https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 07:59:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2744246 Tue, 06 Jun 2017 09:59:40 +0000 LemonJack 2744246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! I would be SO upset if I were you, for the same reasons. The miscommunication piece is big. At that age, prepping them for such a large transition only to have it not happen would be really upsetting. The fact that they didn't communicate with you is mind boggling. I know you already talked to the director, so that's good, but I'm frustrated for you and your boys. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2744238 Tue, 06 Jun 2017 09:45:43 +0000 Bluebonnet 2744238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: I would also be furious (my oldest also is sensitive to change, so we would have done a ton of prep just as you did). It sounds like you handled it very well, but its unfortunate you were put in the situation in the first place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2744190 Tue, 06 Jun 2017 08:33:03 +0000 mediagirl 2744190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: Good teaching moment. You're teaching them that it's okay to experience disappointment. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2744188 Tue, 06 Jun 2017 08:29:57 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2744188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: @gingerbebe: This is basically what I did as far as the boys were concerned. They asked about it again on the way to school today, and I gave my own version of what you said. </p> <p>I'm not going to push to move them to the bigger class at this point. It will only be two months, and in that time, we'll have a vacation and they are going to a couple of afternoon summer camps, so I know they'll have other fun stuff going on. Right or wrong, I decided it just wasn't worth the battle for such a short period of time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2744173 Tue, 06 Jun 2017 08:07:54 +0000 travellingbee 2744173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: absolutely agree!. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2744130 Tue, 06 Jun 2017 05:49:18 +0000 winniebee 2744130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: agree with this. I would be super pissed about this and the way that it was handled. And my kid would probably be pretty upset about not being with his friends for a few months. But I would handle it this way. And would put pressure on director to move them anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2744105 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 21:54:26 +0000 gingerbebe 2744105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: I'd be real pissed at what happened to your kids and the school would definitely hear about it from me and DH. Like we'd be full on. LIVID. But for the kids we would sorta just use the situation to teach that sometimes stuff doesn't work out. Like, it sucks a lot for your kids, but you can try to use it as a valuable learning experience for them that stuff changes and it's okay to be upset, but we don't get what we want or are promised all the time. It's one of those shrug the shoulders moments as a mom, yanno? You can maybe explain that it's because they get to go to the big fun school soon or because they are such good boys who can help the little guys in the class or whatever, but things change. So sorry this happened to you. I can only imagine what a rage my husband would have gone into if this happened to us. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2744102 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 21:42:57 +0000 DesertDreams88 2744102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with every single word that @Adira: said. It's entirely not fair to your kids to be stuck in the 3s class just bc they're moving in August. They deserve to be with their peers. The director needs to adjust staffing or shift classroom locations. if it's a ratio/licensing issue. Maybe there should be a transitional "older 3s, young 4s" class. Were there other classmates "left behind" with them?</p> <p>Also, I think the storm is a silly excuse. She should have called you over the weekend. That would have been the right thing to do, "work hours" be damned.</p> <p>And that's saying a lot from me, bc I've been a childcare worker/teacher for 12 years now! So normally I err on the side of teachers/directors. But they are clearly in the wrong here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743903 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 13:26:04 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2743903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: I'm so sorry, poor kids!! I would have been pissed too. For what it's worth, my dd is 4.5 and is also staying in her old room for the few weeks she will spend in summer program at her preschool. (I'm only working pt so for her that's only half a day though.) She's in the same situation- going to public school next year. Hopefully they know enough of the other kids and will get used to it ok. One way or another in a few months they will be settling into their new school and this won't be a thing anymore. &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743889 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 13:14:08 +0000 winter_wonder 2743889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a frustrating situation. Ugh. I'm glad the director talked to you, but what a mess!</p> <p>I agree with what @mediagirl said: communication seems to terrible at centers (my DD's included). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743880 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 13:04:37 +0000 mediagirl 2743880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry, that is such crap. Even her excuse is crap. Daycare centers are notoriously terrible about communication. I can just imagine how heartbroken your boys were this morning. </p> <p>Were any other kids left behind in the 3s room? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743874 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 12:56:47 +0000 littlejoy 2743874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually think this is a big deal. Kids usually have a hard time with transitions, but it sounds like yours were SO EXCITED!!! I would be pissed that no one talked me to about it (especially because I have an expectation of good communication when it comes to my kid and her school). </p> <p>I am glad you said something ... and while her excuse seems valid, I am sure it doesn't make it any less frustrating. Ugh!! I'm so sorry!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743846 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 12:23:23 +0000 Chuckles 2743846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @adira: that I would be most upset about my kid having to be separated from all his friends and join a class of kids who have been together already. Although they would be skipping the extra transition of changing rooms before moving to a new school, being put with a new group of kids would be just as hard, I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743845 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 12:22:12 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2743845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just talked to the director. Basically, she apologized said that she had someone helping her make the schedules, rosters, etc., for the transitions and when she finally had a chance to look at them on Friday, she realized there were more kids in the 4-yr old class than what the class is licensed for, so they decided to keep any kid moving in August in the old classroom. I said that would have been fine except that no one communicated that to us and we had hurt, sad little boys today. She said the electricity had gone out Friday (we had a big storm) and that she hadn't had a chance to send an email or anything. </p> <p>I totally understand keeping them behind and even the failure to communicate that with the stress of the storm. I am still frustrated that she hadn't looked at the lists and realized the numbers were over the limit until the last business day before the transition, but there's really nothing to do at this point. She is the interim director, and they are supposed to be starting to interview this week (it's been probably 3-4 months since the last director left), so hopefully they will find someone good soon and communication will improve.</p> <p>Thanks for all the support and suggestions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743844 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 12:22:02 +0000 Rocker2014 2743844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with most previous posters - you're absolutely right to be upset by the lack of communication. I'd be asking for a meeting with the director immediately, particularly as there are many transitions coming for your boys and effective communication is necessary for those to be successful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743835 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 12:02:10 +0000 matador84 2743835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: I totally understand. I hope you decide to address it! Especially with the other two still being there. They should not have sent a note home OR told you ahead of time they wouldn't be moving. I know there is nothing worse than having to drop kids off and run and leave knowing they are upset about a situation that could have been avoided! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743832 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:58:19 +0000 kiddosc 2743832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it possible that the school didn't move them thinking that it would be easier for the boys? Like they figured that you wouldn't want to handle the transition to a new room and then a transition to a new school so quickly? </p> <p>It was for sure handled poorly, but I wonder if there is still the potential to move them if you talk to the director and explain the boys would rather move. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743825 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:47:34 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2743825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: That sounds like a very plausible explanation. I just wish someone had told us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743824 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:46:48 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2743824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: I'm okay with them staying in the younger class. I'm just frustrated that the entire time they have said they were moving them up and then this morning, the day of, we learned they were not. Not stellar communication. And our other kids will still be in the daycare, so it's not like we're leaving entirely no matter what because we still have to have daycare for the little two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743819 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:43:06 +0000 Truth Bombs 2743819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If the plan had been all along for the boys to stay in the 3's room until they left in August I would have been bummed for those few months of the boys being bored, missing their friends, etc, but I would have understood that the logistics make the most sense from the school's perspective. But for them to send all that information home and then not move you, and with no notice, I would be irritated. My guess is that since you haven't given formal notice, the boys were included in the move, and then likely at some point much more recently, someone saw them on the list and said "oh, F&amp;E are leaving in August" and then the change was made. But everything should have been communicated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743816 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:42:19 +0000 Mamaof2 2743816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: that happened to my DS when he was suppose to move up at 3.5 - they knew he was leaving in a month so they moved up everyone except for him - I was pissed but what could I do? I still needed care for the next 30 days - we just waited it out and were thrilled to be done with that school! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743815 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:40:41 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2743815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: I probably should do the same and just never say anything anymore, but it's challenging because one of mine is very sensitive to differences in routines or big changes so we always try to lay a lot of groundwork. In the end, I'm really fine with them staying in the 3s class (one less transition!), but I just hate the way it happened and that my kids got hurt in the process. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743810 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:38:16 +0000 Adira 2743810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, absolutely not okay! And I would be pissed that my kids were essentially being "punished" for the fact they were going to be switching schools. They are FOUR. They should be with the other four-year-olds, regardless of how long it's for. I know my four-year-old would have been HEARTBROKEN if this happened. At four, they have built of friendships with the other kids in their class, and to have ALL their friends transition to a new class and be left behind?? Horrible!</p> <p>I'm so sorry this happened to you. I would absolutely insist that they move to the new class. You are, I assume, still paying tuition for this school and your children should be treated just like any other child in that school, regardless of what's happening in August. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743809 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:38:07 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2743809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shabang: Honestly, I don't even care that much about the curriculum aspect since I know it's only a couple months, but I'm just so mad that the decision was made without talking to us about it and that there was zero communication once the decision had been made. I've very cognizant that I'm most angry because my kids are hurt when they didn't have to be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743801 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:29:03 +0000 matador84 2743801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. I would definitely be annoyed but I've learned one thing about having kids in daycare is they make so many last minute decisions based on so many different factors that I pretty much stopped telling my kids about things altogether.</p> <p>In this case, I would talk to the director just about how disappointed you are that the decision was made to keep them back in the 3's when a note was sent home stating they would move up classes. Could they make an exception and still stay within ratio to move the boys up, even just for the next few months? </p> <p>If they made a decision to take a new 4 year old who was a summer enrollee over the boys, therefore keeping them back and putting the 4 year olds in, nonetheless an annoying situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743800 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:28:57 +0000 snowjewelz 2743800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So not cool. You spent all that time and effort prepping them for what's new only to have it reversed. It's GOOD that teachers see how distraught they were! I don't like things like that happening without any prior notice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743796 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:27:17 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2743796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not cool! :sad: I would ask about transitioning them into the 4s room sometime this week from a standpoint there was clearly a snafu today. The 4s room would probably better prepare them for pre-school, which is coming up quickly. Every day counts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743794 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:25:39 +0000 shabang 2743794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not overreacting. This would really annoy me, because the preparation for this type of change is a ton of work, and you did all that! </p> <p>Our center is keeping kids leaving in the fall in their old classroom to minimize the transitions for them. Without speaking to you (which they should have done), they probably thought this would be the more desirable situation.</p> <p>I'd worry less about the curriculum for the few months but more about the poor communication issues. That said, I'm not concerned about preschool education because I feel like our center more than prepares them for school. It's not unreasonable at all to expect your children to be in the right educational group, even if it is only for a few months. The center should want them to be learning, engaged, and a good educational fit for their current classroom, so it's not out of line to insist on the move up if that's what you want now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743791 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:23:54 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2743791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: @danda: Okay, at least I'm not totally off base in my frustration. Thanks. </p> <p>@looch: I'll talk to them and see. I know a lot of kids leave in the summer anyway, so I'm not sure how their numbers are so full right now that they couldn't move E &amp; F up anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kids-not-moved-up-at-last-minute-without-notice-wwyd#post-2743789 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 11:20:56 +0000 danda 2743789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not ok, at all. Would have been one thing if they didn't send you the note about new teachers, etc. But completely inappropriate to notify you of a transition and reverse it without notice. </p>