https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 13:23:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630591 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:50:33 +0000 kml636 630591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>awkward... Just do what you want anyways. She's going to feel so bad. I did that to a friend. I told her DH liked Addison for a girl, but I didn't want to name my baby a name off of a TV show. Well, of course that was her name. I felt like such an A$$. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630572 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:45:49 +0000 Bao 630572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow...that is so rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630556 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:40:37 +0000 KissMeCait 630556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if I would be upset by that. It's not like she knew that you were planning to use the name. She was just expressing her opinion which I personally think is fine. </p> <p>When my BIL &amp; SIL were pregnant, they were team green. My SIL and I were discussing names and she shared her short list. One of the names on it was similar to a name that I said that I didn't like (previously). They ended up naming our niece basically the same name, just starting with a different letter. I still don't like it and I'm pretty sure they know that but it really doesn't matter. I don't have to like the name and they don't care if I do. I definitely didn't feel at all like an asshole when she was born and they announced the name. Everyone has different tastes. As long as the parents like it, that's really all that matters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630552 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:39:43 +0000 jh524 630552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can't agree with you more on this!! Everyone has an opinion. There's always going to be one person who knew a person named that that they didn't like for whatever reason....who cares! That's why we aren't telling anyone our boys name until he arrives because of this exact reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630510 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:27:59 +0000 Cherrybee 630510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh that so easily could have been me dropping myself in it! My gob gets me into trouble!! </p> <p>My mum has made no bones about hating one of our girls names (she says its too "formal". Huh??) and my BFF said my favourite girls name is trashy. Sigh. Stuff 'em, I say! The name will take on a new sound and a new meaning when your LO has it and your friend will grow to love it (not that you care if she does, Im sure!) - enjoy making her squirm if you have a girl!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630414 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:03:10 +0000 Tidybee 630414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Stick to your guns. We were team green and I told one of my friends the list of our names, and she said any of them except THAT one. Well, we named her THAT one. I love it. Everyone has opinions and will like or not like a name for their own reasons. This will teach her a lesson to keep her mouth shut! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630201 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 10:09:39 +0000 Mrs. Train 630201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were keeping our twins names secret except for one of my aunts who makes cross stitched name plaques for each kid asked to know in advanced so she could get it ready. I made the mistake of telling her and she told everyone at my baby shower. Then my sister said that one of the names was stupid. I just looked at her and told her to mind her own business and I can name my son whatever I want. :). Gotta love sisters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630161 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:49:31 +0000 Boheme 630161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She is going to feel like an idiot after your baby is born if you have a girl and use that name! </p> <p>I *never* say anything negative to anyone about their baby names. I always smile, say its great, and ask what significance is has or how they came up with it. The end. We aren't sharing our baby name (except here lol) because we didn't want to hear the comments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630154 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:45:44 +0000 Foodnerd81 630154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess this is the problem with not sharing the names you pick out? Hopefully, if you had told her already, oh we are thinking of xyz, she would have just said, oh that's nice, and left it there (giving her the benefit of the doubt here). </p> <p>I know one time I was talking about my brother's baby names and I mentioned I like the pretty girls name he had picked out, when my pregnant friend, who was keeping her names a secret, admitted that was one of their top choices. Luckily I was saying I liked it, not the other way around, but I had NO idea that she was thinking of it and would have felt like a big arse if I said something negative about it. </p> <p>Names are so personal. I still think you'll get fewer comments not sharing the names than you would if you shared them, so there's that :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630130 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:36:07 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 630130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only comments after someone shares a name should be "that's beautiful!" or "great name." The only questions should be "how do you spell it?" or "how did you decide on the name?"</p> <p>Names are so personal people should be way more supportive and bite their tongue more often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630084 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:19:30 +0000 heartonastring 630084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I'm 36 weeks pregnant and grumpy...nothing sounds witchy to me at the moment :) I agree...it would be an amusing foot-in-mouth moment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630072 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:14:20 +0000 sorrycharlie 630072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ugh! people just don't think.</p> <p>this may sound witchy, but I say good if she feels like an arse afterward - she might learn a lesson in lip-zipping! lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630060 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:12:14 +0000 Modern Daisy 630060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Naming a child is such a personal decision and it's hard enough for the two parents to decide on a name that I agree it's just cruel and rude for anyone to make comments about the name other than "Oh how lovely". Of course it won't be what YOU would have picked out, so get over it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630047 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:07:46 +0000 MrsKoala 630047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sigh. I never understand why people have to say this stuff in public. Keep it to yourself and talk about it in private if you absoluately have to say something about it. There are plenty of names that I haven't liked in the past and I kept it to myself. Now the names have grown on me and I can't imagine those children with a different name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-630005 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 08:49:19 +0000 rawrasaur 630005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't get why people have such strong opinions about baby names. Why do they care so much, especially when it isn't their kid. I do have to say that there is one name that a friend of ours gave their daughter that I am not a fan of, not because it is a bad name, but coupled with their last name I think is kind of mean. That is probably the only time I have spoken ill towards a name choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-629996 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 08:46:57 +0000 mamabolt 629996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my friends said something similar about LO's name before she was born, said someone from her church had just used it and she thought it was such an "old lady" name. It made me question our choice for a little while but but ultimately we decided we love it so we stuck with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-629993 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 08:46:28 +0000 bunnylove08 629993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i do agree with you. We shared our DD's name, Audrey, with Dh's family and they asked why dont I name her Aubree. they said this every time they saw me, they even started to call her Aubree when she was in my tummy. It made me really upset and DH finally told him her name is Audrey so deal with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-629985 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 08:41:37 +0000 heartonastring 629985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm definitely not dissuaded by her comments..I love the name. I just think that people should think about what they're going to say before they open their mouths! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-629983 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 08:40:38 +0000 Rubies 629983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That was one of my biggest pet peeves. You know what I say (and because I'm a B like this), if you have a girl, name her what you planned on naming and tell you friend, "I know you're not a fan of her name but we love it and we've named her after DH's mother who we love dearly." And if you feel like it, add "you biatch!" to the end of that sentence.</p> <p>Just kidding.</p> <p>I am sure the name is beautiful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-629979 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 08:38:02 +0000 ladyfingers 629979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So rude! Stick to your guns, I bet it's a lovely name. Haters gonna hate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgmental-comments-about-one-of-the-names-weve-picked-and-kept-secret#post-629974 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 08:36:42 +0000 heartonastring 629974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my first baby shower yesterday and one of the co-hosts was talking about her SIL and BIL who had a baby girl recently. She told me what they named the baby (a classic girl's name that's not in the top 100) and then proceeded to tell me what a bad name choice it is and how it's going to rise in popularity and all the little girls will have that name.</p> <p>We're Team Green and keeping our names secret, but the name she was talking about? Yeah, it's our girl's name. It's also DH's mother's name. </p> <p>I didn't say anything, but so badly wanted to tell her to just stop, because if we have a girl she (my friend) is going to feel like a total ass.....</p> <p>People, seriously, think before you open your mouths! </p>