https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 16 Jun 2026 21:37:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762840 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 18:36:21 +0000 gotkimchi 2762840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh sorry! I don't think you guys did anything wrong, something better will come your way </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762837 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 18:35:27 +0000 Kimberlybee 2762837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: I am so sorry! Hope everything works out for the best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762811 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 17:19:01 +0000 pachamama 2762811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was so hoping for a different ending. I'm sorry!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762796 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 15:38:38 +0000 LBee 2762796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a bummer! No sense in dwelling on what you might have done wrong, I'm glad it sounds like you at least have a solid alternative plan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762795 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 15:36:42 +0000 Truth Bombs 2762795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: So sorry things didn't work out as you hoped! I would take this as a learning experience, try to focus on the good in your life instead of the disappointment, and keep looking for the next opportunity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762790 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 15:28:46 +0000 birdofafeather 2762790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: I'm sorry. I didn't reply earlier but I was holding out hope for you and DH. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762781 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 15:03:32 +0000 bloved 2762781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: I am so sorry! That stinks! But it really does not sound like your husband did anything wrong- they should certainly expect negotiations. Hopefully this just means something bigger and better is waiting for you, but I know it's hard in the meantime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762779 Fri, 28 Jul 2017 14:50:46 +0000 MenagerieMama 2762779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They rescinded the offer today. Said they decided to go in a different direction all together. I am so. devastated. This move would have meant we'd be so much closer to family (few hour drive instead of across the country w/2 plane rides), I could have started a new job with a better salary and time off plan, and I would have had several more months at home with LO2. I suppose if they were this dysfunctional to draw things out for a month and then change their minds we may have dodge a bullet. But I can't keep thinking of what we should have done differently or what went wrong. I am just so so sad. DH will have to take the job here now, which doesn't start until December probably. He's going to get more time home with the baby then I did. I'm not sure how I'll keep it together in front of our oldest when we pick her up from school :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762423 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 13:18:53 +0000 MenagerieMama 2762423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: I hope they didn't think we were too forward by proposing a pseudo-deadline for an offer for their proposed start date. I hadn't even really considered DH moving ahead of me. There are so many problems that would cause, but big picture, it could be done. I hope we haven't annoyed them too much! Man, it's so hard to know what we are supposed to be doing and whats going on. All they will tell us is that the CEO is busy. And if that's it that's fine! Makes sense. I just can't keep my mind from wandering that they're hiring someone else instead... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762377 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 11:18:53 +0000 MenagerieMama 2762377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: @MrsLonghorn: @shabang: thanks all. I think I'll advise him to just wait for now. And I'll cancel the rental showings we had. I think you all nailed it that we really just want to know the hold up reason. I think if we knew we could be at peace! And he's actually in a position of necessity. Sept was a late start for them so that's why we're confused as to why they aren't moving faster. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762365 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 10:55:03 +0000 shabang 2762365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This doesn't seem that drawn out to me (lots of nonprofit experience). They're probably trying to work through the details of the counter offer. </p> <p>At this point, I would give them some space. If they went through the whole process of the interview and selected him as the candidate, if they couldn't meet the counter offer, I would find it more likely that they come back with that answer than take the offer away. </p> <p>I don't think repeated attempts at contact and attempting to renegotiate back to the original offer at this point will be helpful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762364 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 10:52:37 +0000 MrsLonghorn 2762364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nonprofits are notoriously slow - polite follow up is definitely appropriate. i wouldn't panic!</p> <p>(for context: i have worked for nonprofits for all but 1 job. I currently work at a Foundation, and both consult to and fund many nonprofits) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762363 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 10:51:40 +0000 LBee 2762363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: Agreed. As a small business employee/employer, we tend to be very macro. If someone was emailing me about start dates and I was still working on whether we could financially work with the counter, I would most likely ignore it. It's a different world working for a small company and even more different working for a non-profit. I would really back off and when you do check back in (probably in a week or two) I would just ask point blank what the hold up is. That's the real issue, not the timing - you can be separate for awhile or he can accept this other position you mentioned. FWIW, I think when you are in the situation it feels like forever, but the timeline you are providing doesn't sound that absurd - especially since the position is being created for him (indicating that while there is a need, it isn't a dire need as it wasn't fully being addressed prior) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762360 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 10:47:52 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2762360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: I would think either calling the CEO or asking HR to set up a brief follow up call is appropriate at this stage. Not asking for anything else from them but a status update. </p> <p>I assume at this point he could even potentially try to ask if there is some sticky point in his counter offer that is holding things up. Be open and just have him say, if there is something they are uncomfortable with or are having trouble processing/approving then lets pull that off the table. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762332 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 10:08:37 +0000 MenagerieMama 2762332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: okay, thanks for the advice! It's true, we will make whatever we need to work and I just need to find some peace with the unknown for now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762319 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 09:53:34 +0000 Truth Bombs 2762319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: I think it's fine that he told them his family has some extenuating circumstances that affect his timeline, but I would just back off at this point. If y'all end up having to be separated for a little while because he needs to start his new job before you finish up your old one it's not the end of the world if it means you get to move where you want to be for the long term. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762272 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 08:44:56 +0000 MenagerieMama 2762272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: thanks! I suppose ultimatum was a strong wording. Because I need at least 30d notice for my job we need at least a month from offer to start date so he just said they would need to move the start date back a month because we just can't do the move that quickly otherwise. Is that too much? I work in healthcare but this kind of situation has never happened to me!</p> <p>ETA: he has one other job offer but it's local here, and we're desperate to relocate! But I'm the breadwinner too so it's not like we will be in financial trouble if this doesn't work out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762268 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 08:38:12 +0000 Truth Bombs 2762268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: My husband is a director at a health care staffing company and I'm often surprised at how difficult it can be for them to move things forward because the decision makers can be very slow. I know y'all are stressed being in limbo, as anyone would be! However, I would pull back on the full court press if this job is something your husband really wants. I wouldn't give any more ultimatums. It sounds like you guys dont have a lot of negotiating power if you really want this job, want to move, and don't have any other offers on the table, so I would let them go at their pace. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762261 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 08:30:12 +0000 gotkimchi 2762261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would call CEO </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762260 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 08:27:16 +0000 MenagerieMama 2762260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: he does, he's rather afraid to bother her though. It's a small organization and the only other contact he has is HR. What do you suggest? I don't know what to advise him, I'm feeling guilty for urging him to negotiate because if he hadn't then we would have a signed offer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762256 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 08:16:54 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2762256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: Does Your DH have contact information for the CEO? Or the person who he's negotiating with? Why only go through HR? </p> <p>At this point I would explain to HR that DH needs to have a follow up conversation on his offer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2762246 Thu, 27 Jul 2017 07:18:22 +0000 MenagerieMama 2762246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm worried. DH talked to HR on Monday and Wednesday and we still haven't heard from the CEO. His last contact he sort of gave them an ultimatum of having an offer signed by Friday or else we'd need to move his start date. But I'm worried that maybe they're interviewing someone else... I'm going to be devastated if he doesn't get this job and we're stuck in the other side of the country from family still. And not to mention DH will be unemployed... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2760833 Sat, 22 Jul 2017 11:10:44 +0000 gotkimchi 2760833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: I absolutely would call on Monday and explain the situation - need the offer to tie up stuff here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2760830 Sat, 22 Jul 2017 10:54:58 +0000 MenagerieMama 2760830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: thanks! That's so reassuring. </p> <p>You all are talking me down from the edge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2760829 Sat, 22 Jul 2017 10:50:02 +0000 MenagerieMama 2760829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: right you're moving to Seattle aren't you? We're doing VA to WA so feel free to join my stress club!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2760827 Sat, 22 Jul 2017 10:44:09 +0000 peaches1038 2760827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are literally going through this exact same situation with my husband right now. We know they really want him and will not withdraw but it is taking FOREVER to get things settled. DH sounds the same in that he is worried about being a bother. We have not been able to rent a house because we need a signed contract showing salary. I gave my notice but my boss would let me stay if something didn't work out. I have been interviewing too but am finding it's harder than I thought it would be since I don't have a local address. We have to be there by 8/20 and it's a 2000 mile move! I feel your pain!! So stressful!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2760826 Sat, 22 Jul 2017 10:31:55 +0000 LBee 2760826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was in the same position (director, healthcare, was created for him) aside from the non profit and had a very similar experience. We just had to be patient and trust that they wanted him. Now being in the company he sees why it took so damn long :silly:</p> <p>ETA: just asked him and he said he would email and explain his wife needs to resign but feels uncomfortable doing so without an offer letter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2760825 Sat, 22 Jul 2017 10:29:27 +0000 MenagerieMama 2760825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: thanks! That does make me feel a lot better. Things are just a much quicker turn around in my field of work so it worries me. I just don't know how they expect us to plan and execute a cross country move in less than a month! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2760822 Sat, 22 Jul 2017 10:15:41 +0000 gotkimchi 2760822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My current job took about 6 weeks. I don't think they'll withdraw the offer - they're just slow </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/job-madness#post-2760817 Sat, 22 Jul 2017 09:28:00 +0000 MenagerieMama 2760817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I need someone to tell me if this is normal or not! About 4 weeks ago DH flew across the country for a job interview. He was offered the job on a Friday and the following business was given an official offer letter. DH wanted to negotiate s few things so he sent an email and had a phone meeting scheduled for the next week. He had the meeting, they weren't super happy about negotiating but we're open to a couple of the things and said they would get back to him the end of the week. That Friday came and went and DH contacted them at the beginning of the next week. Finally heard back on the Wednesday and they said they'd have his revised offer to him by the end of the week. That was yesterday. We've heard crickets. It's for a small non-profit healthcare group and DH would have a very significant director role, it's a pretty unique position and they flew him out for the interview. His only point of contact has been the CEO who is likely very busy which is what we're assuming is slowing things down, and an HR person who can't seem to do anything without going through the CEO. </p> <p>This job would finally allow us to move back home to our home state, which we have been trying to do for the past 2 years. DH has a very unique skill set and jobs don't come up very often. This job is a perfect fit and we internet to have him take it, even if they didn't make any changes - we just felt that negotiating was a given. DH is afraid to bother them more because he doesn't want them to withdraw the offer. </p> <p>I am going crazy not knowing what we're doing. I have to resign my job which should have been done with 90d notice but 30d is the minimum. We have to rent a house asap, arrange movers, etc. Hes supposed to start right after Labor Day. </p> <p>Is this crazy? Is this normal to be so drawn out? Is he not going to be hired and we're just being pulled along? Help! I've told DH he needs to directly ask for his offer on Monday or else we can't accommodate the start date. What does everyone think?? </p>