https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 14:44:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-802953 Thu, 23 May 2013 09:40:29 +0000 LindsayInNY 802953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Whaaat?! Totally NOT okay to refer to it as an interviewer!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-802460 Thu, 23 May 2013 06:26:39 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 802460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sunny: I ended up only wearing my band. One of the interviewers referred to my marriage/ hubby, which prompted c the other two to glance at my hand. Oh well foe trying to I keep things low key. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-802335 Thu, 23 May 2013 00:27:25 +0000 sunny 802335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never even considered this so I voted to wear both. But I can see the reasoning behind leaving them at home too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-698796 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 10:30:13 +0000 LindsayInNY 698796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I interviewed while engaged, I took my e-ring off. When interviewing married now, I only wear my band. Truth is, people do judge... If engaged, I don't want anyone assuming I'm going to be planning my wedding all day. Now still newly-ish wed, I don't want anyone assuming I'm going to have a kid right away and thus not be a reliable employee. It might vary by occupation but that's my experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-698430 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 08:49:08 +0000 msmay 698430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted engagement ring off, wedding band on. In my field, being married wouldn't necessarily hurt me, but I know enough about gendered discrimination in the workplace that I wouldn't want to bring attention to myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-698360 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 08:13:26 +0000 mamabolt 698360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I'm the minority, but I would and do leave off my rings when I interview. Even though it's illegal for them to discriminate against you, you can't prove that's why you aren't offered the job, so why give them any reason to do so? Like it or not, there is an assumption that married women of a certain age are more likely to take a maternity leave, and given the choice between two similar candidates that could be the factor that sways the hiring manager. The only time I'd consider keeping on a wedding band only is if I were interviewing in a new geographic area due to a partner relocating - since it will probably come up that your spouse was relocated when you discuss why you are leaving your current job you're not going to give anything away by wearing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-698339 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 07:51:53 +0000 winniebee 698339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted leave them on.</p> <p>But, in all honesty, if you have a really big ring, I'd probably leave it at home and just wear my wedding band. I don't have that problem, though ; ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-698333 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 07:48:01 +0000 MsLipGloss 698333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: While it is okay in my office to wear a skirt/dress with bare legs, I have only done it a handful of times (and I live in Georgia), and I would *never* do it for an interview! My profession is more conservative than most, but pantyhose are part of business dress, and I would not wear anything less for an interview. It may seem silly or old fashioned, and although I would not base my hiring decision on whether the interviewee had bare legs or not, I would definitely notice, and would probably even jot it down in my notes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-698325 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 07:42:35 +0000 mediagirl 698325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have never in my life considered doing this. I wouldn't want to work for a company that would have a problem with me being married or having children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-698316 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 07:38:36 +0000 tequiero21 698316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think its misleading to not wear any, but i guess thats your prerogative. ive never been in a situation where it would have mattered. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-698299 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 07:23:28 +0000 looch 698299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wear my rings on interviews. I am very conscious about apperances during interviews, I know we all say it shouldn't matter, but it does. </p> <p>My rings are always on the smaller side compared to American standards, so it's not an issue of size or flashiness. If someone doesn't want to offer me a position based on my jewlery, that is their loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-697096 Sun, 07 Apr 2013 07:43:25 +0000 Rubies 697096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For any important job-related "thing", I always only wear just my wedding band. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-697068 Sun, 07 Apr 2013 06:53:30 +0000 rachiecakes 697068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: I would never think that in So Cal! In Boston bare legs (&amp; arms) are very unprofessional. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-697063 Sun, 07 Apr 2013 06:33:23 +0000 avivoca 697063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted "wear both" but generally I don't wear my engagement ring on a daily basis. I've never really thought about it before. Both places I've worked have been fairly family friendly, and the organization I work for now is really great about helping our mothers when they come back from maternity leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-697038 Sun, 07 Apr 2013 04:43:53 +0000 illumina 697038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would remove them. When I interviewed for my last job, I wasn't engaged and somehow I managed to get the job even though I thought it was way out of reach for someone with my experience... incidentally, I got engaged a few days afterwards so I showed up to work a month later with my ring and plans of a wedding. I still feel I got that job because I wasn't married or had children yet.</p> <p>I'd say the opposite for a man though... when I meet men at work I always check for a wedding ring.. I think it implies stability to me, and that someone must like them enough to marry them, so they must be ok lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-697010 Sun, 07 Apr 2013 00:22:00 +0000 anonysquire 697010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always remove my rings for job interviews. I would hate to not get a job because they thought I was "well off" just because of my ring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-697003 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 23:29:46 +0000 mamimami 697003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd actually think a married woman might be perceived as more serious or stable. But it depends so much on the interviewer's quirks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-697001 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 23:23:42 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 697001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: to me, I know it's bad but, if I really wanted and needed the job, i'd do whatever it took to make sure I landed it. Yeah...even if I do take off my ring. But, first day on the job: the ring will be back! And i'll be damn if I'm not also knocked up 12 months into the gig, hehe. I mean, get the job by playing the game...and then once you're in, all you have to worry about is doing the job well, your personal life is no business of theirs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696980 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 22:50:18 +0000 shopaholic 696980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I have heard more times than I can think of on people commenting on someone's car, ring, purse, shoes (I worked in the fashion industry) and everyone and anyone would make judge-y comments like "she doesn't even NEED to work/a job", etc. Awful, but you know even managers think like that!</p> <p>ETA: That's why even the way you dress for the interview is important for non-verbal signals. Dress nice, but not nicer than the interviewer would potentially be. Leave the flashy, designer, etc. stuff at home. DH does a lot of interviews too and these things are always mentally checked. I even had one manager who had a personal thing about stockings and bare legs. She thought women should always wear pantyhose if legs were exposed and no open-toe shoes (and we live in SoCal!) No interviewee in their right mind would think that would be important, but to her it was... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696955 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 22:23:34 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 696955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: Yes, your assumption is correct! This *is* the company I want to (continue) work for. Perhaps in a different economy or industry or job function I could take my gender and my employer's personnel needs for granted, but I can't.</p> <p>@betsyboop: That's what I have been leaning toward- band only. DH keeps saying just turn the e-ring around, but just my luck I will have some akward moment and stab or swipe someone with it.</p> <p>@shopaholic: Speaking of taking mental notes DH advised me to wear a pantsuit instead of a skirt suit. Edited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696920 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 21:55:50 +0000 littlek 696920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't even think to take off my rings. In my industry everyone knows everyone so they would think I was having marital issues if I showed up without my ringss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696917 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 21:53:01 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 696917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't, just because I don't want them judging on the size or it or whatever. My wedding band isn't exactly stand-alone without the e-ring anyways so for me they would both have to come off.<br /> I assume if I am applying, then I really want/need the job...once I get it, they can deal with my "baggage" hehe.<br /> Luckily for me, in my field, we're all mostly women and it is a government/federal job so it's totally not a concern of mine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696881 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 21:30:26 +0000 shopaholic 696881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have had and heard these kinds of thoughts before. I would consider not wearing them if I were in certain fields. Even though sexual discrimination is illegal, little signs like the size of your ring, a ring in general, can easily be mentally checked and taken into account. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696876 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 21:27:48 +0000 Bookish 696876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I had honestly not considered this. I started my first full-time job when I was engaged and had to take time off within the first month to get married+go on my honeymoon. I informed them the minute they offered me a job, and it was never a problem. If the place I was interviewing wouldn't hire me because I might potentially have children, I wouldn't want to work there anyways! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696874 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 21:27:26 +0000 betsyboop 696874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've only interviewed once since I got married but I wore my wedding band and left my e ring off. I wanted the employer to know I was somewhat "settled" in my life but didn't want them making any potential assumptions about my drive or desire to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696850 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 21:16:19 +0000 Foodnerd81 696850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My industry is pretty dominated by young women so it really wasn't a concern at my current job (plus I wasn't married or engaged when I interviewed). I guess it would depend on the field and environment. I wouldn't want to mislead about being married but I could see leaving the e ring home to draw less attention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696829 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 20:51:40 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 696829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I probably would go ahead and wear them, but this reminds me of something else I heard -- employers walking candidates out to their cars to check for child safety seats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696820 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 20:46:19 +0000 MrsH 696820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: if they already know you, then I don't really see a reason to not wear them. Even if they didn't know you I would still wear them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696808 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 20:36:15 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 696808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: long story, but I am reinterviewing with my company. my "future" employer knows a lot about me already- age, how long I have been married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-interview-wear-e-ring-and-band#post-696804 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 20:33:56 +0000 rachiecakes 696804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the "who cares - wear what you want" camp but I have heard of discrimination over bigger carat diamonds, and seeing an engagement ring = time off for wedding &amp; honeymoon that being brought up. It's so wrong. </p>