https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 14:31:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/issues-with-the-nanny-feeding-my-lo#post-555884 Fri, 08 Feb 2013 00:13:05 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 555884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippity: Ooh that's tough! We have a friend in a similar situation, and she took the approach of "things have really changed in pediatrics in the last 20 years" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/issues-with-the-nanny-feeding-my-lo#post-555871 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 23:51:55 +0000 zippity 555871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs jacks I thought I did explain it in a logical way, and I showed her the sample menus/portions the pediatrician gave us, because I thought that might help as an 'objective' source of information.</p> <p>@mrbee our nanny is in her late 50s and has been doing this for years; sometimes I think she feels she knows better than first time parents.</p> <p>@sooz I was leaving notes instructing on our daily sheets about how much to feed (I leave for work before she arrives) but maybe I will start leaving the food out in appropriate portions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/issues-with-the-nanny-feeding-my-lo#post-555862 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 23:38:09 +0000 sooz 555862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's so interesting that you posted this, because I also had a feeling that our nanny was "overfeeding" our LO because he was also less interested in his nighttime bottle when he first started solids.</p> <p>I casually mentioned it to her one time and told her that he didn't seem to be interested in his bottle, but she didn't take a hint. So, what I started doing was putting out only the exact amount that I wanted her to feed him and I also began to "hide" the extra oatmeal cereal and I also told her that I spoke to LO's doctor and she specifically told me not to feed more than XX amount because he absolutely had to have XX oz. of milk. I would also wrote this in capital letters on our daily schedule sheet (our nanny keeps a daily log where I write any notes/instructions and she logs his naps/food/BMs).</p> <p>It was sort of a pain to prepare everything the day before and measure it all out for her, but it solved the problem. Now that LO is 9 months, I'm not as concerned about his milk intake and he seems to be able to self-monitor how much he wants to eat.</p> <p>Oh, I don't think she meant specifically go against my wishes, but I think she was just feeding LO as much as he would/wanted to eat. Unfortunately, that interfered with his milk consumption. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/issues-with-the-nanny-feeding-my-lo#post-555861 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 23:37:47 +0000 Arden 555861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's odd. To me, the parent's word is law. It's their child, not mine. I never went against any of the parent's wishes when I was nannying - after all, my entire job is treating their child as they would if they were available.<br /> I would definitely have a serious chat with her about following your instructions - it's your baby, and you're the boss! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/issues-with-the-nanny-feeding-my-lo#post-555857 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 23:35:23 +0000 mrbee 555857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippity: Can I ask... how old is your nanny, and what's her work experience like? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/issues-with-the-nanny-feeding-my-lo#post-555856 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 23:34:19 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 555856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our nanny is very responsive to direction. Did you explain all the logical reasons and ask her why she's doing it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/issues-with-the-nanny-feeding-my-lo#post-555849 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 23:27:12 +0000 zippity 555849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO started solids a month ago and last week his nanny started feeding him "lunch". I noticed that he wasn't really interested in eating at dinner time or his bottle before bed. He also started waking up more frequently during the night. So over the weekend I cut back how much he ate at mid-day, giving him about half of what his nanny had been feeding him - he was back to taking bottles at his normal frequency and slept through the night.</p> <p>My husband and I spoke with our nanny on Monday, telling her what we tried over the weekend and asking that she reduce how much he is fed at lunch time. I also mentioned to her that nutrition-wise it is most important that he drinks his bottles and that solids are for "fun". On Monday and Tuesday she fed him half of what she had been giving him and it seemed to go well. </p> <p>On Wednesday I came home to find she was back to feeding him twice what we agreed upon. I thought it was weird, but maybe he had a hungry day. Today I came home from work and found again that she fed him a large lunch and he was barely interested in his bedtime bottle and dinner!</p> <p>We are going to sit down with her on Monday morning to discuss this all again, ask why she is feeding him more and reiterate the negative impact this is having on my LO's sleep. This isn't the first time I have told her how I would like things done, only to have her disregard it - so I don't know how it will be received.</p> <p>Has anyone dealt with something like this before? Or have any ideas or advice on how to frame this discussion? </p>