https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 23:16:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648335 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 16:57:48 +0000 Amelieisme 648335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad that at least I"m not the only one :)</p> <p>@shopaholic: Ha! He did deserve for me to squawk, but I do so a lot so I bit my tongue this time...since he was trying...</p> <p>@Mrs. Champagne: I've pretty much banned DH from the laundry room for such behavior. He tries to "help" and do laundry. I end up with 2 unfolded loads getting all wrinkled, one in the dryer, and one soured in the washer still. I told him I'd rather him just not touch the laundry! The hard part isn't starting the washer and changing the loads...its the folding and putting away! And I can't stand when the clean laundry piles up!</p> <p>@KJfromNJ: You sound like me! It just gets frustrating because I feel like I have to micromanage our household from every front (and I work full time) and sometimes it just...doesn't...feel...fair! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648262 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 16:11:19 +0000 aprk 648262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I hear you. I have learned to be very specific with my husband. He doesn't get subtleties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648259 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 16:08:41 +0000 lomom 648259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KJfromNJ: Hahaha, good financial planning, though I'm sure no jury would ever convict you (unless it was all men... lol) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648248 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 15:59:00 +0000 kjpugs 648248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Too funny, I am feeling the same! My DH has a physically demanding job so he doesn't want to do anything when he gets home.</p> <p>We JUST this weekend made a chore chart and discussed exactly what we each have to do (of COURSE my list is longer... I'm shocked.) If you don't do your chores that week, or do other things (like leave dishes in the sink, leave food on the coffee table, leave the counter in the bathroom a mess, etc) you get a demerit. Not kidding, I felt it needed the word DEMERIT. And 5 demerits means you give the other person $5. This will probably mean DH pays me to do his chores (ha.) but at least I'll have money for an attorney after I kill him in his sleep from the frustration!!! HAHA just kidding. I set a REALLY strict budget and he seems to do really really well with guidelines so I thought giving him some for chores too, with financial punishment (we get a weekly "spend" for ourselves that it comes out of) might make him snap into shape. Might be something to try!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648222 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 15:31:30 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 648222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not just men...that's me too :-) :-(</p> <p>Until I got the hang of what cleaning meant and entailed, I only did the tasks asked of me. </p> <p>Just use your words (lol) and all will be completed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648122 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:56:44 +0000 MediaNaranja 648122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH can be pretty literal about things as well. Of course if I give detailed instructions he gets all huffy about it, ha. Men! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648120 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:52:27 +0000 Cole 648120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get it! With my husband it is more an issue of not seeing the big picture. He will tell me he cleaned the kitchen when he really means he did the dishes and put away the ingredients from dinner, if I clean the kitchen everything is wiped down and the floors are done too. Same deal with the bathroom, he seems to think the outside of the toilet is self cleaning :). He is otherwise awesome though so I guess I'll keep him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648115 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:46:22 +0000 mrbee 648115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: makes sense to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648106 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:35:51 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 648106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: haha. i think DH didn't realize. Now he knows he has to fold.. but he doesn't really care if there are wrinkles or not in his stuff, so sometimes he leaves his load in the dryer for hours/days!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648105 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:34:29 +0000 mrbee 648105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: that's what I would have done... not because I'm literal, but because I never fold laundry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648095 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:27:29 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 648095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh dear! My DH can be pretty literal at times too! When we first moved in together I asked him to get the laundry out of the dryer while I was at work. He did and just threw it all in the hamper without folding it first!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648092 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:23:29 +0000 littleveesmommy 648092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oy I totally know what you mean and it completely baffles me!!! Certain things just seem obvious to me and DH has even said "but it might be obvious to everyone!" Erm ok... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648068 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:08:58 +0000 cascademom 648068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, grown men are hard to train. I've brought up cleanliness issues in counseling a couple of times. My mom's physical therapist said the first 5-6 years of her marriage was tough with this until it slowly started to click. My husband hides behind raised with more fifth and can handle it. I call bs on that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648053 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:01:23 +0000 shopaholic 648053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes they are so literal right? :/ sorry girl, I understand your frustration. I would probably squawk at DH about the TP empty roll thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-648028 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 12:42:40 +0000 derevival 648028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UGH! Frustrating! Men! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-little-dh-vent#post-647925 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 11:30:32 +0000 Amelieisme 647925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't understand the husband sometimes. He truly wants to help and please me (I do count my blessings!) BUT he is pretty clueless when it comes to hoursehold chores. This morning we are cleaning for my parents to come for a visit next weekend. He has to be given instructions for each task and he literally does EXACTLY what I say and that only. </p> <p>Examples:</p> <p>Me: Please put new rolls of toilet paper in the guest room and the nursery bathroom<br /> Him: He places new rolls on but leaves the old cardboard thingies on the counter in each room and doesn't throw them away.</p> <p>Me: Unload the dishwasher.<br /> Him: Unloads dishwasher, but leaves dirty dishes in the sink.<br /> I'm like: "now, put the dirty ones into the dishwasher!"</p> <p>And on and on...Seems pretty obvious to me how to complete these tasks, but its like he just doesn't get it.</p> <p>Anway, just a vent. I don't quite understand him sometimes :) </p>