https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 02:20:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1921073 Wed, 29 Oct 2014 12:25:41 +0000 mamimami 1921073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a sustainer (retired LOL). Been in three different leagues, all different in many ways and all three quite removed from the stereotype. I would still be active, probably, if I weren't in the league I'm in right now. It's just too difficult, inconvenient and confusing for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1921022 Wed, 29 Oct 2014 11:59:41 +0000 LittlePinkHouses 1921022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePeony: not really. They have gold and silver level active memberships with lower requirements, but you still have to have a certain number of years of time served, which I won't have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1917322 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 11:23:53 +0000 PurplePeony 1917322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LittlePinkHouses: does your chapter not have an "active advisory" status (I think different places call it different things)? It's basically what you described -- a stepped-down level where you're still active but don't have as many requirements or can fulfill them in different ways. In my old chapter, you didn't have a placement but had to do some other project in the community instead (but it was on your own time and didn't have to be something big or time-consuming). I haven't looked into it here but I think we have something similar. I don't think most places advertise it but if you want to stay in, it's worth checking into! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916895 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 08:01:52 +0000 lawbee11 1916895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've thought about it. I have a few friends in our local chapter and it seems like a pretty big time commitment, though (and none of them have LOs). I already feel like I don't see LO enough during the week, so I don't think it would be a good fit for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916842 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 07:33:15 +0000 LittlePinkHouses 1916842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a JL member, currently on a leave of absence. I've been a member for....4 years, I think? I was on the board last year, but had to step back this year, because we have a core group of women who do a lot of the leadership, including me, and I was just getting slammed with way too much work. It's a problem in our league. Unfortunately, I think I am going to drop out when my LOA is over. I wish there was an option for a stepped down level of engagement, but I haven't been a member long enough to go sustainer, so my only option is active. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916837 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 07:30:11 +0000 looch 1916837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hesitated posting, but I am also a JL dropout. I was in the same chapter as @meredithNYC and my experience was totally different. Basically, my experience with my placement sucked and I found that I was running around to try to make my committed hours and was doing random projects here and there where I felt I wasn't contributing to the level I could be. With the hours I work plus a kid, I've decided to spend my volunteer hours elsewhere. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916580 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 19:48:31 +0000 fancyfunction 1916580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I'm in central. This is my third year and I'm actually on the board this year. I've really enjoyed my time in the league and have met so many people I wouldn't have otherwise :) Hope you enjoy it too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916576 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 19:43:59 +0000 LindsayInNY 1916576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fancyfunction: You're probably right :) The name of the chapter includes my town name. I'm guessing you're in the Central (county name) one? How long have you been a member? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916574 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 19:42:53 +0000 fancyfunction 1916574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just saw this. I'm in my local one too, which is really great. I think you may be in a neighboring one from me :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916573 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 19:39:58 +0000 LindsayInNY 1916573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The time commitment definitely varies from location to location. The first location I checked out was really expensive, required two letters of recommendation to join and was a big time commitment. The location I'm joining now is nothing like that. Maybe 1/3 of the cost, much more manageable time wise and a mix of WOHMs and SAHMs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916547 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 19:06:37 +0000 PurplePeony 1916547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been in the League for 9 years (including provisional year). Didn't care for it where I joined/used to live but my friend persuaded me to stay in. I love the chapter where I am now, though! It's so much more friendly and not as "alpha female." The provisional year is really intense here, though, so I feel lucky to have transferred in, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916543 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 19:04:54 +0000 MrsTiz 1916543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SIL is in ours, and has totally turned me off from it. Lots of snooty SAHM's and when she first started she had to do sooo much stuff. She had to work every event our town had. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916529 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 18:47:23 +0000 matador84 1916529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is REALLY big where I live. I'm not in it but have friends that are. It's super time consuming! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916523 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 18:35:39 +0000 BeachMama 1916523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in my 2nd active year. You didn't need references or anything to get into the league here. It can be a bit intimidating. I thought I'd be the poor, ugly girl in the league but it's not that way at all. I've met some great women in the league. It is a lot of work and time commitment though. For that reason, I don't think I'll be rejoining next year after LO2 comes along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916522 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 18:31:37 +0000 meredithNYC 1916522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: Hopefully you will meet lots of new people and maybe other moms, too. There are a couple of other pregnant girls in my league and I'm looking forward to commiserating with them during the newborn days :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916516 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 18:22:19 +0000 LindsayInNY 1916516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: I did! Our fall class started this past Thursday :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916501 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 17:34:14 +0000 meredithNYC 1916501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: it's a volunteer organization for women :happy: </p> <p>@Boheme: you're in the South, right? We have a lot of transfers in my league from the South and they are always shocked at how slack our league is, lol. I think that's why I like it so much. If it were really intense I would be like, NOPE. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916496 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 17:29:19 +0000 Boheme 1916496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a Junior League dropout :) It took up sooooo much time! It felt like an internship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916494 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 17:26:28 +0000 regberadaisy 1916494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What's junior league? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1916493 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 17:21:02 +0000 meredithNYC 1916493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: did you end up going to the meeting? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1879066 Fri, 26 Sep 2014 14:42:48 +0000 meredithNYC 1879066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: Yes, I did Girl Scouts through 8th grade. So I totally love being a part of a girl/women's group, but just hate ones that are exclusive. Good luck! I hope there are some nice women there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1879056 Fri, 26 Sep 2014 14:37:53 +0000 LindsayInNY 1879056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: Not a sorority girl either! I was a girl scout my whole life (well, growing up). Our local chapter is more on par with the Greenwich one so that kinda worries me. DH tells me not to think about it because they're normal people too! We'll see I guess! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1879050 Fri, 26 Sep 2014 14:35:34 +0000 avivoca 1879050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have thought about it, but every time I consider it I talk myself out of it. The chapter in my area is very wealthy and I'm definitely middle class. A lot of the events are during the workweek right around bedtime and right now, I'd rather spend the evening with my little. I think when the kids are older I'll seriously consider it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1879043 Fri, 26 Sep 2014 14:32:16 +0000 meredithNYC 1879043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: Also, I should say I'm not a typical JL lady (or at least, never thought of myself that way?). Like, I'm not a former sorority girl, I'm a feminist, etc. But I haven't found the league to be at odds with my personality, luckily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1879041 Fri, 26 Sep 2014 14:31:04 +0000 meredithNYC 1879041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: This is my second year being involved. I would say that generally there are kind of "groups" based on age in ours. There's the (usually, though not always) unmarried women in their twenties, the women in the mid-30's with a child or two and then the older ladies who are the sustainers. I'm kind of in-between at 33 and with one kid, so tend to socialize with the younger group.</p> <p>Our group draws from all over Fairfield County, so initially I was a little nervous about the very wealthy ladies from like, New Canaan or Darien (Greenwich has its own league), but actually most of the younger actives are in Stamford or Norwalk and are pretty middle-class. The sustainers tend to have a lot more money, but are also very welcoming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1879037 Fri, 26 Sep 2014 14:27:36 +0000 LindsayInNY 1879037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: Yep! There are a lot of Westchester ones, smaller though throughout. How long have you been involved? I know this group will definitely be more on the well to do side which makes me a bit nervous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1879031 Fri, 26 Sep 2014 14:26:01 +0000 LindsayInNY 1879031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I went to an intro meeting for the NYC group and it was that way - references, etc. It was expensive too. Something like $400-500 a year. My new local one (the meeting I'll be going to) doesn't seem as bad thankfully!</p> <p>@yoursilverlining: I got the address where the intro meeting/social is being held... Yeahhh, let's just say it's a lot more expensive of a house than I live in, LOL! I do get an older, SAHM/W vibe though so I'm kinda nervous about being the youngest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1879029 Fri, 26 Sep 2014 14:25:30 +0000 meredithNYC 1879029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I am in the Stamford-Norwalk league and love it. That being said, our league is very cool in the sense that it's not pretentious, not super hard to get into and the ladies are very normal. While I'm a SAHM, most are not and I actually appreciate knowing women with a wide range of jobs/interests.</p> <p>I have found it to be a really nice way to make friends. I joined after moving from Brooklyn to CT and I think it really helped me acclimate to the area.</p> <p>Is it Westchester league? I seem to remember seeing a house maybe in Sleepy Hollow? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1879022 Fri, 26 Sep 2014 14:17:29 +0000 yoursilverlining 1879022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to an intro meeting, but it was definitely more a wealthier SAHW-club than for working women (maybe that was just the chapter in our area though). </p> <p>I volunteer a lot so I was really excited to learn more, but most of their activities were during the work week...... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/junior-league#post-1879009 Fri, 26 Sep 2014 14:10:44 +0000 hilsy85 1879009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to an intro meeting, and while it seemed interesting (lots of volunteer opportunities, events, etc), it seemed like a lot of work to get in! You need to actually apply, and have letters of reference written for you..I was unemployed at the time and ended up getting another job shortly after so I never followed up. But I know a lot of people who do it in other states and they like it a lot! I do think it's very chapter dependent though. </p>