https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 22:21:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so/page/2#post-2230119 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 11:08:14 +0000 daniellemybelle 2230119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH took three weeks off. All paid - two weeks paternity leave and one week vacation. The first week was when I was in early "false" labor. Honestly, he could have gone back a little sooner. He started to get a little stir crazy and I had plenty of help from my mom. It was almost like I had too much help in some ways. I would have liked him to taken time off when she was a little older and easier to bond with and I was in need of a break! </p> <p>At his new company, he gets 4 weeks paid paternity leave which I think is great! If we have another LO I am going to encourage him to split it up if they will let him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so/page/2#post-2230115 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 11:06:04 +0000 sarac 2230115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband took off the week that we were in the nicu, and then went back to work from home right after. No one was taking care of me, and I'm still angry about it. This week he'll take 2 weeks off after we come home, and it should be much better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so/page/2#post-2229967 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:50:12 +0000 alphagam84 2229967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband's company doesn't give any paternity time (lame) but he's able to use accumulated sick time so he's taking 2 weeks when the baby comes and then 2 weeks to stay home once my leave ends and I go back to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so/page/2#post-2229931 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:36:55 +0000 wrkbrk 2229931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I know. Super super super lucky. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so/page/2#post-2229925 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:33:05 +0000 mrbee 2229925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: Sounds amazing!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229921 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:32:03 +0000 wrkbrk 2229921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Yes, part of it will overlap. DS is due mid-November, so she will have to finish out the semester right after his birth and I will be home, but from mid-December til mid-April she is off (and then the summer, kind of, too) and I have until mid-Feb. So 8 weeks home together! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229919 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:31:01 +0000 mrbee 2229919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: Wow amazing! Are you going to take the leaves at the same time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229915 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:27:16 +0000 ShootingStar 2229915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had DS in mid November, and DH was able to take about 6 weeks off. It was an amalgamation of vacation time, holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's) and then about 2 weeks unpaid. </p> <p>He now works at a company that offers 4 weeks paternity leave. On top of that I think he'll do another 2 weeks of personal time/vacation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229912 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:25:51 +0000 wrkbrk 2229912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: DW gets 16 weeks paid - which is more than I get and I am having the baby!! Her university offers a whole semester which is extremely generous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229902 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:22:42 +0000 littlebug 2229902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>D was born on a Thursday. He took Thursday, Friday, Monday, and Tuesday off. Back to work Wednesday when my mom came to stay with me for a few days. Those 4 days were paid, but he had to use vacation time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229898 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:19:36 +0000 krispi 2229898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think he's planning to take a week off unpaid. He just started a new job, so he doesn't have any vacation yet. He'll be working 4 10 hour days, so once he does go back to work, he'll still be home with us for 3 days a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229886 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:10:09 +0000 Smurfette 2229886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He took 2 weeks. I think he could have taken 3 but he had to get back and finish a project but at least he worked from home a couple days a week.</p> <p>I think now he gets 6 weeks. But he won't be able to get it. You take too much time off and it hurts his metrics, which determines bonus and raise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229884 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:07:21 +0000 kjpugs 2229884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH gets no leave, but saved up vacation. He works 10 hour shifts - typically he works 5-6 days but only has to work 4. He was able to use 4 days vacation each week and take two weeks off. The paychecks weren't as large as typical but we weren't paying for daycare yet! He had to set his PTO ahead of time but his work was fantastic about being flexible.</p> <p>This time he's doing the same, hopefully they will be as flexible (or she could be born on her due date-ish like LO1 was!) but he actually got the FMLA forms this time, so he can't be punished for having to move that PTO if she comes early, etc.</p> <p>If anyone knows where DH works, I'm sure they might find it as surprising as me that that company doesn't offer any paternity leave or paid family leave. They might for executives and not hourly employees but it's still very disappointing compared to the worldwide image of his company as such a family company. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229880 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:05:13 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2229880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH gets 6 weeks paid paternity leave. I'm not sure how much he is going to take. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229877 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 09:04:29 +0000 autumnlove 2229877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO 1-4 weeks unpaid<br /> LO 2- 5 weeks unpaid<br /> LO 3- planning on using 3 or 4 weeks of vacation </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229864 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 08:56:26 +0000 Adira 2229864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He took 4 weeks of PTO for #1 and 5 weeks of PTO for #2. I'm very grateful to both him and his company for the amount of time he took off to help me with the babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229858 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 08:54:23 +0000 Mrs. Coral 2229858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He took 6 days of vacation time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229841 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 08:47:27 +0000 Bao 2229841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both girls were born on Wednesdays so just W-Sun both times. First time was unpaid second time was paid using PTO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229836 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 08:43:32 +0000 regberadaisy 2229836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: :shocked: do you believe the time off he took was part of why he got laid off?</p> <p>DH took a week both times and it was using vacation time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229813 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 08:21:35 +0000 avivoca 2229813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He took a week and a half off using sick time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229802 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 08:12:28 +0000 getjazzy 2229802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband gets 6 weeks of leave paid at 100% but since that eats in to my total allotted leave (1 year) he is only taking 4 weeks off. He also doesn't want to be away from work for longer than 4 weeks for fear of everything he will need to catch up on. We are very lucky to have that available though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229799 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 08:10:33 +0000 jape14 2229799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH had two weeks paid. I think he technically could have taken four weeks per firm policy, but two weeks is what everyone does at his office. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229797 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 08:09:42 +0000 yoursilverlining 2229797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>12 weeks, all paid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229753 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 07:40:55 +0000 lilteacherbee 2229753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With LO1, he took about 5 (paid) days off. This time, he'll be home for about 2 weeks before he has to go back to work because school will be starting back up (teacher). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229751 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 07:37:05 +0000 MrsTiz 2229751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH took two weeks of unpaid personal days. We didn't get any vacation days or paid days off when I had LO, but I was on the verge of a breakdown and desperately needed DH with me for the first two weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229745 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 07:30:23 +0000 yellowbird 2229745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With lo1 he took 5 weeks unpaid. Lo2 two weeks paid. He was at two different jobs with different benefits and responsibilities so that's what made sense at the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229743 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 07:28:43 +0000 lovehoneybee 2229743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>D gets 3 days PTO which butted onto a weekend. He could have used more of his own vacation time, but my mom was here and we figured we should save that time for when she was gone and I really needed help. </p> <p>He'll take more time with this one, because he has more time saved up, it's their slow season, and baby will be born over the holidays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229742 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 07:27:14 +0000 mrsjyw 2229742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With DS1, DH took a total of 6 weeks. It was a combined time off with PTO, holidays, paternity leave, and some extra time that his boss offered him at the time. </p> <p>With DS2, DH will be taking a few weeks off but it will be on/off with going back to work instead of all at once. It's just the nature of his position now that he wouldn't be able to take such a long chunk of time off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229739 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 07:25:41 +0000 mediagirl 2229739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He took 2 paid weeks (vacation time). He wishes he had taken more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/length-of-paternityparental-leave-for-so#post-2229738 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 07:25:33 +0000 bushelandapeck 2229738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH was allowed 4 weeks of paid paternity leave. He took 1.5-2 weeks with both and then used the rest over the next few months to take a day off here and there. It was nice to have him home for those first couple of weeks! </p>