https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 01:01:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-369471 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 11:03:41 +0000 AprilK 369471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used to have a cleaning lady before we moved and I am missing her badly now. I felt like that was the key to my sanity! I know I would feel better about balancing it all now but we're trying to save to finish off our basement so no cleaning lady for now :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-369322 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 10:23:50 +0000 yoursilverlining 369322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is hard to juggle everything. Does your husband do 50% of the house/baby tasks? If not; get him started right away! </p> <p>We only do laundry on the weekends, which was our system before baby. And run the bottles through the dishwasher at night, even if the dishwasher isn’t totally full. Its easier than hand-washing the bottles. I make up a pitcher of formula at night before bed, and then just fill the clean bottles in the morning.</p> <p>Our system is that I do bath/bottle in the evening while my husband cooks dinner. Then we put LO down to sleep; and eat dinner together (sometimes I eat holding her, too). </p> <p>On the weekends, we clean the house together; splitting the chores. We can clean our entire house in less than an hour.</p> <p>You need time to yourself too; so don’t feel like you have to clean every night. Make sure to take time for yourself every day, even if its just a few minutes to sit and close your eyes and veg out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-369307 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 10:14:44 +0000 mrsjazz 369307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm bitter, too! I pretty much hate my job so it makes me feel worse when I am there because I could be spending time with my baby. I've been back at work for 4 months and it's still hard. DH helps a lot but he is a teacher so he is working all the time at home (lesson-planning, grading papers). Which is why I'm interviewing for a part-time job! It will change our lifestyle a bit, but we both feel it's worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-369226 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:41:42 +0000 babynumber1 369226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel that same way! I get home at five and just hope that LO takes a good nap. Its a constant process of dishwasher, bottles, cook, clean kitchen, feed LO, bathe LO then she's off to bed. I can't wait for the day that I don't have to wash bottles anymore! The the weekends are full of family visits, errands and cleaning. </p> <p>This past weekend I told DH that I needed an hour. I sat on the couch, watched Pretty Little Liars and vegged out. After having an hour to myself, I felt MUCH better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-369211 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:35:34 +0000 Bluebonnet 369211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Its really hard. From the second I walk in the door until LO goes to bed, its family time. She goes to bed by 7pm, so after that we make dinner, get ready for day care, wash bottles, etc. </p> <p>We're much more organized and grocery shop and cook on the weekend. That way LO has baby food for the week and we have some thing to eat as well. I'm also using the crock pot a lot more to make dinner time easier.</p> <p>We have a cleaning person come every other week, which also helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-369157 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:02:09 +0000 Andrea 369157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think all we can do is let some stuff go and prioritize. There's no way to get everything done all the time. I've just accepted it or else I'd probably feel really unhappy thinking about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-369155 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 09:00:55 +0000 blackbird 369155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's always more to do. What does your husband do? Can he pick up more chores, like laundry and such? Can you hire someone to clean your house every other week? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-369144 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 08:52:07 +0000 thaowie 369144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OH!! I know what you're talking about. I've been back at work for a month now and feel the same way. There is ALWAYS something to clean, wash, be laundered. :( I try not to overwhelm myself though. I give myself a list of things that I HAVE to do that evening after work and try to work through them. If I'm too tired, I move some to the next day, the things that can wait. Or wait until DH is tired of seeing it and he'll clean it up. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-369139 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 08:45:52 +0000 mediagirl 369139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel your pain. We have really had to learn to work as a team now that the baby is here.</p> <p> I make dinner and we eat with her sitting there with us. After dinner, I take her upstairs for her bath and he cleans up. He gets upstairs in time for book and song time. </p> <p>After she is down, i take a look at what NEEDS to get done. I'll throw in a load of laundry or I'll pick up the family room, if it's needed. We go to bed early, so that doesn't help things, either. </p> <p>Weekends, we share duties. I clean bathrooms, do laundry, do beds and dust. He vacuums, steam cleans, empties the dishwasher, etc. It really is a team effort at our house. If my husband didn't help out, I don't know what I would do.</p> <p>It is VERY hard to be a working mom. You are not alone in this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-369077 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 08:08:03 +0000 T.H.O.U. 369077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is really hard. </p> <p>When I am home in the evenings we try to devote 100% of time to her. That means sitting on the floor reading books, etc and not worried about other things. Sometimes shes willing to play by herself but if she comes over to me with a book, I stop what I am doing and focus on her. </p> <p>However, when she goes to bed that means there is a lot to do. My next focus is typically my health which means getting some sleep if needed. If I am rested then I focus on laundry, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-368992 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 05:55:19 +0000 rachiecakes 368992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It. Is. So. Hard.<br /> My house is not as organized as it should be, laundry piles up, dishes wait until DS goes to bed. I'm exhausted Monday through Friday. I live for the weekends.<br /> As hard as it is, I try not to stress and try to enjoy every second I'm with DS. I know someday I'll look back and think that it went by so fast. They don't stay babies forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-368983 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 05:28:01 +0000 pelikila 368983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As the PPs said, you are not alone in your feelings! I would venture to say most (if not all at some point or another) full time WOHMs feel that way. For me it came down to deciding that I had to prioritize and whatever didn't get done, that had to be okay. Yes, I'm a much less ideal housekeeper these days, but I've also had to find ways to be more efficient. I'd prefer spending time with my son, not having a great looking house. He certainly won't remember how clean our house was or wasn't but he will remember I was with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-368913 Wed, 31 Oct 2012 01:39:08 +0000 T-Mom 368913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel your pain!! I have learned to let go, although I still have my moments. I hired a cleaning lady and everyone looks forward to Fridays, when she comes. Even DD, sadly. I try not to let the mommy guilt get to me too much. Also, I haven't worked out since pre-pregnancy. Something's gotta give! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-368696 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 22:06:21 +0000 brownie 368696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't get everything done. We had started paying friends kids to come clean our house and our lawn for us. If we didn't pay we wouldn't be able to. </p> <p>I hated work so I didn't let the work stress get to me. I have become very zen. I decide what the worst case could be and what I will accept. Then I am for higher than that. At work I got a horrible review because I got pregnant. I fought it and then found a new job. My new job is GREAT and I love it and I want to be there. That helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-368683 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 21:55:07 +0000 autumnlove 368683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not alone! Work and being mom is hard and I never feel like I have time for everything! My place looks messier than I would like but I would rather hang out with my LO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/juggling-ft-work-ampthe-being-mommy#post-368671 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 21:43:46 +0000 doodlepoodle 368671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im at almost 3 months back at work. I am constantly exhausted. There is ALWAYS something else that I should be doing. Laundry, vacuuming, dusting, dishes, bottles to wash, working out, etc. All I WANT to do is spend time with J though. He's number 1. Then I get stressed out though because with working full time I don't have the time or energy to keep up on things. </p> <p>How do you ladies deal with the stress/pressure?</p> <p>Im so bitter...I blame stress from work for breastfeeding not working out and don't have the time to exercise and lose the weight...ugh. it sucks! </p> <p>End vent. </p>