https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 22:33:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843692 Wed, 05 Sep 2018 12:11:08 +0000 codeitall 2843692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: I am feeling much better! Got the evaluation scheduled and ... well I thought about calling the doctor's office haha ;) I wish that we just had better methods for addressing the mom guilt. It is real, insidious and applies to all of us at various times!</p> <p>@mrsbubbletea: Awww, you made me tear up at my desk, thank you :heart: I wish I could make every third post in my feed that picture! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843684 Wed, 05 Sep 2018 11:48:07 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2843684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@codeitall: Just saw this on Facebook and thought of you :heart: </p> [attach=5674/18/peldc8.337x600.8E97198C-0B66-4CFC-9412-6E427874CE34.png] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843538 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 23:35:53 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2843538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@codeitall: oh that so doesn't make you a crap mom! And as someone who put career on the back burner trust me you could feel the exact same way by not WOH. I've done both and felt the mom guilt both ways! It never leaves! Even part time there's mom guilt wanting to do everything. Mom guilt sucks so bad. But you are doing your best and you're already going to call around so absolutely no need to beat yourself up. Hope you are feeling better by the time I'm posting this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843483 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 17:54:40 +0000 codeitall 2843483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kaohinani: That used to be one of my mantras in college: it will all work out. Thanks for reminding me! I clearly need to pick it back up again :)</p> <p>@lioneyes: It is true, there's always something I feel behind on. But I called and will pick up the speech questionnaire tomorrow on my way to work!</p> <p>@erinbaderin: I literally cried in my conference room I'm hiding in. You're right. Thank you. :heart: </p> <p>@MamaBear87: I intellectually knew being a mom was hard, but I think nothing can prepare you for the emotional toll. No wonder my mother has grey hairs...</p> <p>@agold: We're 45 min late some Sundays, but we show up! I hadn't heard that song, but it is soooo true. And that's a good point, it isn't like this is irreparable, he can catch up. Thank you for the boost :heart: </p> <p>@misolee: I know I'm holding myself up to a double standard. Why are we so much harder on ourselves? Be present. I like that :)</p> <p>@crazydoglady: Glad I'm not alone! The district does, but when he was evaluated at 3 when he aged out of Early Intervention, they said it wasn't impacting his education negatively so he didn't qualify and I didn't really push past that. It has been over 6 months (by a bit....) so he can be reevaluated now. Getting that ball rolling now!</p> <p>@psw27: Sometimes I wonder if it would be nicer to live in an earlier era, but then I think about how much I love my dishwasher :wink: </p> <p>@Jess1483: I've read that but I didn't bookmark it! Doing so now, thanks for sharing :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843455 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 14:13:03 +0000 Jess1483 2843455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read this this morning. I'll revisit it on hard days.<br /> <a href="https://www.mother.ly/life/dear-mama-youre-not-doing-it-wrong-its-just-that-hard" rel="nofollow">https://www.mother.ly/life/dear-mama-youre-not-doing-it-wrong-its-just-that-hard</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843441 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 13:43:12 +0000 psw27 2843441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs. You are doing what you can do. We live in a hectic, overly scheduled society with too many demands on our time, thoughts, energy and attention. Give yourself a little grace. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843429 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 13:22:52 +0000 crazydoglady 2843429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are an amazing mama! The fact that you care so much proves that. I mean, you are trying to handle the lives of three people (hopefully along with your SO) and things can't always be perfect. I have a speech delayed kiddo, so I get it. And I totally forgot about his 3 year appt 2 months ago...whoops. We are all just doing our best. As far as your work status, do what works best for you!<br /> Does your district offer speech therapy? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843418 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 13:10:54 +0000 misolee 2843418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hugs :heart: </p> <p>I'm still learning this myself...but moms need to give ourselves lots of slack. We're not perfect...we just need to be present :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843414 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 13:07:03 +0000 agold 2843414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@codeitall: You aren't a crap mom. My kids are close to the same age apart, but I'm not as far into as you are. My littlest is almost 4 months and my big girl just turned 2. I WOH full time. This is a really hard gig to manage. I am totally close to falling apart several days out of the week. I think of that Carrie Underwood song "smoke break" - hard to be a good mom, a good wife and a good christian AND then add to that, a good WOH full time employee. It's exhausting. (I mentioned christian because it's in the song... i don't know what religion you are, but you mentioned church.) You are doing your best and that's all you can do. I'm sure you are an amazing mom. Kudos to you for getting your kids to church on Sunday morning. I struggle to even do that and I love going to church. It's so hard to do it all. Regarding the speech.. your kid is still so young. Put him back in speech and he will be just fine. You are doing great!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843393 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 12:15:44 +0000 MamaBear87 2843393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are an awesome mom! Being a mom is hard but we are all doing out best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843391 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 12:13:14 +0000 erinbaderin 2843391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m sorry you’re feeling so down on yourself today. You are doing your best! I have no doubt that your kids are happy and know they’re loved. Most other things can be overcome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843388 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 12:05:26 +0000 lioneyes 2843388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending you hugs and commiseration. No matter how much you do, it never feels like enough. I think for your peace of mind you should schedule an appointment, but I know you are doing a great job. Speech Delays are SO HARD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843386 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 12:00:50 +0000 Kaohinani 2843386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are in NO way a CRAP Mom. You are doing the best you can. From one mom with a child with a (fairly severe) speech delay to another: Give yourself the same advice that you would give another mom in the same boat. For me, it is that all you can do is try your best, give yourself a break, and love your children no matter what. It will all work out in the end ... I promise. 💜 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-another-crap-mom-day#post-2843380 Tue, 04 Sep 2018 11:40:21 +0000 codeitall 2843380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Someone mentioned at church how they needed to push for re-evaluation for their child to get her the speech therapy she needed. And I just felt my heart sink into my feet.</p> <p>When he aged out of early intervention and they said he didn't qualify for the speech preschool, I was relieved and didn't push further. But now I'm looking at my 3.5 DS who has no pronouns, doesn't use complete sentences, is missing several consonants, and is really hard to understand for even those who know him well and I wonder if I should have pushed harder. I'm going to call next week and schedule a time to get him in.</p> <p>In the meantime, I just feel like a crap mom who lets things totally slip through the cracks. My daughter is almost 18 months and I've totally spaced on her 15 month doctor appt!</p> <p>It is moments like this that really make me doubt that I'm doing the right thing for my kids by WOH. I don't really have any questions, just needed to get this out there. </p>