https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 08:25:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803304 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:38:25 +0000 LuLu Mom 803304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, I think your hormones are getting to you, but I can totally understand why your feelings are hurt. It will make more sense when your little one is here. I would forget my phone in the bedroom charging constantly when I was home with a little one, my focus was always on her and if she was sleeping, I didn't want to chat/text I wanted to sleep or get some household stuff done while I had the time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803297 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:37:00 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 803297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw I know how you feel! But when I was with my 2 month baby, I had a tough time texting except quick, short responses because my hands were always full. I'm sure she's thinking of you, but is in a state of serious sleep deprivation right now!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803291 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:35:13 +0000 littlebug 803291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: Yup, that's exactly what I was thinking happened! </p> <p>It is SO HARD to do much of anything when you have a newborn. Even texting, which seems like such a simple task, can be overwhelming! I wouldn't be offended. Just send a quick text to say, "Know you're busy, thinking of you, let me know if I can help" or something. Just that little message meant so much to me in those early days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803290 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:34:46 +0000 MrsLilybugg 803290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you SO MUCH bees!! :) I feel tons better now and can totally see her side of it. I like @runsyellowlites's scenario and realize that omg - this is my sister's life right now with HER newborn, and so of course my friend is going through same.<br /> thanks all :) xoxo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803263 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:25:38 +0000 runsyellowlites 803263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: I use my phone for work so I'd generally kept it on vibrate... that alone would wake P up! UGH! I would try putting it on silent just while I was putting her to sleep but then I'd forget to put it back on &amp; when I'd finally look I'd have txts from DH or my mom (my boss) like this ??? ? ???? ? So I stopped doing that.</p> <p>That scenario was me LOTS of times! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803261 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:23:49 +0000 littlek 803261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsLilybugg: I wouldn't be offended. Mommy brain is the worst and having a LO is extremely time consuming especially in the beginning. I'm sure she didn't mean to upset you and just has a bunch of stuff of her plate right now. Hugs though, pregnancy hormones are rough! I was super sensitive when I was pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803241 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:15:12 +0000 regberadaisy 803241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: haha love your scenario. TBH my phone was kept on silent those few months! I sometimes still forget to turn it back on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803239 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:14:21 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 803239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I wouldn't be offended, but again I don't "fish" or expect people to ask about me. I am really bad about reciprocating concern too. </p> <p>I agree with PPs her hurried, short responses sounds like you caught her at bad time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803235 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:13:07 +0000 googly-eyes 803235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the others. I had a hard time even texting a few words when LO was that age. The first few months are so busy. I know it sounds ridiculous that even a text wouldn't be sent but you really do get that busy!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803225 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:08:28 +0000 runsyellowlites 803225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>(hugs)</p> <p>This is how I see the scenerio having gone on her end...</p> <p>You text, she's bf'ing trying to get baby to sleep, phone goes off, she answers, resumes trying to get baby back calm, text again, she answers wanting to elaborate but is preoccupied trying to get this gosh darn baby settled, she gives a short response and then FORGETS she had wanted to elaborate...</p> <p>Response in those first couple months was SO hard for me to remember! =/ Hope it gets better soon!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803223 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:08:23 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 803223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dude...when your baby is 2m old: you will totally understand her response.<br /> I was lucky if I knew where my phone was at 2m Pp. BRUTAL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803219 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:06:34 +0000 regberadaisy 803219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>TBH it sounds like she was right in the middle of something but did not want to be rude and not respond. Then she likely forgot about it. Think pregnancy brain is bad? Mommy brain is worse! I wouldn't take it personally either. Those first 2-3 months are brutal.</p> <p>Keep checking in on her sporadically and in a few months when your LO is here and things are easier for her I'm sure she'll return the favor. :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803212 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:05:25 +0000 meredithNYC 803212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry that you feel upset about this and I think it's understandable, especially with pregnancy hormones at play. But I do think your initial guess is right in that she's probably just overwhelmed. I remember at that point LO was still nursing very, very frequently and I felt like anytime she wasn't nursing/sleeping I had to get a ton of household stuff done. I probably wasn't the best communicator for the first 3 or 4 months after LO was born, but I did get better!</p> <p>Maybe just follow up with her and say that you understand she's probably busy and you want to make things as easy as possible for her? Possibly even offer to like, bring food over so you can hang out at home with her and she doesn't feel the pressure of going out? Just a thought! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803209 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:04:17 +0000 MamaMoose 803209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw don't feel bad. I promise you that once your LO gets here you will totally understand why she didn't elaborate and respond more in detail later. In those first couple months taking care of baby is just completely all consuming! The fact that she was able to respond at all was probably all she could handle at the moment. She'll come back around once she settles into mamahood a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/kind-of-feel-offended#post-803203 Thu, 23 May 2013 11:01:47 +0000 MrsLilybugg 803203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure if offended is the right word. Like mud, maybe?<br /> I sporadically text back and forth with a friend of mine with random check-ins. (Neither of us like the "phone call thing". To chat live, we make plans and hang out.)</p> <p>Anyway, I asked her how she and her LO are doing (about 2 months old), and she sent a photo and said great. Then I asked how her time off has been and listed a bunch of scenarios I envisioned, and she replied with "everything you listed!".</p> <p>And that's it.</p> <p>I felt kind of weird that she didn't in turn ask me how I was doing with my pregnancy, or anything else really.<br /> I guess she's just SUPER busy, which I can imagine I'll be in a few months. So I guess I understand. But even a follow up with me, even if days later? I feel kinda stupid. Like I just belly flopped into a pool or something. Blame pregnancy hormones on this one? I'm extra sensitive lately! </p>