https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 03:36:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-18026 Fri, 18 Nov 2011 17:11:39 +0000 MH.Abroad 18026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have a LO yet, but hubby already LOVES infants. He's a little nervous with them, but he can stare at them all day. He always points them out to me in stores and starts cooing at random babies, which occasionally freaks people out! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-17975 Fri, 18 Nov 2011 16:11:55 +0000 BabyLove 17975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This seems pretty normal to me. I mean, newborns can only do so much. I was totally in love with our daughter right away, I only assume my husband felt the same way. I'll have to ask him. He was always great with her, but I wonder if he's still just waiting for her to be more entertaining. I can't help but kinda feel that way too, I want to be able to do fun things with her... aside from sitting on a playmat and watching her do cute things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16932 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 18:33:59 +0000 HabesBabe 16932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubs and I are not newborn fans AT ALL (he's a lot worse than I am). I think he'll start liking our LO after s/he can hold up his/her head. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16773 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 15:39:22 +0000 sorrycharlie 16773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: that totally made me tear up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16770 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 15:37:20 +0000 mediagirl 16770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He is so good with kids. When he sees babies, toddlers, kids, etc, he talks to them, giggles with them, etc. I, on the other hand, am afraid of small babies. I think I'm just afraid I won't know what to do with them or I'll drop them. Guess that will have to change soon, huh? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16756 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 15:19:59 +0000 L2sweetpea 16756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither my SO or I are huge newborn fans, besides the cuddling part. By no means does that mean we don't take care of or love our LO, but we are definitely players. We love running around with our 1 year old niece, and while I don't want my DD growing up too fast, we cannot wait for that to happen. My SO took a while to get into our LO, but when we started getting smiles and more responses he has definitely started playing with her more. I can guarantee you that when she starts moving, he is going to be all over the place with her and I! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16531 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 10:42:01 +0000 tequiero21 16531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we don't have our babies yet.... but i think bonding is easier when they can start to talk and walk because they can communicate back. maybe some guys (like my hubby) just can't get all lovey dovey without any reciprocation? (i really don't know how my hubby will be when the kids come, i'll have to update haha) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16529 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 10:39:51 +0000 Maysprout 16529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's been great with her. When she was born and we were still in the delivery room, she calmed down when he went over to her being cleaned off and she heard his voice. I'm pretty sure that melted him and they bonded right away. She's always been very responsive to him, even from a young age when all she could do is communicate with looks and kicks and he was the one to swaddle and sing her to sleep after she nursed so they've found good ways to interact. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16521 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 10:23:47 +0000 sorrycharlie 16521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't wait to see how DH is. We have a 2 y/o nephew, and he's great with him now (only held him occasionally as a newborn). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16471 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 09:27:20 +0000 Mrs. Marbles 16471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wasn't that Mr. Marbles wasn't into newborns, but he felt that Little M was so fragile and tiny he had trouble making her comfortable when holding her because he's so big (he's 6'5")! He definitely bonded with her right away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16385 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 23:46:15 +0000 Meridian 16385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband definitely likes babies/kids more than I do!! I believe that includes newborns (our friend has a newborn, and we also have young nieces and nephews). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16367 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 22:57:34 +0000 Killer b 16367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither my husband and I are good with newborns. We both confessed to feeling like our new baby was a "human puppy" that was suddenly foisted on us, needing to be changed and fed and burped. It wasn't until about 10 weeks that I started to feel more of those "in love" feelings. Now I can't imagine what life would be without her! I'm looking forward to the walking/talking stage </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16331 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 21:36:23 +0000 cyndistar3 16331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband loves babies :) he connected with our daughter when he started feeling her kick in my belly and always loved to play with her and cuddle with her from the minute she was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16274 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 20:19:29 +0000 heffalump 16274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband always says he can't wait for our LO to grow up because she'll be more fun. He says that b/c I always say I dont' want her to grow up b/c it makes me sad.</p> <p>But he does love her and have a good bond with her now. She gives her best giggles to him :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16272 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 20:13:45 +0000 MsMini 16272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have our own baby yet, but DH doesn't really interact with infants, until they are walking around. He will take pictures of them, wave at them, but refuses to hold them (he did end up holding his niece when he sister dropped her in his lap - LOL). I know that this will change when it is our own though, I think he is going to a be a baby cuddling machine with his own baby. I of course love newborns (I better since I am an NICU nurse). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16241 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 19:42:52 +0000 Andrea 16241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think he is super interested in other newborns but he bonded with our daughter immediately. We both did, luckily, even though neither of us spent time with any babies beforehand. But having a toddler is definitely more fun. Now I can feel like I am hanging out with my LO vs just meeting her basic needs when she was itty bitty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16224 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 19:32:03 +0000 swgal 16224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My hubby is a total baby hog. If there is a newborn around he`s holding it. He is definitely not the norm! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16201 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 19:14:31 +0000 Mrs. D 16201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He loves babies, every time we see one, he looks to see my reaction with a grin on his face. I can't wait to see the huge grin on his face when our LO comes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16196 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 19:10:30 +0000 lilteacherbee 16196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have kids yet, but DH definitely bonds with toddlers more than infants. I've always had babies around in my extended family and I teach little kids, so I'm used to being with children. However, DH was an only child and wasn't around very many babies growing up. When I try to get him to hold a baby (less than a year old), he says he's "scared he'll break him/her." But, we've been talking about TTC and he gets really excited, so I think he'll be different with our own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16184 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 18:47:20 +0000 cyneswith 16184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is NOT a baby person, but he adores toddlers on up (and they adore him too - it was so weird when a friend's 3 year old met him. That kid doesn't like ANYONE, and she plopped down in his lap.) He had 4 younger siblings - there were babies around until he was 9. So to him, babies just eat, poop, and scream. I'm sure it'll be different with his own, though. I love kids from day one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16150 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 17:42:10 +0000 SAHM0811 16150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think most men aren't as in tune with newborns as they are with toddlers. My DH is def one of those, but I figured that out quickly after DD#1. I just took it day-by-day that whole first year, as I was the one doing mostly everything baby-related. </p> <p>He started to bond with her by 15 to 18 months... Playing ball I think was one of their fave first activities together. These days it's teaching her how to ride a scooter, taking her to the toy store, eating identical Spongebob Popsicles from an ice cream truck (in the summer), and discussing video games. She even wanted to be a character from one of his video games for Halloween. Total daddy's girl!</p> <p>DH is bonding with DD#2 faster though. At four months, he's totally into coming up with different ways to make her laugh. He did that with #1 too, but definitely not as much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16144 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 17:30:38 +0000 Lozza 16144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 7.5 months old and while SO spends a lot of time looking after him, he's still not into him yet. SO is super intellectually-curious, so I think once DS starts asking "why?" all the time, that'll up their bond immensely. (thank goodness, because I want nothing to do with those multi-hour-long "but WHY???" sessions that little kids get into!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16138 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 17:20:16 +0000 chopsuey 16138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>husband bonded immediately. all he ever wanted to do with the baby was skin to skin! I think he had more skin to skin time with our LO than I did! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16120 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 17:04:22 +0000 runsyellowlites 16120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a big baby person... I mean I loved DS and was definitely more inclined to him than other kids, but my niece who's 5mths I think I've held her like 5 times (we see her almost weekly)</p> <p>DH on the other hand LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVES babies.. even newborns! He could hold &amp; talk to them ALL day! It's kind of funny to see. lol</p> <p>So in our case we're the opposite... but I guess we even each other out &amp; atleast I know when LO gets here I'll get some relief when he's home. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16119 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 17:03:59 +0000 Adira 16119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, my husband and I don't have children yet, but my best friend does, and we see her and her child all the time. In the beginning, when her daughter was just a newborn, my husband just had a mild interest in her and pretty much ignored her most of the time. Now that she's a toddler and is walking and talking, my husband LOVES her! Whenever they are over, my husband plays hide and seek with the daughter and hangs out with her while I catch up with my friend! So even though she's not ours, I can definitely tell that my husband likes the toddler stage more than the baby stage, so you're not the only one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-your-so-into-newborns-when-did-your-so-really-get-into-your-lo#post-16099 Tue, 15 Nov 2011 16:35:35 +0000 mrbee 16099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel horrible confessing this, but I have trouble connecting with newborns. I don't know why, and I feel really bad about it.</p> <p>But I love toddlers and really connect with them. I think the breakthrough was when he started to giggle and laugh at things. Then after that, the next huge breakthrough was when he started to walk and talk.</p> <p>I guess it's not a surprise then that I really got into Charlie when he was around one year old. Bee remembers this better than me, and said that she bought a tricycle for him at 14 months and that I took him out all the time in that.</p> <p>Now I play with Charlie all the time, and these days am probably spending the most time with him outside of his daycare providers. I love it, and don't see it changing for years to come.</p> <p>But I wonder what's wrong with me that I am not into newborns. Anyone else wrestle with this... or have an SO that struggles with the same issue? How did you guys manage it? </p>