https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Jul 2026 10:51:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1945334 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 15:19:30 +0000 mrs. wagon 1945334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My induction was scheduled at 39 weeks due to GD... I was ready (and my doctor was willing!) to induce at 38 weeks with how dilated and uncomfortable I was... Most people weren't judgy, or I didn't care enough to see the judginess..?? Haha. People are stupid. If someone was judgy towards me I'd just say my doctor recommends it due to my medical history and I love and trust my doctor 100%. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1945257 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 14:50:14 +0000 californiadreams 1945257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i agree with others that to make it easy u can say your due is your induction date, but you can also choose to say you are getting induced and if questioned why, you can always go with "why do you need/want to know?" or "doctor's recommendation!" and leave it at that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1945243 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 14:44:19 +0000 LuLu Mom 1945243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: Um I would totally get induced if I were you, the risk is too high for a home/roadside delivery with how fast you go! I wouldn't' lie, just start saying "due date is XYZ" (your new inducement day) because technically it is when you are planning on being due! Just say "they bumped it up" if they ask, which is also true. I already give people my scheduled date instead of "real" DD, however in my mind it is when I'm due! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1945116 Fri, 14 Nov 2014 13:52:35 +0000 CakeLady 1945116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a scheduled c-section at 37 weeks for medical reasons, but didn't want to get into those reasons with people or have to deal with judginess about the c-section, so I just told people my "due date" was the day the c-section was schedule for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1935769 Sat, 08 Nov 2014 09:30:19 +0000 sorrycharlie 1935769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone! Also, I think I'm actually 29 weeks today. Hahaha. Thank goodness for my app, I guess.... Poor second child!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1935644 Sat, 08 Nov 2014 01:35:33 +0000 Arden 1935644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't tell anyone, it's none of their business. Just tell them your "due date", they won't know the difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1935540 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 21:43:35 +0000 Mrs. D 1935540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You have to do whats right for you! I don't like it when people do it to fit in a certain schedule to have certain birthdays, but for a medical reason suggested by your doctor? Hells ya! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1935486 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 20:51:07 +0000 wonderstruck 1935486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Yeah, it's pretty awful. I mean, her FB is friends only, but still. Extremely unprofessional/inappropriate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934862 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 14:07:14 +0000 plantains 1934862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was induced at 42 weeks and ended up needing an emergency C-section. People told me endlessly that I was terrible for inducing, my response to them...IDGAF. I hope to try for my second next year and am planning an RCS, I'm sure the judgment police will come calling again. I have my fresh round of IDGAFs waiting for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934792 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 13:40:28 +0000 swurlygurl 1934792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Oh man, I hadn't even thought about that part of it! Dang, waiting another couple days could have cost me almost $9,000 for an extra year of child care :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934783 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 13:36:10 +0000 blackbird 1934783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: Cuz that extra year of daycare cost is totally no big deal, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934625 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:28:24 +0000 swurlygurl 1934625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a lot of judgement too! I scheduled my induction for 40+6 and still got a lot of grief from people. (41+6 according to my personal due date!)<br /> I even only induced because I wanted the option of sending her to kindergarten if I felt she needed it, instead of missing the cutoff by like one day. So there weren't any medical risks, but good grief, I was past due people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934609 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:12:12 +0000 .twist. 1934609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People are stupid. </p> <p>If I were you, I would also get induced early! My co-worker had her baby in her bathtub because she went into labour and the paramedics couldn't even get to their house in time to deliver. The 911 operator had to instruct her husband over the phone on how to deliver the baby. Talk about fast. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934542 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 11:45:37 +0000 photojane 1934542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm hoping for another induction the second time around. I don't really care what anyone has to say though. Do you, girl. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934535 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 11:43:48 +0000 blackbird 1934535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: Sounds like lovely stuff that a medical professional (head of the dept, no less!) should be posting on FB for all to see!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934505 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 11:33:29 +0000 snowjewelz 1934505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh that's annoying! It's like, you rather me give birth without any medical personnel present at home, in the car, on the side of the road, etc!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934483 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 11:26:14 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1934483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @lemondrop. Who can argue with you saying that the doctor is concerned about the safety of the baby? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934476 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 11:23:20 +0000 lemondrop 1934476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they push and argue you, just say your doctor is concerned about safety of the baby. Nobody can argue the safe arrival of a baby. I'd they do, just smile, nod, and flip them the birdie. </p> <p>@matador84: no kidding, LOL https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934325 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 10:25:17 +0000 wonderstruck 1934325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonLong: What a shitty thing for the nurse to do! My cousin's wife is the head of an OB department, which is somewhat terrifying considering how condescending she is about inductions and c-sections. Like, last week right after she found out I was having another c-section, she posted a FB thing about how she had just ordered a bunch of balance and peanut balls for their hospital and added something snarky about 'saving babies from c-sections.' Gee, I wasn't aware that a balance ball could have fixed my baby's heart rate (although I had used one!) or that my baby needed to be saved from the c-section that saved his life. Major eye roll followed by hiding her on FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934040 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 07:12:55 +0000 blackbird 1934040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was induced because of my history and nobody said peep to me about it! In fact, E had complications from being OVERDUE!!! Gasp!!!! People act that can't even happen until you're 45 weeks along! </p> <p>People can stfu! I would make my induction date my new due date if I were you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1934033 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 07:07:09 +0000 tororojo 1934033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have gotten superior looks from people who went into labor naturally, but most of them had babies 2-3 lbs lighter than mine so really, how dare you judge! (Thankfully no one has said anything directly) In your instance it sounds completely justified and way more safe than the alternative. Besides, inductions suck- it's not like you're choosing it for fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1933989 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 06:05:06 +0000 matador84 1933989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seriously. You don't want to give birth on the side of the road. :silly: they can take their opinions and shove them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1933956 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 01:12:25 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1933956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh! Just tell them your doctor ordered the induction because of your history. You were charting and I have confidence that you will have a very smooth induction at 39 weeks which is a nice healthy well cooked baby. You may end up having a longer labor this time because of the induction but without it who knows. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1933953 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 00:58:07 +0000 coopsmama 1933953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was induced at a day shy of 42 weeks and I still received judgment!! Moral of the story - you can't make everyone happy and you have to do what you feel is best as the mama. If anyone questions you, I would just tell them your doctor thought it was medically necessary and drop it. None of their business! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1933804 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 22:15:06 +0000 LemonLong 1933804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my girls I was induced at 38 weeks and 37 weeks. The only judging I got was from a nurse at my insurance company who sent me a bunch of pamphlets about why induction was bad when I told her I was scheduled for one due to IUGR (my first also had IUGR). The weird thing was she knew the date of my induction and the pamphlets came like 2 weeks after, so she would have known I'd get them after so not sure what the point of her sending them were unless it was just to try to make me feel bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1933791 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 22:04:07 +0000 pui 1933791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just tell people your induction date as if it's your due date. It's none of their business how you have your baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1933785 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 21:59:48 +0000 MrsScallop 1933785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am being induced this time around due to baby having a birth defect and I have just avoided talking about it unless the person is aware of the defect already, but that is more because I don't want to explain the defect to everyone than because I am worried about what people will say about the induction. I say you have a perfectly sound reason behind your induction, so people who question it can just shove it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1933763 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 21:44:54 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 1933763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like when people get involved in something you've obviously put a good amount of thought into, like the birth of your child. Some people just always think they know everything about everything, I'd keep the answers minimal if I were you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1933752 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 21:40:06 +0000 SeptMomma12 1933752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, stuff like this makes me crazy. I will never understand why people care so much about a decision that is between a woman and her doctor. Hits a nerve because a friend (who just announced she is pregnant with her first) posted something on Facebook today that scheduled inductions and c-sections before 40 weeks should be illegal. Yes, for real.</p> <p>Ok, stepping off soap box... I would probably just give people your due date and leave it at that. (Or use your induction date as your due date.) Just to avoid the whole thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/judgy-views-regarding-induction#post-1933737 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 21:30:43 +0000 wonderstruck 1933737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Induction wasn't an option for me, I had to have a scheduled c-section...which I also constantly had people asking me about and making me feel like I needed to justify it! At some point I started wishing I had just lied about it, but doing so didn't sit right with me - it just would have made things more complicated later on with my family.</p> <p>Maybe it's bitchy, but I finally posted on FB "X days until we meet our new little one! Yes, I know the date; some complications have arose and a c-section has been scheduled to make sure baby arrives safely. Long story that I'm sick of telling, but we'll let everyone know once he's here!" Most people won't have the nerve to press for details when you straight up say you're sick of talking about it. </p>