https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 07:05:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1252492 Sun, 01 Dec 2013 20:17:45 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1252492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ZombieBullfrogHoller: your feelings are totally valid &amp; I wish you the BEST of luck:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1252257 Sun, 01 Dec 2013 15:51:51 +0000 ZombieBullfrogHoller 1252257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: Yeah, that's pretty much what I'm thinking now. If I can find a job with a decent schedule that works for us, I'm taking it. Just to get out of this environment would be worth it. Even if it's a cashier at Walmart at this point - at least they'd give me a break or lunch to pump on! :P Then once I can get a handle on my emotions and on a routine (because holy CRAP do we need a routine!) then I can focus on finding a job in my field somewhere with transportation and whatnots. Thanks for making me feel like my feelings are valid! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1252240 Sun, 01 Dec 2013 15:37:38 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1252240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ZombieBullfrogHoller: No, this is not a " "Well yeah, *nobody* wants to go to work!"" type of thing!<br /> Your situation is very difficult. I recommend finding new jobs, both of you. Even if it is a cashier at a grocery store or fast food joint, who cares? As long as it pays the bills and keep your DH safe and keeps you at a normal schedule where you are not dragging a baby around at 11PM.<br /> If moving to a city where jobs are in walking distance or public transportation is very readily available, I'd consider that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1252234 Sun, 01 Dec 2013 15:33:00 +0000 ZombieBullfrogHoller 1252234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, everyone, for the hugs and support :) We really do need to look into moving to somewhere with more opportunities. It's just hard to get started, you know. Oh, brother :S My manager can't put me on first shift because the shift isn't available. She basically promised everyone first shift and, because I was initially hired for second shift, that's what I got stuck with when the shit hit the fan. :\ Definitely looking for new jobs in the meantime. </p> <p>I just don't know how much longer I can handle it all. I feel like I'm starting to crack. @_@ And I feel like everyone is just like "Well yeah, *nobody* wants to go to work!" when I say anything about really struggling. But it's not that - I've had jobs where I just really hate going into work, but this is so completely different. I cry every day as my shift approaches and I'm just always so miserable and overwhelmed. I have no time for anything and I feel like I'm just drowning. I really thought I would have a better handle on this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1241699 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 13:10:50 +0000 MapleMoose 1241699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you are completely normal and justified for feeling that way with all the stress you have going on right now. That's a crazy amount of pressure. I don't have any advice but I wanted you to know that I haven't gotten over checking baby's breathing and part of me still fears baby is going to spontaneously stop breathing or something, which is completely irrational but I still think that in the back of my head. No, you and I aren't crazy, we are just mothers and mothers worry about their children. You are amazing for hanging in there and toughing it out during this hard period in your life.<br /> *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1241614 Mon, 25 Nov 2013 12:54:45 +0000 jedeve 1241614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs. It's a tough economy. It will get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1238922 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 23:03:44 +0000 NurseMommy 1238922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. I don't really have any advice, but I sympathize. I'm not even back to work yet (year long mat leave) and already I can't "do it all". It sucks that you have to worry about your husband's safety in addition to everything else too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1238619 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 19:45:43 +0000 MsMamaBear 1238619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I completely understand being frazzled and feeling like you are going crazy from everything going on and everyone thinking you are being a drama queen.</p> <p>I think you can try to see about a new shift if it's at all possible. If not, look into some new jobs. In the mean time, just try to stay calm and try to find ways to keep your stress levels down. I know it's easier said than done. Also, talk to your MIL about y'all situation so she can give some input on if she's feeling like y'all are asking to much of her. Your mom also, they have some understanding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1238463 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:48:54 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1238463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This sounds really trough. It sounds like you guys should focus on finding some new jobs. I WOH full time but having us both on normal 8-5 schedules is the only way to make it work. </p> <p>Just curious why do you live where you live? It sounds like you have good support of your Mil? What about moving into a nearby city? More job opportunities, more resources for DH (like transportion) etc. </p> <p>The first thing you could easily try to fix is talking to your manager about getting on first shift. If not, I would immediately atart looking for other options. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1238456 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:41:26 +0000 MoonMoon 1238456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You have a lot on your plate to be rightfully frustrated about! I understand the worry-whenever my husband is driving in bad weather, I can't help but worry. As for the baby breathing, it probably never fully goes away, but for me I can say around 4-5 months the worst of that constant anxiety started fading for me. Hugs, mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1238443 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:21:06 +0000 singingbee 1238443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I have no advice, but I just want to give you a big hug. :( :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1238442 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:20:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 1238442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry- it sounds like you have a lot going on to worry about! That's really frustrating that they switched your shifts like that- as if going back after having a new baby isn't hard enough. I have no advice but I hope things get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-a-ventrambly-rant-not-sure-how-to-handle-this#post-1238436 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 16:15:12 +0000 ZombieBullfrogHoller 1238436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It'll be two months that I've been back to work as of next week and everyone kept telling me, in the beginning, that it would get better, than those first few weeks would get better, but it's not. If anything it's worse and I don't know how much longer I can do it. I feel like a failure from every angle here and I've been crying all morning.</p> <p>I work the front desk at a hotel and DH works night shifts at a gas station. My manager promised me that I could come back on morning shifts, that way DH or I would always be home, so we wouldn't have to worry about getting childcare for LO. But then I come back and, after a week, she tells me she's putting me back on 2nd shift, so now I work until 11 at night and we have to juggle taking LO to my MILs house between shifts. I hate it. I hate having to take him out in the cold at 11pm. I hate having to worry about whether or not she's available or if we're asking too much of her. I hate pumping at work and how the federal laws that are suppose to protect me don't because we're a small company. </p> <p>I worry about DH every night. He needs a new job. The very night we brought baby home from the hospital, DH was held at gunpoint during a robbery. I can't sleep at night for worrying about him. I can't sleep at night for worrying if the baby's breathing. When does that stop???</p> <p>I can't keep my house clean and family members have made comments, but I have no time. When I'm not working I'm nursing or pumping or trying to sleep.</p> <p>DH and I both have our bachelors in psychology, but he can't get his driver's license because he has a nystagmus and is pretty much legally blind, so that makes it difficult for him to find any job in this middle of nowhere town, let alone one that would pay enough for me to be able to stay home.</p> <p>I feel completely broken and I think everyone thinks I'm just being a complete drama queen about it, but I just don't understand how people function. Why can't I function? I feel like I'm going to spend all this time being miserable and miss out on this perfect little chubby baby. :| </p>