https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 14:00:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy/page/2#post-2177188 Wed, 13 May 2015 15:14:43 +0000 peaches1038 2177188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrscobee: Yeahhhhh I was not pleased. Thankfully we live far away from them so I don't have to deal with it all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy/page/2#post-2176701 Wed, 13 May 2015 10:35:13 +0000 ninja 2176701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyLayneAZ: I'm with you on that one!! Most of my friends are older and done having kids..I was kinda sad to not share my pregnancy with someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy/page/2#post-2176661 Wed, 13 May 2015 10:16:04 +0000 mrscobee 2176661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: I know people can't live their whole lives for others, but that's kind of crappy that she did an early announcement when she knew yours was forthcoming when she was due after you! I would be pissed! Like really, she couldn't have waited a few more weeks?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy/page/2#post-2176640 Wed, 13 May 2015 10:02:46 +0000 peaches1038 2176640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: I get it! My SIL is pregnant with her second and due like two weeks after is. I'm pregnant with my first. She knew we were expecting and she announced her pregnancy to all of her family and on Facebook before we did. I totally get the "she had her turn" feelings. And like you, I'm thrilled that she is pregnant and I feel selfish for having these feelings. When we did announce at 12 weeks (she announced at 8), almost every comment on their side was about how we are pregnant together and not about our baby. I just do not want them lumped together and compared for the rest of their lives. But whatever, I'm blaming the hormones for my feelings! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy/page/2#post-2176594 Wed, 13 May 2015 09:32:46 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 2176594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm the opposite! All my friends already have kids and I keep trying to convince them to have another so that my (to be conceived..) child will have a friend LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy/page/2#post-2176586 Wed, 13 May 2015 09:30:00 +0000 Happygal 2176586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: I get it! We went through IF treatments and I wanted to experience this first-time pregnancy by myself. And then I felt guilty for those "selfish" types of feelings, making things even worse. I worried that my friends/family members who were pregnant for the second time wouldn't have the same sense of wonder, that they would tell me what to expect, what to do, or be dismissive. "Oh, yeah, I worried about that the first time, but now I just don't have the time!"</p> <p>So I get it.</p> <p>As I got further along in my pregnancy, another friend did get pregnant for her second time. We had fun talking pregnancy talk. My pregnancy was still very special to me. It was all good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176579 Wed, 13 May 2015 09:27:15 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2176579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: I get it. You feel how you feel. Even if brief, I had a few moments when others announced that I felt like their news overshadowed mine. It didn't last long, I may have only once complained to DH about the couple who'd JUST gotten married &amp; are due right after us, but over all I've just relished the fact that I'm pregnant. And I should add that I DID have to share 2 different showers at 2 different places, but even that turned into a positive because I was taken aback by peoples' generosity. You will cycle through many different emotions, maybe they won't all be "pretty", but as long as you move through it, I wouldn't feel bad about this being one of many emotions you feel during your pregnancy. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176506 Wed, 13 May 2015 08:43:54 +0000 Mamaof2 2176506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: yep I totally get it!!!</p> <p>I tried to get preg for 2 years and then when we announced my sister also announced baby #4 - I was feeling pretty ugh about the whole thing. This was MY time for once and now I had to share it =(</p> <p>After a few weeks I got over it and LOVED being pregnant at the same time - we were due 2 weeks apart and it was so fun to do this together. My DS came early so the kids are 5 weeks apart but we refer to them as the "twins" -<br /> fun times! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176479 Wed, 13 May 2015 08:28:09 +0000 hellobeeboston 2176479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: I do get it. But you will love having babies at the same time!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176476 Wed, 13 May 2015 08:23:03 +0000 hellobeeboston 2176476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: omg adorable!! How fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176459 Wed, 13 May 2015 07:59:41 +0000 Peasinapod 2176459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 of my good friends are pregnant and due around the time my baby turns 1. I'm actually jealous they all get to share their pregnancy and mat leaves together! I would have loved friends to commiserate with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176385 Wed, 13 May 2015 05:41:12 +0000 Weagle 2176385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: This looks like a mini version of my closest friend group's kids! Except picture that many 2/3 year olds and then just as many babies. </p> <p>Being pregnant with friends is awesome. And it's so nice once the baby actually comes because you're all working on a similar schedule. I agree with whoever said that no one cares about your pregnancy as much as you do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176349 Tue, 12 May 2015 23:34:45 +0000 meganmp 2176349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: I get it. Yeah, it's irrational, but I still get it. After 2 years of infertility, 3 failed IUIs and a failed IVF, I found out a friend of mine had gotten pregnant 1st try and was due 3 weeks after me. I was annoyed. It was totally not cool and I refused to tell anyone except DH, but I still felt that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176339 Tue, 12 May 2015 23:19:28 +0000 mrscobee 2176339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: cute!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176337 Tue, 12 May 2015 23:17:12 +0000 anonysquire 2176337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seriously? I was pregnant at the same time as all my sister in laws and my sister. It was the best. We could all share pregnancy woes, and now that all the babies are here, we give eachother and ask for advice. and our babies have built in friends. You will end up loving it and loving that your baby has friends close in age. </p> <p>I'm including a photo of all the 5 babies born in my fam this year because it's cute. Trust me, sharing pregnancy is a good thing. </p> [attach=1857/15/no9t8p.600x600.IMG_20150404_172906.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176334 Tue, 12 May 2015 23:11:09 +0000 MamaCate 2176334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: I just wanted to chime in and say that I get it! When I was pregnant with LO#1, I was really excited, and then I found out that my SIL was pregnant with her third (and practically had the same due date) and another of DH's cousins was also pregnant and due a few weeks later. I had the feeling that it was not as "special" and I just tried to work through that and move on. </p> <p>I think it is okay to acknowledge how you feel and give yourself some grace about it, and eventually appreciate all the positives of this situation that others have pointed out. In our case, I still felt like the center of attention at my shower even though the other two pregnant gals were there and having kids so close together has given SIL and I more to talk about (we are not very close). If she were a friend prior to pregnancy, I think it would be much better.</p> <p>Hugs, mama! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176325 Tue, 12 May 2015 22:44:50 +0000 blackbird 2176325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: THIS!!! Plus nobody will really gab pregnancy talk with you as much as another pregnant woman. You can go back and forth about everything! A friend of mine is due a couple months after me and it has been WAY better "sharing" it with her than going solo, because it's so nice to have someone to talk to about everything who's right there with you </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176319 Tue, 12 May 2015 22:24:46 +0000 birdofafeather 2176319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I would totally focus on the positives! The year my daughter was born, 4 of my BFFs also had kiddos! My friend and I announced to the group on the same day! Everyone was crying and so excited. I've loved having them right on my heels to send texts and say, is this crazy or normal?! And they are right there with me. The second time around, 2 of us are pregnant at the same time again and it's fun to compare and contrast. I get where you're coming from, but there is so much good and fun with having someone else to be in the trenches with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176213 Tue, 12 May 2015 20:18:36 +0000 Mae 2176213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be so pumped if I was you. Mom friends with kids the same age are worth their weight in gold! I had no local friends due around me. Now I have 2 local friends who just had babies and even though they are a year younger almost its so awesome to have local mom friends! I can't wait until our kids are old enough the age difference doesn't matter so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176210 Tue, 12 May 2015 20:05:55 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2176210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was so excited for dear friends who were pregnant at the same time as me. It meant that someone could commiserate, which was awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176202 Tue, 12 May 2015 19:54:03 +0000 mrscobee 2176202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catomd00: I don't think she was suggesting anyone put their life on hold. I think sometimes depending on your personal situation and friend dynamics it can be a little deflating for reasons others have listed. But it doesn't mean anyone expects others to put their life on hold or isn't happy for the person, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176201 Tue, 12 May 2015 19:49:40 +0000 catomd00 2176201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to chalk this one up to pregnancy hormones. At least I hope. No one needs to put their life on hold so you can be the only one pregnant. I wish I had friends that were having babies around the same time as me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176200 Tue, 12 May 2015 19:47:49 +0000 marionberry 2176200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: I understand what you mean. After my struggle getting pregnant, one of my good friends and coworkers got pregnant 2 months before I did. What this meant at work was that everyone talked about her pregnancy most, because she was due first. It felt like I didn't get the usual "pregnant attention" and I was jealous. Looking back now it was stupid and I really loved sharing my pregnancy with her (and our kids' lives now). Subsequently we did the same thing again (her pregnant 6 weeks before me) but this time I got most of the attention because I was pregnant with twins.</p> <p>I say all of this to explain that your feelings are normal but that I think choosing to see the positives vs the negatives of the situation is a much better idea. You'll still get that first mom experience/attention you're craving (even if it happens more from family and friends than coworkers). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176190 Tue, 12 May 2015 19:34:39 +0000 Trailmix 2176190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand how you feel and applaud your sense of awareness in recognizing that it's not entirely rational or warranted. Feelings are feelings and what's important is how you deal with them. </p> <p>I think others have pointed out the important things, that being pregnant is really just a blip in your life radar whereas having a child is a much longer commitment (LOL) so having a friend who will have a child so close in age to yours is awesome! </p> <p>I've had irrational jealous reactions about things, not pregnancy-related but other silly things (like being a bridesmaid, which I have never been!) so I get it. I think what's important is that you acknowledge how you feel, figure out a few ways to deal with it, and then move on. </p> <p>Congrats on your pregnancy, btw! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176187 Tue, 12 May 2015 19:32:00 +0000 mrscobee 2176187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: you described the "off" feeling I have about it perfectly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176186 Tue, 12 May 2015 19:30:55 +0000 BSB 2176186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't say it in my first post but having infertility for the past 3 years, I totally get having jealous tendencies that can happen at anytime. I get it.</p> <p>But for me, I had to get over that friends and family were going to get pregnant with the first or 9th child and that there was nothing I could do about it. The universe just dealt me a bad deck of cards. Yeah, I cried, got pissed, and avoided certain friends. </p> <p>Now that I am pregnant, all I care about is being pregnant. Perfect timelines don't apply to me. Most of my family and friends have 2-3 kids now. I can't tell them to stop TTC. I can't freeze time or go back in time. </p> <p>I do try to keep my head level by remembering all of my friends that are still waiting for their miracle baby. Some friends have been waiting 5+ years. I think of them often. My 3 year journey was hard but I know their journey has been even harder. </p> <p>Anyway, what I would tell my jealous past is to vent and scream all you want. Have your own little pity party. Don't hold back the tears. Have a good cry. Eventually you'll come out of it and it will be a new (better) day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176184 Tue, 12 May 2015 19:25:12 +0000 mrscobee 2176184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: I'm also going to agree with you! All my friends got their own time, and now that I am the last, I get a little irrationally sad when someone is due with their second or third right around "my time". Dumb? Maybe. But I can't help that it bums me out despite the fact that I am happy for them. They all got their time, and my pregnancy is more forgotten despite the fact that they are overall supportive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176177 Tue, 12 May 2015 19:09:06 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2176177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: @2littlepumpkins: @LindsayInNY: I'm glad somebody gets it! It really is just an anticlimactic feeling, feeling "off".</p> <p>I know I'll get over it, and all will be well once this initial bummed out feeling passes. I guess I feel bad that I am feeling this way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176169 Tue, 12 May 2015 18:59:07 +0000 LindsayInNY 2176169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm on my phone but I wish I could send you an old post of mine (I don't think I deleted it?). I found out my SIL got pregnant on her honeymoon to someone she had only known six months. Everyone knew but DH and I. And, at the same time, no one yet knew that I was pregnant. Our due dates are two days apart. My emotions were a mess initially and it was hard for me to be happy for her. Now, although some things still suck in a way (she's close in distance to family and were not, for example), it's been nice to have someone to go through it all with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jealous-to-share-my-pregnancy#post-2176166 Tue, 12 May 2015 18:56:47 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2176166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Microscope: Sounds like the experience is just a little anticlimactic in a way? And maybe it's more of a feeling like you one by one participated and got excited for them, and now that they all have kids already, and you have to "share" your pregnancy, it doesn't quite feel reciprocal? I could understand that. It didn't happen to me, but I could see that maybe just feeling "off." Maybe if you give it time it will pass, especially as you start to get ready for your shower! </p>