https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 04 Jun 2026 02:21:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1909080 Tue, 21 Oct 2014 12:12:27 +0000 Grace 1909080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I don't think our parents actually remember anything. Apparently, all of us slept like angels even though the notes in our baby books say differently. They say we were always good - even though I remember being yelled at and spanked. Ask for advice on a parenting issue and they can't remember what they did with us. I don't trust 'em one bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1909029 Tue, 21 Oct 2014 11:53:49 +0000 MrsRcCar 1909029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The nerve of some people! N is 2 and loves us to read to him. Or will sit down and look through the books himself but no where near reading. I would just do your best to let it roll off... FIL is likely remembering wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1908897 Tue, 21 Oct 2014 10:45:43 +0000 aegie 1908897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is 2 and she knows her alphabet by sight and their sounds. SO if that's considered "reading" then she can read! LOL</p> <p>Buuuuuut reading in the true sense of the word? That's a whole nother story! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1908623 Tue, 21 Oct 2014 08:33:59 +0000 mrsjyw 1908623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just can't even. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1908619 Tue, 21 Oct 2014 08:31:32 +0000 irene 1908619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wait, what do you mean reading???</p> <p>My LO is 2.5 years old and can recognize numbers and a few alphabets. But that was it. Reading meaning literally reading words?</p> <p>ETA: Thinking about it, LO would be able to magically recite story books that he likes and that I read to him multiple times. So he would insist he "read" it out loud and he would recite while flipping the book. That's not "reading" though but maybe your FIL thought your husband was reading because he did that? LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1908591 Tue, 21 Oct 2014 08:08:50 +0000 Tanjowen 1908591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom swears I was reading by age 3, but I think I've come to realize from being around small children that it's more I memorized the words and repeated the story back to her (my nephew did this at age 3 too). That's a whole different ball game than actually recognizing and sounding out words! I think 5 is very appropriate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1908427 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 21:47:59 +0000 daniellemybelle 1908427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my mom says I was reading at 3 and I believe her. She used my aunt's preschool/kindergarten homeschool curriculum because I really wanted to learn to read and taught me phonics. I remember some of the flashcards a little bit.</p> <p>But I was a kind of intense kid so I don't think that is typical, and 3 is very different from 2 anyway. I don't expect my LO to start reading until she is 5 and if anyone said anything to me about it, I'd be taken aback for sure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1908410 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 21:21:02 +0000 skibobrown 1908410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What?! I consider my daughter to be extremely literate compared with other kids her age. She's 2.5, knows most of her (uppercase) letters, can spell the names of some of the kids in her class (b/c they sing a song spelling all of their names regularly at daycare), and has memorized some parts of some of the books that we read. She most certainly can not read, and I will be astounded if she really learns how to read before she turns 5. My little sister was an extremely early reader, and she learned to truly read sometime between 3.5 and 4 years old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1908370 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 20:23:37 +0000 erinpye 1908370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some kids do know letters by 18 months and are reading a bit at 2. Is it common? No. But when it does happen, it's got nothing to do with parents teaching, and everything to do with the child himself. Ever try to sit a 2 year old down and force him to learn to read? Doesn't work. Your family member is most likely remembering wrong. I get taking it personally, but try to remember that playing is your LO's most important work right now. We all (most) learn to read eventually anyway, so maybe next time just ask, "why the rush?" :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1908171 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 16:36:06 +0000 plantains 1908171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: LOVE IT </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1908164 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 16:31:50 +0000 .twist. 1908164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Hoping to assimilate the knowledge inside them?? ;) :P She's so cute. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907950 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 14:16:54 +0000 Cherrybee 1907950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 15 month old devours books. Literally. Eats them. </p> <p>But reading at 2.....? I call bullshit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907943 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 14:11:22 +0000 anandam 1907943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg you're a wonderful mother and he's embellishing.</p> <p>Sounds like a scene out of the Exorcist, honestly. Was he also speaking Latin? Did they have to call in a priest? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907932 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 14:07:36 +0000 Lindsay05 1907932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha! AS IF! Well I must be a TERRIBLE mom as well. My 2.5 year old cannot read. Guess it's hopeless, time to rely on my 9 month old to start reading. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907858 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 13:44:22 +0000 Boheme 1907858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tell him it's too bad his memory is failing him in his old age! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907848 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 13:41:40 +0000 mrs. wagon 1907848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both my mother and my MIL claim that my husband and I started reading at age 2. Now that my son is almost 5 and watching him learn how to sound out letters and words at this age, almost 3 years after our parents claim we learned to read... I've come to the definite conclusion (I'm seriously 99.9% positive this is correct) that they let us watch so much Sesame Street that we learned what certain words looked like, and then would say them when we saw them appear on the screen. Very "your baby can read" -esque. </p> <p>My son at almost 5 is just starting to sound out words. Watching him say "bim?" (when the word is "bam!") makes my heart explode with pride. My husband is the same way and is not concerned at all with his rate of development, and he's an english major from a fancy top university. So please don't worry, take your time... they grow up way too fast anyway. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907808 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 13:29:32 +0000 BandDmommy 1907808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: agree! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907803 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 13:27:28 +0000 PawPrints 1907803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Grandparents should have to follow the rule "If you don't have something supportive to say, don't say anything at all." I defer to Mr. Rogers above on this one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907789 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 13:21:52 +0000 littlebug 1907789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read at 2, too. I listened to books on record (yup, RECORD, cuz I'm old) so much that I memorized them, and then would sit and read the books to myself without the records. Clearly, a genius. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907760 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 13:12:01 +0000 BandDmommy 1907760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: B does that or explains the pictures to his dogs whom he "reads too." I think he just caught me in the wrong mood. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907751 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 13:09:00 +0000 winniebee 1907751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's full of shit. </p> <p>T can "read" a few books Bc he has memorized the lines. I'm sure hats what your FIL is referring to.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907748 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 13:06:14 +0000 Mrs. M 1907748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: What bs! I'm an elementary teacher (SAHM for a couple years) and my 21-month old can't read a thing. I feel like many older generations either forget or greatly embellish when milestones were reached. </p> <p>@loveisstrange: Love it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907727 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 12:51:32 +0000 SeptMomma12 1907727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL swears DH was potty trained at 1 and reading at 2. Every time she says it, his grandmother is behind her shaking her head no. Some people have active imaginations :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907724 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 12:50:58 +0000 .twist. 1907724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: lol. Honestly, don't take it personally, I don't even think I could get upset about this because it is just so.far.out.there. hahaha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907720 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 12:50:01 +0000 ValentineMommy 1907720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought my 20 month old knowing 3 letters was good lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907717 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 12:49:37 +0000 Jess1483 1907717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I "read" at 2 as well, by memorizing all the pages. And my little guy will fill in the words of familiar stories, but I def call BS on real "reading." And also, I would blow that off in a hot minute. ILs can be so frustrating! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907713 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 12:48:19 +0000 Purpledaisy 1907713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom always swore that I knew all of my letters at 18 months. Now that I have a 19 month old I think that's bs! I can't even imagine a 2 year old reading! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907711 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 12:47:49 +0000 mauxie 1907711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HA! My LO is 2 and "reading" because she's memorized the pages of her favorite books.. Maybe that's what your FIL is talking about? Either way, his comment would annoy me. Grrr.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907705 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 12:46:14 +0000 BandDmommy 1907705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here's the kicker, he wasn't surprised since I wasn't a teacher like DHs mom was. I feel like I'm being judged. Like I'm not qualified to stay home with my son. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/just-got-shamed-that-lo-is-not#post-1907703 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 12:45:23 +0000 ValentineMommy 1907703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agreed. I call BS. My MIL insists that my BIL was reading at 18m. Seriously. She swears. Meanwhile, BIL still lives at home and has all sorts of....issues.... Pretty sure they're remembering wrong! </p>