https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 13:46:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-420549 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:58:45 +0000 heffalump 420549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. Ive never been told what to gift. That's pretty rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-420526 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:51:51 +0000 tequiero21 420526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dagret: @pastemoo: haha someone at the office was saying all the docs r contributing the same amount... Apparently, this is a huge event... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-420336 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 20:42:10 +0000 pastemoo 420336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: WHAT? Hosts cannot require a gift. That is cray cray </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-420308 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 20:29:11 +0000 dagret 420308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: holy crap! </p> <p>How did you find out that $188 is low-end? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-420241 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 19:36:11 +0000 tequiero21 420241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>update: the party is this weekend and apparently, $188 is very low. let's just say it's black tie and they want us to contribute what a charity event would charge for a seat. nice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299750 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 11:55:03 +0000 Trailmix 299750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Cash or a gift, it's up to you! I got both at mine (some jewelry and pretty judaica stuff and some non-Jewish stuff too, as well as cash) and when you're 13 years old, you pretty much think any present is awesome:) If you decide to do cash, I think the amount can be somewhat dictated (just like at weddings) by the apparent fanciness of the party and how close you are to the family, so that's really your call... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299715 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 11:37:47 +0000 dagret 299715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's cousin's girlfriend's daughter (whew!) had her bat mitzvah last year and we gave her $54 - it wasn't super-fancy, and we aren't that close to her. DH's cousins who are closer to her gave less than that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299596 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:44:43 +0000 DillonLion 299596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I made enough money at my bat mitzvah to buy a car when I turned 16 three years later. I.e. most people gave me cash. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299589 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:41:16 +0000 pastemoo 299589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got lots of gifts for my Bat Mitzvah. Very little cash. The best were some pretty necklaces, some donations to charity in my name, and some nice Judaica (ritual objects like candle sticks, besamim, kiddush cup).<br /> I recommend: Jewish books, jewelry, or a mezuzah with a real scroll inside. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299556 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:31:08 +0000 heffalump 299556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: its chai which means life and represents good luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299549 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:29:48 +0000 Shutterbug 299549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: I guess I'd say do what you'd do for a wedding. Maybe (if you can afford it) go for $180 - it's tradition like Hilsy said, which shows you did your research, and it's safely in the generous range. Can't hurt to impress the partner, right? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299542 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:27:52 +0000 hilsy85 299542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: It represents chai, I think, which means good luck and life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299539 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:27:04 +0000 hilsy85 299539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: You don't NEED to give multiples of 18, it's just more traditional...I usually go by the same rules that I would for a wedding--how close am I to the family, how fancy is the event, etc. $100 isn't cheap at all--if it were a close family member and it was a formal bat mitzvah, then I might be more likely to give $180. But either way, you're fine! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299531 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:24:53 +0000 tequiero21 299531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thx ladies!</p> <p>@hilsy85: So... Like $180?<br /> @Rachel: Is $100 reasonable everywhere? We r in jersey and not sure if we should factor that in...<br /> @hilsy85, @artbee: what is the significance of 18? That's interesting. Never heard that before.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299529 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:24:19 +0000 heffalump 299529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money is always nice. Like @hilsy85: said multiples of 18, $100 isn't cheap at all. Its like a wedding I think, I give what I can afford and try to at least cover my plate. </p> <p>If you want to give a gift you can give some sort of judaica like a star of David necklace or something like that. Jewishsoure.com is a good website for that stuff, and of course you can always find cute things on etsy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299516 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:17:46 +0000 Shutterbug 299516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not Jewish, but went to about 15 bar/bat mitzvahs in 7th/8th grade. Pretty sure I gave them all money. Think of it as a wedding for a 13 year old. At least around here (MA) they were treated exactly like weddings - DJ, photographer, speeches, semi-formal attire, favors, etc. I think $100 sounds reasonable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299515 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:16:57 +0000 hilsy85 299515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually it's traditional to give money in multiples of 18. I've never known anyone to get gifts for a bar/bat mitzvah. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/jewish-bees-what-to-get-for-barbat-mitzvah#post-299508 Tue, 18 Sep 2012 10:11:52 +0000 tequiero21 299508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My hubs' partner's daughter is having, I think, a bat mitzvah(?)... What should we get her and how much to spend? Is $100 too cheap? Think partner!</p> <p>P.s. I guess u don't have to be Jewish lol. If u have gone to one....</p> <p>P.s.s. I think it is a girl... But just in case it is a boy.... </p>