https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 05:01:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924128 Mon, 21 Jun 2021 12:52:31 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2924128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Vaccination is a non-negotiable for us. My parents came to visit and stayed over Memorial Day and that was because they're both vaccinated and so are we (but kiddo isn't since she's 8). My brother is not allowed to stay with us because he won't get a vaccine and I have zero qualms about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924095 Fri, 18 Jun 2021 12:40:28 +0000 hellobeeboston 2924095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely not unreasonable. All of the family I know have been vaccinated and we are comfortable with our children being with them, and them with us... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924093 Thu, 17 Jun 2021 10:53:48 +0000 Chuckles 2924093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone. I have been at work (masked even though I'm vaccinated, semi-high risk environment) and DH has been at work (possibly unmasked recently since everyone is vaccinated. I should probably check on this :happy: ) DS and DD have been at home with a nanny the whole year, but DS will be at outdoor summer camp next month, masked. We will see other kids outside with masks on, and have recently started visiting with other vaccinated adults indoors, but I wouldn't have my kids with other kids or unvaccinated adults indoors, especially with people who have maybe not been super careful this whole time.<br /> The only exception we made was to visit my in-laws over Memorial Day. All the adults are vaccinated, but my nieces are too young. One has been in school, masked. We spent lots of time with them indoors over the weekend at their homes. I was honestly a little nervous, but it was worth the small-ish risk to be able to finally see them all again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924091 Thu, 17 Jun 2021 05:08:49 +0000 caitcat 2924091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally get this! We've drawn a similar like with vaccines/indoor visits because of the kids. I'm actually so grateful to have a pretty straightforward line to hold now. I feel like over the last year, I've tried to navigate and re-evaluate what I'm comfortable with so many times, but this finally feels like a place I'm confident in for now.</p> <p>@jhd: My situation with my in laws is strikingly similar. When I think about how the relationship will look going ahead, it makes me so sad and anxious too. The path forward feels rocky even once my younger kids are eligible for the vaccine and we feel more comfortable with visits. My in laws have gone all in on conspiracy theories and I just don't know where we go from here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924090 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 22:15:01 +0000 jhd 2924090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just came to the boards to see if anyone had posted on this topic. We haven’t seen my in-laws since Christmas 2019. They are refusing to be vaccinated and have fallen into all kinds of conspiracy theories. At this point I don’t want to see them until our kids are vaccinated. We did remote learning, we still mask when shopping, at the library, etc. DH and I are vaccinated as are my parents and siblings so the kids have been seeing them regularly. My older DS has gone to some half day camps this summer unmasked and in small groups. I feel like he needs that socialization to get ready for going back to school in August which will be in person. I really don’t think the relationship with my in-laws will ever be the same after this. And it makes me sad and anxious if I think about it too much. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924088 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 19:43:29 +0000 greencraftycello 2924088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely makes sense. We have had big issues with my husband’s family (brother, SIL, and SIL’s family) over this because we are unwilling to put our family’s health at risk. I cannot wait for my young children to be eligible for the vaccine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924087 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 18:58:18 +0000 MrsSCB 2924087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaG: totally makes sense—our parents and siblings also got TDAP boosters when our first was born, so I agree that wanting people to be vaccinated to be around vulnerable kids isn’t a totally new concept! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924086 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 17:43:28 +0000 MamaG 2924086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I shouldn't be surprised the hive understands our perspective. But it is reassuring to see that I'm not as crazy as others think I might be. </p> <p>Like I shared with my husband, we wanted all people to be flu vaccinated when they interacted with our newborns. I view this as the same thing. My kids can't be protected on their own, so I want the people around them to be protected. </p> <p>(hope that doesn't come off as me thinking COVID and the flu are the same - but I think the rationale we are employing is consistent). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924085 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 16:46:08 +0000 JJ2626 2924085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all unreasonable but if you actually have family members who don’t want the vaccine, they probably won’t like you asking them to. All my friends and family are vaccinated, but I would not let any unvaccinated adult see my kid inside. Outside with a mask, okay. I do let my kid see a select few unvaccinated kids inside but rates are extremely low where I live. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924082 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 15:32:51 +0000 Lahela017 2924082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not unreasonable at all. We did not see family indoors until they were vaccinated. No kids besides ours, so we don't have that angle to worry about. But I think it's totally reasonable and responsible to not see unvaccinated people indoors. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924081 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 15:25:28 +0000 Mama Bird 2924081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you've all had Covid, and the adults are also vaccinated, you're already quite safe. You're not a hazard to your unvaccinated relatives, and they are not a hazard to you. </p> <p>But of course you can ask them to stay in a hotel, and stick to meetings outdoors. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924079 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 14:51:29 +0000 Anagram 2924079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I should say, it’s going to get even more awkward if the border between Canada and US opens because I trust my husband’s family more than I trust my own. In terms of Covid safety. They have been extremely conservative (well, Ontario rules have been strict for everyone, but they are following the rules not flouting them). Kids have been on remote learning. Parents work from home. Grandparents essentially never leave the house. All wear masks and none have mixed with other families in about 1.5 years. </p> <p>So if the border opens, we WOULD invite them, even tho the youngest two cousins aren’t vaccinated. All the adults and oldest cousin would be. But I trust them more, so it’s a rational decision, but it’s a decision that will piss off my family. Again….🤷‍♀️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924078 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 14:47:03 +0000 Anagram 2924078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaG: I guess I’d take it on a case-by-case basis, but I agree with the other PP who said probably a vaccine skeptic is also a Covid skeptic, and engaging in more risky behaviors (but hey, maybe not, which is why I say case-by-case). </p> <p>We have been in SEVERAL awkward situations with my family because I have a sibling who isn’t going to get vaccinated (neither is their spouse), and my kids are the only ones on my side not eligible to be vaccinated (other grandkids are older). </p> <p>And we bought a vacation house, so suddenly my family wants to all come see us, but I had to basically say everyone who is vaccinated is fine, and if you aren’t, you can’t come. And it’s been hard, and awkward. </p> <p>But at the end of the day….my kids, my house, my rules. And this sibling also doesn’t wear masks anywhere (even tho Unvaccinated), had never stopped socializing in groups. Their spouse works in a hospital (and is also not vaccinated), so I just feel like they are high risk to bring Covid to my unvaccinated kids, and it is what it is. </p> <p>And you know, like…we would be providing essentially a free vacation to people who don’t respect my (and my husbands, and let’s be honest, it’s his job that makes us able to afford a vacation home) viewpoint in safety for my kids. I mean, I’m going by the CDC recommendations about mixing households unvaccinated indoors (they said don’t do it). So….it is what it is. </p> <p>But it hasn’t been fun, it’s been surprisingly tough to have these conversations. And I think it’s eroded family ties quite a bit. But I’m blaming them for that (I’m sure they are blaming me for being “hard core). 🤷‍♀️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924077 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 14:07:11 +0000 MrsSCB 2924077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think that's unreasonable at all. Our family is local, and we did not spend time together indoors until vaccinations. Luckily all adult extended family are vaccinated now! I'm sorry your husband was so sick, that must have been scary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924076 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 13:44:11 +0000 ALV91711 2924076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m glad your husband recovered. I think being your house you have the choice of who you let stay. It is your job to protect your family. You also have the choice of where to go and stay. If you are not ready to be around people who aren’t vaccinated just be polite about it. As long as both parties respect each other’s choice it shouldn’t be a problem. </p> <p>We still have much stricter rules where we are and haven’t had to deal with this yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924073 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 13:19:22 +0000 foodiebee 2924073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've also lost people to covid, and I'm glad to hear that your husband has recovered. We recently held a family get-together for the first time in person. We invited adults we knew were vaccinated; all of the kids were too young to be vaccinated. We felt like this was the safe way to gather and offer protection to the children as best we could. </p> <p>We did have two people who are vaccine skeptics and were not vaccinated at the time of the invite, and we told them we respected their choice, but that we were inviting vaccinated people to the party, so it was their choice and if they chose not to be vaccinated, we would work out another way/time to see them another time that did not involve the larger group. They understood and chose to get vaccinated. </p> <p>To me this is no different than choosing whether you're comfortable with your kids playing with nonvax families in general, for example. Due to health reasons, we're a vaccination family and we mingle with others who are as well. It's just what we have to do to protect the health of our family, and while I'm sure there are people out there who are negative about that stance, we haven't encountered them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924072 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 13:18:33 +0000 bhbee 2924072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is totally reasonable to ask 12+ be vaccinated for indoor visits. We’re lucky that we don’t have this issue in the family, and we mask elsewhere indoors. </p> <p>The timing didn’t work out but I probably would have let our kids mix with the cousins at my mom’s even though none are vaccinated yet since &lt;12. But they’re also way less likely to spread it than adults according to the data. I also figure an unvaccinated adult may have other risky behaviors I am not comfortable with. I’m sorry you have to make these hard choices!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-exposure-to-unvaccinated-family#post-2924071 Wed, 16 Jun 2021 12:37:37 +0000 MamaG 2924071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Let's set this up. My husband had a fairly severe case of COVID earlier this year (including hospitalization). We also lost a family friend to COVID during my husband's recovery. Me and one of our children did test positive when my husband was ill but our symptoms were mild in nature and we didn't suspect COVID for us until my husband was positive and significantly symptomatic. </p> <p>My husband has gone to his employer everyday wearing a mask (and still is required to do so). I'm at work without a mask (no longer required). Our children are at a summer camp unmasked. School will resume for our kids in August in a NORMAL (pre-COVID) manner.</p> <p>My husband and I are both fully vaccinated. Our children are not eligible for vaccine (under 12). Our children still mask when in public (shopping) as do we to make it easier for the kids.</p> <p>We have not seen any family members in person since March 2020 (our families are not in our local area). Is it unreasonable to ask family to be vaccinated before they stay in our home or our children stay in their home? How are you handling this within your own home? </p>