https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 08:00:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-588372 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 21:31:19 +0000 LittleGBee 588372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: That is so beyond special, a hug from your grandpa, indeed. Congratulations! </p> <p>@beebug: I'm right there with you. </p> <p>I think I'm pretty lucky to live in a generally progressive place, and I really don't think people are going to be really that offended when I give them the general range of "late September". That, and I guess I'm not really that concerned about offending the randoms in the grocery store. I just figure the less I SAY the date, the less I'll get attached to it and be frustrated when it comes and goes. It may backfire, but I'd rather not go for a repeat of last time, so I'm just trying something different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-588228 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 20:20:25 +0000 Beebug 588228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: I am doing exactly what you've written for any future pregnancies. For LO in October, I de-activated facebook and only looked at my cell for texts from DH, the amount of people that called/emailed texted as my due date neared, came, then passed? Drove me mental. If I am really forced to say a date I will say a month past my actual due date, people are cray cray.</p> <p>If there is somewhere that actually needs to know the date (like HR at work) that I can handle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-588212 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 20:13:16 +0000 travelgirl1 588212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not the due date, but I did keep the c-section date a secret! My family were pretty pissed about it but it was all forgotten when they received a totally unexpected text that baby A was here. We also kept the name and gender a secret until she arrived. I was pretty unpopular for a few weeks but everyone got over it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-588179 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 19:42:40 +0000 lomom 588179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby is due on my grandpas birthday. He and I were very close and it broke my heart that he never got to see DH and I get married. I bawled at my dating ultrasound when they told me the due date. I've shouted it from the rooftops. To me, it's very special, regardless of when LO actually arrives. It was like a hug from my grandpa when the tech told me the date. Everyone hopes he comes on his due date but knows that he might not. I was due on my other grandfathers birthday but came late. It's still special that that was my due date :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-588039 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 18:18:52 +0000 pastemoo 588039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LittleGBee: I would like to do this next time around. I don't know if I could keep it up but I think it would help my sanity toward the end.<br /> This time I told strangers "May" and that was enough for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-588020 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 18:04:44 +0000 Crisark 588020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dookie32: I agree.</p> <p>I'm going to be honest and say that I've never heard of anyone doing that and personally I'd be a bit annoyed. </p> <p>The baby is going to come when it wants to regardless of you being attached to a certain day or because other ppl are anxious about your due date coming closer. </p> <p>I mean kudos to you if you can do it and not offend someone or get too much grief but me personally, I don't see the big deal.<br /> It's part of being visibly pregnant. Ppl want to know when you are due. Esp family. Not telling family baffles me to be honest. </p> <p>But, do what you feel is right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587936 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 17:10:23 +0000 Boheme 587936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LittleGBee: haha...yep, I don't mind here at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587930 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 17:07:29 +0000 LittleGBee 587930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz, @lazylightning: I love how we're talking about keeping due dates under wraps to family, but interwebs strangers...totally fine. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587927 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 17:05:44 +0000 Boheme 587927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LazyLightning: That's mine too! Or the 2nd, my OB goes back and forth. I have a feeling I'll be late so it'll (maybe) keep me from getting pestered. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587915 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 16:59:18 +0000 LazyLightning 587915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! I always say "in june". seems to work. Since i'm actually due June 1 it will hopefully keep people off my back about it in May. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587879 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 16:43:07 +0000 LittleGBee 587879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: I feel like mid to late September is sufficient enough information to help them get excited. :)</p> <p>@Msmini: Yeah, I suppose they do "know", but do they really respect that? Our daughter was 9 days "late" and I was just so uncomfortable and annoyed at the end that I got tired of the incessant "has that baby come yet?" </p> <p>@MrsMeNow: Lol, don't they do that anyway? </p> <p>@GRIZZ: I'm a fairly private person also, thanks for the encouragement. I like your nonchalant response, I think I might adopt it for strangers. </p> <p>@ArtBee, @Blackbird, @Plaidpants: Yeah, I'm not exactly comfortable lying. But I am comfortable being terribly vague. So annoying, I know. </p> <p>@Dookie32: I assure you I'm not trying to be like Beyonce. I'm mostly trying to protect myself and not get too attached to a date. Trust me, I know that pregnancy comes with annoying questions. It's not my favorite part of the gig, but whatevs. </p> <p>@Runsyellowlites: Awesome. Thanks for sharing your experiences. We're trying for a home birth as well. </p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Lol. I love it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587828 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 16:22:22 +0000 Bookish 587828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not keeping it a secret on purpose, but I say mid-July because I know July 14th does not mean baby will be born July 14th! Plus my due date has been moved already...if they press I tell them the date, but for most people 'mid-July' works fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587788 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 16:11:06 +0000 Modern Daisy 587788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought about doing that, but for work I would feel bad being vauge or dishonest since the preparation for me bieng out depends heavily on actual dates, so I figured if I'm telling work I might as well tell everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587785 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 16:10:40 +0000 Smurfette 587785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have never heard of doing this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587784 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 16:10:19 +0000 jetsa 587784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hergreenapples: Yes this! I've been saying Sept. I've told a few people the actual date but Sept. tends to appease the masses. On that note my EDD is 7 months from today lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587764 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 16:05:03 +0000 heartonastring 587764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell people I'm due in early April, not because I'm trying to obfuscate, but just because..I don't know....that's what I do. And pretty much no one has questioned it. Of course my family and friends know THE date. </p> <p>I guess part of the reason I don't tell is that a due date is such a weird concept to me, considering you're technically "full term" for like, a five week window that it seems weird to pinpoint one specific day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587753 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 16:00:29 +0000 runsyellowlites 587753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: LOL! YES! </p> <p>"When's baby due?"</p> <p>"Sometime next Spring..." *pause for awkward look* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587741 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 15:57:26 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 587741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am an outlier because month only, heck season sounds perfectly reasonable to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587736 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 15:55:29 +0000 runsyellowlites 587736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LittleGBee: *raises hand*</p> <p>We did that!!!!!! and I LOVED IT!!! We told most everyone "Early April" or "The first part of April"... if they pushed the subject I told them "If I'm still pregnant on Tax day you can start asking". My edd was April 1st and knew there was no way I could make it to April 15th so I was good. lol</p> <p>Pros<br /> 1. I wasn't pressured into intervening when I went past my edd.<br /> 2. I didn't get any calls/fb messages/etc "Is the baby here yet?..".<br /> 3. I felt more okay with going overdue and didn't start stressing until I was 41+3 b/c if I made it to 42 weeks I couldn't homebirth and I was an automatic repeat cesarean. </p> <p>Cons<br /> 1. I got some pretty offended looks when I didn't share. I also got these same looks about being team green though. Turns out people just feel it's there right to know everything about your pregnancy. O_o</p> <p>Next time we'll do the same thing. =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587714 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 15:45:26 +0000 mrsmenow 587714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dookie32: LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587673 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 15:26:03 +0000 dookie32 587673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To be honest I've never heard of anyone doing this and if I asked someone when they were due and they were vague like that I would find it really odd- like they thought they were Beyonce trying to tip off the paparazzi or something. Being annoyed with questions and comments when you are pregnant is part of the deal unfortunately- just roll with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587644 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 15:12:30 +0000 autumnlove 587644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My EDD is May 2nd and I will have a c-section but I don't know the date yet. It is killing my MIL &amp; FIL because they both have late April bdays and they want the baby to share their bday. I keep telling them that a scheduled c-section might not happen...I might go into labor first! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587637 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 15:09:46 +0000 T.H.O.U. 587637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plaidpants: I would consider doing something like this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587631 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 15:06:02 +0000 Honeybee 587631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty sure runsyellowlights did that. You might ask her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587625 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 15:03:50 +0000 blackbird 587625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh, good luck. I'm due march 30th and a lot of people, i just say "oh the very end of march" when they ask when i'm due. Then they ask for a specific date. People want THE DATE, trust me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587617 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 15:01:26 +0000 heffalump 587617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others said I feel like people will just keep asking. Especially family. If you really don't want them to know it might be a good idea just to lie and make it later then it actually is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587612 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 15:00:13 +0000 Boheme 587612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never tell anyone my due date unless I'm very close to them. Especially strangers... I'm a very guarded and private person anyway. Why do I need to tell a stranger on an elevator when my baby is expected to arrive? I just say 'June'. If they press I say 'beginning of June. Not sure. He measures a little differently every time I have an appointment.'</p> <p>I also want to avoid people hassling me about whether I've had him or not yet when the due date passes. One of my friends literally got tons upon tons of calls, texts, FB posts etc when she went overdue of people asking "Have you had that baby yet?!" She said it just added to her stress and anxiety about baby being late, and whether or not she'd have to be induced. She finally sent people to this website. Priceless. haha</p> <p><a href="http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587609 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 14:59:30 +0000 mrsmenow 587609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A con I think this would add to having family stress towards the end about if there are any signs of the baby coming. I can picture my family calling the whole month they knew I was due when I wasn't even due for several more weeks. @MrsTiz had a good suggestion to help curb this.</p> <p>I think baby will come when it is ready anyways so I am having a hard time thinking of a pro. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587599 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 14:56:09 +0000 plaidpants 587599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my SIL is trying to do this, but I kept thinking I just forgot and kept asking her when she's due. I'm annoying! I finally realized and stopped asking!</p> <p>When I got pregnant, a friend told me to just tell everyone a date at least two weeks past my actual due date, so that people wouldn't harass me about being late, etc. It was a smart idea, but I was already like 4 months along and had told everyone my actual due date. Next time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/keeping-the-due-date-under-wraps#post-587588 Fri, 22 Feb 2013 14:54:00 +0000 MsMini 587588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think most people KNOW that babies don't have a timer that pops them out on the due date. I don't know anyone IRL that has kept the due date a secret (though I do know people that have lied and given a date 1-2 weeks later than the actual due date). </p>