https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 02:03:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-ds-with-in-laws-for-date-night#post-44422 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 08:42:38 +0000 heffalump 44422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I knew I was worried but I didn't know I'd be this worried. I didn't sleep all night! First thing I did this morning was make a list of her schedule. I'm 100% sure they will not follow it completely, but at least it's better to have it than not I guess. </p> <p>Hope you enjoy your date! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-ds-with-in-laws-for-date-night#post-44399 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 00:36:45 +0000 Rosie Girl 44399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say as long as you know that your LO will be safe, go and have fun. Plus, they raised your DH, so then must not be too bad :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-ds-with-in-laws-for-date-night#post-44374 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 22:53:09 +0000 Clementine 44374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with Andrea, as long as your LO is safe, I think it's worthwhile to give yourself well deserved R&amp;R with the DH! Have a great time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-ds-with-in-laws-for-date-night#post-44310 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 19:17:16 +0000 Laneybugsmommy 44310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I made a deal the first time that his parents watched our daughter that there were certain things that were non-negotiable and if they didn't follow certain things that were important to our daughters schedule and well being they wouldn't be allowed to watch her again for a few months until we could re-evaluate the situation. This was comforting to me because I was able to feel like I had control over the circumstances in which they watched her in the future and I knew that even if they messed up it would then only be a one time thing. Unfortunately we did have some issues so she hasn't been with them an extended amount of time since then but it has also helped them to see that they weren't necessarily ready to watch her at that point either. Basically there comes a point where you have to give in even for a little bit and see how it goes. Enjoy your mommy and daddy time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-ds-with-in-laws-for-date-night#post-44294 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 18:17:59 +0000 sunshine44 44294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You and your hubby need time together, it's been 9 months don't delay it anymore!! The way I see it, the more time your LO spends with the inlaws the more they will learn about each other, and the easier it will get everytime you need to leave him with them. It's only a few hours but you will feel sooooo refreshed after being away for a bit. Its natural to be nervous but its more unhealthy to never have alone time! Good luck! You can do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-ds-with-in-laws-for-date-night#post-44068 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 11:59:04 +0000 heffalump 44068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're doing the same thing tomorrow, first date afternoon to a movie! My issues are a little different. My lo is in a I don't like anyone but my mommy and daddy stage and she screams for other people. And when she screams my in laws go crazy oohing and awwing over her and hubby and I are quiet when we comfort her so all the noise makes her even more upset.</p> <p>So yes I'm worried about leaving her but I just tell myself it's just a couple of hours and she'll survive. Hopefully my inlaws will too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-ds-with-in-laws-for-date-night#post-44026 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 11:17:08 +0000 T.H.O.U. 44026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Take baby steps and you can do it! The first time my in-laws came to watch our daughter, I told my husband the only way I was ok with it was if he let me type out a list of "instructions". Little things like how to warm her bottle (to make sure they knew not to shake breastmilk), make sure to buckle her in the swing, etc etc. </p> <p>You can do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-ds-with-in-laws-for-date-night#post-44022 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 11:14:52 +0000 Andrea 44022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My number one priority for a babysitter is if they will keep my LO safe. If yes, then I can let the other things slide if it's only for a short time, like a few hours. You and your DH deserve some time to yourselves so try not to sweat the small stuff and have a good time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-ds-with-in-laws-for-date-night#post-44002 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 10:10:49 +0000 Mrsbells 44002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The way I look at it, your parents or in-laws my have different parenting ideas but they did an ok enough job on you and your husband so they should be fine to watch your baby for one day. I would only worry if they were reckless or very old and couldnt care for the baby well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-ds-with-in-laws-for-date-night#post-43999 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 10:07:25 +0000 mrstilly 43999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have had issues with my in laws with DS. I know they border on irrational, but I try to keep myself in check and not let it impact their relationship with DS, because they are good, loving, well-meaning parents and grandparents. My issues are mostly due to comments they've made that have been hurtful to me or seem like passive aggressive attacks on my parenting. There have also been a few occasions where they have done things that I don't like - waking DS from a nap when he was a newborn, keeping him up late in the evenings when we come for the weekend to get more time with him, etc... </p> <p>Anyway... DS is 9 months now and DH and I haven't left him with anyone other than daycare. One of us has always been around. But I know that DH and I need some time together and was thinking about planning a lunch date on New Years to go out to eat and see a movie. We'll be at my in laws for the weekend and I'm trying to be okay with leaving him with them. I know he'll be fine and they will be so happy to have him to themselves. Plus it's a daytime thing, so I won't miss bedtime (which I'm just not ready for yet!) </p> <p>It just feels a lot different with both of us leaving him when we don't *have* to. Add in my MIL issues and I'm having a tough time. BUT this is the first I've even seriously considered it, and gone as far as to look at movie times, so I'm making progress. </p> <p>Any words of wisdom or encouragement? </p>