https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 02:20:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/learning-to-love-your-baby#post-614325 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 13:54:13 +0000 blackbird 614325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been thinking a lot about this lately and how I will more than likely feel like this when I have the baby. Even with &lt;4 weeks to go, I'm not overcome by this "OMG I LOVE HER" feeling that everyone is asking about, and I'm not expecting the switch to turn on as soon as I have her. I'm leery, I guess. I hope it does, but I acknowledge it may not. </p> <p>Very timely article :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/learning-to-love-your-baby#post-614301 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 13:46:48 +0000 hilsy85 614301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haven't read the article yet but I didn't like my son until he was about 8 wks old...until then, motherhood was painful, exhausting, demoralizing and not at all fun! Now I love him to bits but it took time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/learning-to-love-your-baby#post-614300 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 13:45:57 +0000 yoursilverlining 614300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: I saw a therapist for PPD after LO was born who specializes in PPD and she said these feelings are really, really common – and very normal. There is this sort of set-up where we’re told we are supposed to be completely “in love” with our babies from the first moment we see them – all warm fuzzies from the start. But, babies have their own personalities and even though you’ve carried them for 9 months; they are still a new person/stranger in your life, and on top of that, the newborn period and all the transitions are often extremely stressful. </p> <p>I felt guilty about it as well, but it’s not something anyone should feel guilty about. It’s a totally normal experience! I feel very bonded to my LO now, but definitely did not at first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/learning-to-love-your-baby#post-614294 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 13:44:51 +0000 mrskc 614294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt exactly like this. It took time for me to feel really bonded with my son. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/learning-to-love-your-baby#post-614276 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 13:37:04 +0000 Happygal 614276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MeganMP: I think probably more people feel this way than they would like to admit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/learning-to-love-your-baby#post-614252 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 13:30:10 +0000 meganmp 614252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good god I'm glad other people feel this way. I felt so guilty about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/learning-to-love-your-baby#post-614210 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 13:10:49 +0000 Happygal 614210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's been a couple threads recently that reminded me of this article I read on another blog, so I wanted to share: <a href="http://offbeatfamilies.com/2012/09/i-had-to-learn-to-love-my-baby" rel="nofollow">http://offbeatfamilies.com/2012/09/i-had-to-learn-to-love-my-baby</a></p> <p>The mother shares her shame in not feeling that over the moon love for her son right away. Below is her husband's response to her confession of how she was feeling: </p> <p>"He pointed out that we were in a pretty crap situation, seriously deprived of sleep and couldn't really derive much pleasure from our newborn because he was either crying or asleep. He reminded me that we were getting to know Lucas, and he us, and that process takes time whenever you meet someone for the first time. We'd have to get used to him, and in understanding him more, we'd learn to soothe him and things would improve (we hoped)." </p>