been annoying me with it recently 😂 He says that she's becoming what she's seeing (because I've been so stressed out and snappy of late). His techniques all involve giving her 100% attention - he gets her to do things by making a game out of it; every bite of food is a game, he counts how long a wee takes, he races her to the shoe cupboard to get her shoes, and she behaves much better when she's with him (although is still very temperamental, he avoids full meltdowns and usually gets compliance). BUT he's never left with her and the 15mth old, he doesn't have to juggle her and the housework and you get the picture. </p> <p>I'm so happy to read that it's totally normal for the age. *and relax* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756728 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 12:18:04 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2756728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: my dd didn't make the same comments but from 18 months until about when she turned 4 she was very easily set off and 2-3 was the peak of it. We had another child at 3 and she started school and was sick a lot. After that she mellowed out. She's still the more finicky one by nature but nowhere near as bad. I would for now take a wait and see approach, but I understand how unsettling it can be. We also had to get a whole lot more consistent about boundaries. 3 year old children are really at an age where they are pushing back on them to see where they are and sometimes even negative attention seeking. So we really had to just stop giving in and just waiting out some intense tantrums instead of trying to prevent her from even getting upset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756529 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 06:41:44 +0000 looch 2756529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think part of it is standard for the age and part of it is the child's personal temperament. My son is a bit older and one thing that we have learned is that he doesn't have the best decision making skills and impulse control. So, what's worked wonders is having tools to be able to deal with that...which came from the school's psychologist. He learned, for example, to do lazy 8 breathing when he gets into a situation and he can't deal with it. I wouldn't have ever come up with that on my own, so if you feel you need to give some tools, there are resources out there for that...isn't your FIL a child specialist? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756489 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 20:21:45 +0000 ShootingStar 2756489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's not temperamental, but OMG the energy never ends. He's like constantly bouncing off the walls. He's always running, jumping, falling, singing, jumping on us, etc. And because he doesn't stop moving he's always getting hurt. </p> <p>This weekend has made me look forward to work. I feel terrible because I'm always getting frustrated and telling him it's time to be calm. And it's like the more activity he gets, the more wound up it makes him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756472 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 19:25:33 +0000 Foodnerd81 2756472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alba4: at one point my 1.5 yo just would up and smacked big sister really hard and I had to work so hard not to laugh. Hitting is never ok but seriously, it was payback after all the stuff big sis does to her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756471 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 19:22:15 +0000 Alba4 2756471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Yes! So much different when the younger sibling is around! He acts so devilish and purposely pushes and trips my 12 month old. Luckily, the baby is 33lbs and can hold his own, but still!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756470 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 19:22:12 +0000 MamaG 2756470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: unfortunately we still have that with our almost 6 year old. Her younger sister is three years behind her so there is a lot of no because sister isn't capable. While she loves little sister she's often a different kid when they are together. I'm hoping when they are both older it will be better but I mostly am wanting to pull my hair out most of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756467 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 19:10:04 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2756467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: my son is three and is basically an angel when dd is napping or sleeping in. When she is up.... devil child. 🤦🏼‍♀️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756466 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 18:58:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 2756466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This isn't really making me feel better because I cannot deal with another year of this. I have actually said to (yelled at) C- why are you looking to fight me?! It's like she is just seeking something she can defy. I'm completely at the end of my rope with it and was planning to ask her pediatrician at her 4 year appt in August. Hers definitely is about attention a lot of the time- she will be so cute and happy and good while baby is napping. Sister wakes up and suddenly she gets soooo annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756465 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 18:49:31 +0000 KT326 2756465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son was the same way at that age! Maybe not quite as dramatic but the screaming tantrums were horrible. Now he is 5 and it is so much better. But when he is tired or hungry all bets are off. I have to make sure he gets enough sleep at night or I'm getting phone calls from school because he is misbehaving. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756462 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 18:32:19 +0000 caterw 2756462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess it's normal then! My kiddo is the same.... So grumpy and moody all the time! The screaming tantrums will be the death of me I swear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756457 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 17:27:24 +0000 PurplePeony 2756457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 3.5 year old acts similarly. Her big thing is that when she's upset, she'll lay down on the floor and then thrash around and yell "I can't get up! I can't get up! I can't walk!" She is a total Jekyll-and-Hyde, especially when she's tired or hungry. Some days are better (or worse) than others... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756453 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 16:54:46 +0000 MrsA 2756453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine's 3.5 but yeah, we're there. Every darn thing is "owie!" and a meltdown. Add to the mix a new-ish baby brother and it's tantrum city here. I suspect some is the age and some is jealousy when brother gets attention (for example, three mega meltdowns this morning that coincided with baby's first taste of food). Knowing the root cause doesn't make it easier though! I'm ready to tear my hair out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756450 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 16:26:33 +0000 Alba4 2756450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My older son turns 4 next month. We're totally there with you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756447 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 15:37:17 +0000 tinyperson 2756447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: My 4.5yo still exclaims that we've hurt her if we barely touch her, or that we made her fall if we tell her not to do something and she happens to fall while we're talking to her. It sounds normal to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756445 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 15:26:11 +0000 Cherrybee 2756445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oskarsmommy: that's what I wanted to hear, thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756443 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 15:20:33 +0000 oskarsmommy 2756443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds normal to me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-preschooler-massively-temperamental#post-2756442 Sun, 09 Jul 2017 14:59:31 +0000 Cherrybee 2756442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm just wondering how normal this is - like if it's just standard for the age or if something is unsettling E..... </p> <p>She will be four in two weeks and her threenager mood swings seem to be getting worse not better. She is constantly "hurting" herself and crying - just brushing her arm will cause a "you hurted me" meltdown. She is forever asking to do things at inopportune times, for example painting just before we leave the house or getting the paddling pool out at bedtime, and then screaming /stamping /slamming doors when we say not right now. Everything you try to do with her is dismissed as "boring" or "poop" and I must hear "I'm not your friend" screamed at me twenty times a day. She wants to do everything "all by my own" (stamping and screaming when you try to help) but then melts down when she can't manage it first time. Sometimes she will start fake crying for no reason and work herself up into a frenzy until she is actually sobbing but doesn't know why. She has always been a challenging child but over the last few weeks she has been getting worse and worse - everything is a problem, everything causes her to lose her shit. </p> <p>Is this standard for the age or do I need to take this kid to the doctor? </p>