https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Jul 2026 07:03:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/it-gets-better#post-2535972 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 12:17:37 +0000 psw27 2535972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>xo. I hope you continue to heal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/it-gets-better#post-2535967 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 12:12:47 +0000 catlady 2535967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is beautiful. Yes, it does get better. You will always remember, though. It makes it that much sweeter when things finally go right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/it-gets-better#post-2535960 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 12:07:49 +0000 MaryM 2535960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@janeybee: I think it's great that you're starting to see the light, but I would caution not to put that box too far back on the shelf. </p> <p>That was my coping mechanism after my first loss (to try not to recognize the grief) and it came back to bite me big time. </p> <p>"If I think about it too much, or let my heart feel the loss when I'm alone, I start to cry." - Never let yourself be convinced that there is anything wrong with that! The more you feel your emotions in the present, the less they'll compound and surprise you in the future. </p> <p>I agree with being patient and gentle with yourself, and it's great that you're feeling better (please don't get me wrong). I just wanted to make sure you aren't totally suppressing things because that's not healthy either. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/it-gets-better#post-2535951 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 12:02:59 +0000 janeybee 2535951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: I remember seeing that. I was so heartbroken at the time I couldn't believe this was happening to anyone else - it just doesn't seem fair. If I think about it too much, or let my heart feel the loss when I'm alone, I start to cry. When I have to talk about it, the words catch in my throat. It's still fresh. At least I can now write about it without crying - maybe that's one step in the right direction. We need to be patient and gentle with ourselves - baby steps. xo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/it-gets-better#post-2535950 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 12:02:41 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2535950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So beautifully written. :heart: </p> <p>I felt that way, too. I don't know how long it took to feel better, but I did. And while I'm lucky enough to have my rainbow baby in my arms right now, it doesn't take away the hurt &amp; sorrow over the baby that would've been. :goodluck: :heart: :happy: to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/it-gets-better#post-2535947 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 12:01:24 +0000 janeybee 2535947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: Thank you for being present for your friends and sympathizing with them, even if you can't fix it for them. It's hard to do, but support is so important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/it-gets-better#post-2535935 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 11:54:40 +0000 Raindrop 2535935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*big hugs* Thank you for sharing. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/it-gets-better#post-2535934 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 11:53:25 +0000 Cherrybee 2535934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/it-gets-better#post-2535933 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 11:53:18 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2535933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine was around the same time as yours. Some days I feel good and some nights I just sit and cry after everyone has gone to bed. My heart feels so broken. I feel the light sometimes too. And it's so nice to know that there will hopefully be a day when we feel the light more than we feel the dark. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/it-gets-better#post-2535927 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 11:48:43 +0000 snowjewelz 2535927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is beautiful, thank you for sharing. :heart: :heart: </p> <p>I currently have two friends reeling from their losses, and I hope and pray SO much that they will feel better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/it-gets-better#post-2535920 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 11:45:07 +0000 janeybee 2535920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One month ago, after my miscarriage, I thought I would never be able to feel happy again. I was sure I would be followed by the dark cloud that had formed over my head and in my heart for the rest of my life. I was heartbroken and I thought it would never heal. My doctor reassured me that what I was feeling was mostly hormonal, but that didn't seem right. The sadness was coming from my heart. I was suddenly in a very dark tunnel, and I thought that was where I would stay. </p> <p>Last week I finally started feeling better. I had two days when my heart actually felt light. I could sincerely joke with my colleagues and laugh with my husband, and not feel like it was a total lie. Suddenly a light had appeared in the tunnel, and I found myself walking towards it. </p> <p>The pregnant me almost seems like a different me. She existed before. She's not here now. I remember her, but she's not me. Not anymore. She might exist again one day, but not today. In the meantime, she exists as a sweet memory. </p> <p>One month ago I was heartbroken. I've put that in a box and tucked it on a shelf in the back of a closet that hides in my heart. It's not completely better. It might never be because I'm different now - but my heart feels better, and I'll take better. </p> <p>There's a crack of light in the cloud. </p>