https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 10 Nov 2026 14:32:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat/page/2#post-1346441 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:18:35 +0000 swedishfish 1346441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coacheswife123: I don't think the OP meant it to be harmful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat/page/2#post-1346415 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:14:43 +0000 doodlepoodle 1346415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to request @mrbee close this thread as my true intent wasn't to offend anyone of any size. It can be a hot button topic and I probably shouldn't have posted this in the first place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat/page/2#post-1346396 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:11:09 +0000 pl0508 1346396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I get your comment. But I think it can also work on the flip side too . "You don't know what's going on in their home lives. Depression, medications and other circumstances can cause people to gain weight."..... those exact same things can make people LOSE weight. </p> <p>I think it is a sensitive topic all around and something that should just go undiscussed. Period. People's weight is no one's business except their own. But - I have to say that I don't think @babyjmama intent was for this to be hurtful in any way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat/page/2#post-1346360 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:03:32 +0000 doodlepoodle 1346360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I'm sorry you feel that way, I in no way intended that (and even tried to maintain that in the way I worded things because I DO NOT want anyone to feel that way, trust me). </p> <p>@kjpugs: I appreciate your support and don't think you turned it into a bully type statement. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346355 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:02:14 +0000 deactivated_account 1346355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What were the derogatory terms that were being used with regards to @babyjmama: being so skinny? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346351 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 14:00:52 +0000 swedishfish 1346351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kjpugs: I didn't say you. I said the thread in general. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346340 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:59:41 +0000 kjpugs 1346340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I'm an overweight person (obese by weight/height, technically), and I don't see that. I think that anyone of any size who puts down someone else for their size is wrong and hurtful, and I feel bad for OP. Just saying it's a double standard because it's not considered "bad" to call someone skinny but calling them fat is. Not sure how that's me bullying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346322 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:56:30 +0000 swedishfish 1346322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kjpugs: I feel like this thread has very quickly dissolved into a gang mentality and bullying of overweight people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346193 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:32:19 +0000 deactivated_account 1346193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: Ditto on all of what you said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346191 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:32:03 +0000 kjpugs 1346191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's such a double standard. If there was an obstacle course challenge, and all the coworkers were slender and you were overweight, they would NEVER dream to say "sorry we don't want you on our team because your fata$$ will slow us down." That would be straight to HR for that comment. So why is it ok to discriminate the other way?!?!!? Ridiculous. Sorry they're so thoughtless, seems like they're trying to make themselves feel better with a gang mentality and some bullying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346178 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:28:23 +0000 swedishfish 1346178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMcD: ha, me too. </p> <p>My (humble) opinion is that it is really uncomfortable and embarrassing to be overweight. They're probably jealous. Let it go and be grateful that you were able to keep the weight off. You don't know what's going on in their home lives. Depression, medications and other circumstances can cause people to gain weight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346171 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:24:48 +0000 JoJoGirl 1346171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At my company there is a minimum BMI to participate... don't other places do stuff like that? ie if you're in the 'normal' range, I don't think they let you play. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346169 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:23:43 +0000 Modern Daisy 1346169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm also petite and I've gotten those comments from overweight people all my life. I've found it dismissive, like they are 'putting me in my place' for being thin. It's like they need to establish control over the fact that I'm thinner than they are, which is what they want for themselves but haven't yet achieved. They usually only mean it to make themselves feel better adn don't realize that it's actually a put-down for the person it's aimed at. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346164 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:22:30 +0000 deactivated_account 1346164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pray for the day people make jabs at me for being skinny.</p> <p>What kind of derogatory comments could they possibly be making about your weight? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346160 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:21:00 +0000 dc yoga bee 1346160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES!! They wont let me play in the biggest loser work challenge bc I'm not fat. I still have weight to lose, and dont say its open to everyone then! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346157 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:20:16 +0000 JoJoGirl 1346157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: Seriously! I'm all excited thinking maybe you're in my building RIGHT NOW! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346148 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 13:18:16 +0000 doodlepoodle 1346148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: haha I doubt it but I wish bc then I'd have a friiiiiend! :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346069 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:57:59 +0000 jedeve 1346069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: That's the #1 thing I am already disliking about being pregnant again.</p> <p>I'm gonna start asking everyone, "I'm fine. How are *you* feeeeeeeeeeling? How's your stomach? How's your bladder? How's your weight?" #*$(!^$!!!!!!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346056 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:55:24 +0000 JoJoGirl 1346056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: Congrats on the 40 lbs! Also, do we work for the same company? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346047 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:52:46 +0000 doodlepoodle 1346047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>IT IS STILL GOING ON!!</p> <p>For gods sake just stop. Now they're overcompensating and saying they're sorry for not inviting me but they didn't think I'd care. I DONT CARE about being on the stupid team. I care that you're making derogatory comments about my weight like it just happens that I am not overweight. Gah. They all met me after I lost a bulk of my baby weight so they never saw me before, I understand that, just DROP it already though. Waaaah! Now I want to eat Burger King in the office just to spite them all and to be a child. Hahahahahahaha (I won't!!!) </p> <p>@avivoca: @Smurfette: @Alivoo01: @psw27: well I had a trip to the Bahamas as my inspiration so THAT helped :silly: </p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: haha I should ask them to woo me ;) they have asked me about my opinion on some fruits/carbs etc and I'm giving my honest opinion bc it IS important to make the right choices! :) </p> <p>@CupQuakeWalk: LOL I doubt a bikini will happen! :silly: </p> <p>@psw27: yes. Exactly this. You have NO idea what the past is for my health, I could have had an eating disorder! People just don't think :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1346039 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:51:05 +0000 googly-eyes 1346039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good job losing forty lbs!</p> <p>I was going to say maybe they were joking/ trying to compliment you by pointing out that you just don't haw much to lose so their team would lose less but the "you don't understand" thing is rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1345913 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:27:36 +0000 Sweet T 1345913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Jerks!!! They're just jealous because you're a hot mama! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1345854 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:15:52 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1345854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: except if a woman is pregnant. Then it's ok to rub her belly and talk about how huge she is ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1345840 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:14:01 +0000 psw27 1345840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yuck. I hate these kinds of comments. I get the comments like "you wouldn't understand, you're thin" - well yes, I am NOW but I was 30 lbs heavier so that's why I eat healthy or like @bakerbee said - "you don't need to eat salad". ughhh. I want to snap at people when they say that and be like, ya know visuals on the outside//weight is just one element to overall health. How about salads = nutrient rich and good for your body? [[rant over -- sorry]] </p> <p>Congrats on losing 40 lbs. @babyjmama - you rule! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1345821 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:10:26 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1345821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You better go in there with nothing on but a string bikini and ask THEM how it feels when someone has no regard for THEIR feelings ;)<br /> But seriously--they don't mean it but yeah it's not nice and just a useless thing to say so they should spare it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1345782 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:02:57 +0000 jedeve 1345782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like people should just not talk about other people's bodies. Why is that so hard??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1345773 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 12:01:42 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1345773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They would be lucky to have you on their team. You would bring a wealth of knowledge about eating right, exercising and staying motivated when it's tough. Too bad they don't see that instead of teasing you they should woo you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1345674 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 11:44:19 +0000 pl0508 1345674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: haters gonna hate, friend. I'm with you on the running. I REALLY need to get back out there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1345476 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 11:09:52 +0000 MrsH 1345476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe they are just jealous you lost the weight without having to do a challenge with their sorry butts :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-because-im-not-fat#post-1345439 Tue, 14 Jan 2014 11:00:34 +0000 Alivoo01 1345439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Poop on your co-workers! Mad props on losing the 40lbs on your own!! </p>