https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 03:50:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-toddler-with-grandparents-build-up#post-2275848 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 10:17:03 +0000 erinbaderin 2275848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you guys are right that this is really more about me than about him - thanks! I'm still not sure what I'll do but I think it will be easier to decide if I keep in mind that I'm managing my emotional trauma, not his. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-toddler-with-grandparents-build-up#post-2275778 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 09:26:37 +0000 catlady 2275778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could have written the first part of your post a couple months ago. We finally left LO with MIL overnight for the first time when she was about 20 months old. She had never done the bedtime routine without me at that point. I was worried but she did great. I bet your son will be fine whatever you decide. I think it's really how much you want to see him that day whether you decide to head into work or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-toddler-with-grandparents-build-up#post-2275745 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 09:05:51 +0000 illumina 2275745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would see if they can come down a day sooner and do a trial run where the grandparents basically lead but you are there in the background just in case.</p> <p>Thing is, he probably won't really care either way but at least your evening won't be spent worrying about him quite so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/leaving-toddler-with-grandparents-build-up#post-2275702 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 08:35:05 +0000 erinbaderin 2275702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I have never really left our son (19 months) for more than a few hours. In the past year, nobody other than us has ever put him to bed - when my parents babysit we put him to bed and then go out. He's spent the day with them a few times when he was sick and couldn't go to daycare and has been fine for meals and naps.</p> <p>In a month, we have evening plans for my husband's birthday - dinner and a comedy show. This requires us to be downtown (45 minutes away) by about 6:30pm on a Friday. My parents are babysitting, and have already asked to have him stay home from daycare that day so he can spend the day with them, which is no problem. My dilemma is this - do I go to work, in which case my son spends the whole day with his grandparents including dinner and bedtime? Or do I stay home so that he spends the day with them and me, and then I leave them to do dinner/bedtime? I'm just worried about him basically not seeing us for 24 hours - is that too much when he's never done bedtime without us? Should I see if they can come down for a day sooner and do bedtime/bath without the whole day? </p>