https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 14:50:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733824 Tue, 09 May 2017 16:46:17 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2733824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very sad. I think Cash/ Amex GC is the best gift at this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733812 Tue, 09 May 2017 15:01:52 +0000 Ms. RV 2733812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dad passed away unexpectedly when I was young, and my mom had zero interest in food or leaving the house. Granted, everyone mourns differently, but I agree with @yoursilverlining that Visa gift cards are a good idea, so then the money can go where it is needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733806 Tue, 09 May 2017 14:56:27 +0000 yoursilverlining 2733806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heartbreaking :crying: </p> <p>I don’t know if this is helpful or not, but I/my work team went through a similar situation this year as my admin’s husband suddenly passed away, leaving her with 6 children. As a team, we talked a lot about what to do and decided to gift her Visa gift cards because the loss of a spouse will impact everything and we wanted her to be able to use our money to buy whatever she needed; whether it was food, comfort gift items for her children, or to pay her electric bill. </p> <p>I would also say that if you feel its appropriate or “natural” (given your level of interaction with the mother), to check in on the mom in a couple of months. Everyone reaches out and gifts items and time and sympathy right after something happens, but a few months in, it can become lonely. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733803 Tue, 09 May 2017 14:54:53 +0000 snowjewelz 2733803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is so sad. I would definitely send a gift card for the mom, and maybe a few toys/activities for the girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733776 Tue, 09 May 2017 14:09:47 +0000 maddyz 2733776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the child I would go with small easy activities they can do themselves. I would also wrap it in a way that it could just be tucked away until the moment was right to use it. It might be a confusing time to get a lot of presents... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733677 Tue, 09 May 2017 11:20:17 +0000 littlejoy 2733677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sad!! </p> <p>I wouldn't do the stuffed animal for a few reasons ... one: there's no way of knowing how the family is approaching his death with the LO. two: most parents hate stuffed animals, and beyond that, it's a tangible memory of this time (which some people would embrace, but others wouldn't want to). </p> <p>I think a gift card to anywhere is a nice gesture. I also agree about checking in later as well. Arrange a time for their LO to come have a play date so that mom can have some time to breathe and do something for herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733676 Tue, 09 May 2017 11:19:20 +0000 azjax 2733676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a gift card and stuffed animal are really nice ideas. I'd make sure that whatever​ restaurant you select does take-home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733667 Tue, 09 May 2017 11:05:55 +0000 jape14 2733667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a gift card to a grocery store with a good prepared foods section would be great. It's also possible if any families are closer to the family that they'll know of a meal train that is being organized or a go fund me site. (I had a similar situation at my office with a colleague's LO passing unexpectedly, and word about both spread quickly.) </p> <p>For the little girl, what about putting together a small bag of activities she can do quietly/without a ton of assistance? Color wonder markers/paper or coloring book, Melissa and Doug reusable stickers, or a Water Wow book would be good options. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733617 Tue, 09 May 2017 08:55:36 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2733617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: That's a good idea. I wish I knew if she was into TV or not. Graham won't sit down to watch anything, but Elliot and Finn would be that age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733616 Tue, 09 May 2017 08:55:08 +0000 lamariniere 2733616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a sad situation. I think I would try to organize a collection from other families that are willing to donate cash and then put it towards a practical gift like @Eko: suggested. At the very least, I would definitely give them a card. It's nice to know people are thinking of you when a loved one passes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733615 Tue, 09 May 2017 08:54:47 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2733615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Eko: I agree that an Amazon card would be great, too. Anyone could use that, right?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733608 Tue, 09 May 2017 08:44:43 +0000 Eko 2733608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: I think the stuffed animal is super sweet for the girl. Again, I don't think the restaurant gift card is wrong by any means, I'm just more of a practical person and think an amazon card or something would be awesome. There's no really wrong answer to this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733599 Tue, 09 May 2017 08:39:05 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2733599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also what about maybe a new DVD for her to watch? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733598 Tue, 09 May 2017 08:38:29 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2733598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: I asked and the director and teacher said nothing was planned, but that we could all drop off a card, etc. if we wanted to and they would get it to the mom. </p> <p>@Eko: You mean you wouldn't do the restaurant card or the stuffed animal?<br /> I was actually actually thinking of a gift card for our "nicer" grocery store so she could either use it for the restaurant part or for groceries. I know she works, too, and if it were me, I'm afraid the last thing I would feel like doing after work for a while is cooking, but who knows!?! As for the stuffed animal, I'm fine with doing something else, but I would really like to do something small for the little girl, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733587 Tue, 09 May 2017 08:03:59 +0000 Eko 2733587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's a bad idea, but I would personally go with something more practical like a grocery or amazon gift card. Who knows the impact this has on their finances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733586 Tue, 09 May 2017 08:03:35 +0000 erinbaderin 2733586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that would be lovely. Do you think the daycare is planning on doing something? There might be other parents in the class who have the same impulse and you could get together and do a combined gift, maybe a meal delivery service or something? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733584 Tue, 09 May 2017 08:01:38 +0000 mediagirl 2733584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: that's so sad. I think a gift card (big enough to cover an entire meal for the family) to a restaurant is a great idea. Take the load off mom. </p> <p>It's hard when you don't know them too well but I know one thing friends have told me in the past is that a simple card saying we are thinking of you is helpful. Even if it's in 2, 4, 6 weeks....it will let her know that you really are thinking of her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kid-at-los-daycare-lost-a-parent-wwyd#post-2733581 Tue, 09 May 2017 07:57:59 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2733581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The teacher in my 2 year-old's room told all the parents yesterday afternoon that the father of a little girl in his class u expectedly died last week. I know them enough that we say hello during drop off/pick up, but that's the extent of our contact. We would like to do something for the little girl and her family. I was thinking maybe a sympathy card with a gift card for some restaurant since I don't know them well enough to bring food and maybe a stuffed animal for the little girl. </p> <p>Any thoughts on what would be most appropriate? I'm sure the 2-year old doesn't totally understand what's going on, but my heart just breaks for her (&amp; her mom, too, of course) so we would like to do some small token of our sympathy. </p>