https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 12:21:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-616623 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 08:33:39 +0000 NovBaby1112 616623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>this makes me really sad- a 4 week old is crying because they need something, not because they are trying to manipulate you. it is their only form of communication and they do not have self soothing capabilities yet. an hour is way too long, if they are crying for that long- they are hungry or need something! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-615385 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 17:46:10 +0000 tysonja 615385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonLong: i don't have much time to post right now but just wanted to say that we did more or less a similar thing for our LO and have the same results. he's been sttn since around 3 months and has never had a night waking since then (9.5months now). it doesn't seem to be a popular thing in this community to begin CIO type methods 'early', but most of the moms i know irl do begin soon after birth and have babies/children who sleep well and are well rounded in general :). of course there are right and wrong ways to do everything, but it's nice to know i'm not the only one, too! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-615368 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 17:40:19 +0000 birdofafeather 615368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that seems young and for way too long of a time too. i've read a good amount and like PPs have said, it seems like they have no mechanisms to self sooth at that point. i just recently started to let my 7 week old cry before going down for naps to see if she could fall asleep on her own, but my max was 5 minutes! she has fallen asleep after crying within that time frame, so i feel comfortable with it, but i have to give myself something to do in that time or i will go in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-615138 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 16:37:19 +0000 mrsjyw 615138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>&lt;/3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-615061 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 16:20:54 +0000 googly-eyes 615061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonLong: Wow! I haven't heard of that, but that's a great result. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-615059 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 16:20:19 +0000 Bookish 615059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonLong: I appreciate your perspective!! My SIL did something similar, and I'm still trying to find what I want to do, but I'm glad you chimed in, I was starting to think my SIL was the only person on earth that did that :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-615055 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 16:19:48 +0000 prettylizy 615055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm firmly in the 'to each their own' camp, but I'm also a total wuss and my 4 week old never left my arms! lol!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-615051 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 16:18:28 +0000 MarieJ 615051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg, this breaks my heart! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-615043 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 16:16:37 +0000 winniebee 615043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seems cruel to me. At 4 wks old they don't know what the heck is going on and crying is their only way of communicating. I feel like until 3-4 months sleep training is not the way to go.</p> <p>I think letting a newborn fuss a bit is ok, but crying for an hour straight? THat's too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-615031 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 16:13:28 +0000 LemonLong 615031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to be the unpopular person and say I don't see a problem with it as long as the baby is gaining weight and is healthy. We started sleep training at 3 weeks, and my LO was sleeping 6+ hours straight by 4 weeks, 8+ hours straight by 8 weeks. She's now almost 5 months old and is such a happy well rested baby. She sleeps 10+ hours now. Our pediatrician actually reccommended CIO at her 1 month appt. We used The Moms on Call method which start at 2 weeks old. (It's not full CIO at that age of course!)</p> <p>We had awesome results. I don't believe we have caused any damage to our daughter by letting her cry once in awhile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614987 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 16:03:35 +0000 littlebittyhouse 614987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just hearing about this makes me want to cry. 4 weeks is so teeny tiny :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614977 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 16:02:22 +0000 BelugaBean 614977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone else that it sounds way too young. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614971 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:59:55 +0000 Bookish 614971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is actually really interesting to me, because before I got on HB, my SIL told me how she sleep-trained her kiddos around 6-8 weeks, and not knowing anything about anything baby-related, it sounded reasonable to me! Now that I'm on here, I'm realizing that most parents CIO at a much later date, and I know I have a lot more research to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614967 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:59:33 +0000 cascademom 614967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whoa, way too young. Colic typically doesn't set in until 6 weeks anyway. By that point, we were a Happiest Baby family. Still are, but close to doing CIO at 6 months now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614966 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:59:33 +0000 Bao 614966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Way too young! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614961 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:57:55 +0000 loveisstrange 614961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are are pro-CIO but would NEVER do it with a 4 week old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614958 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:57:22 +0000 MsLipGloss 614958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also think this is indicative of the (unrealistic) expectation for young babies to sleep through the night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614954 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:56:55 +0000 MsMini 614954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That just doesn't seem right to me. At 4 weeks they have no mechanisms to self soothe, so it seems cruel. Full disclosure: I tried CIO twice, at the 4 month and 9 month sleep regression. Both times I rescued him within 15 minutes because it was causing too much stress for everyone (me, DH, S, and our cat and dog), so we aren't a CIO household. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614951 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:56:26 +0000 plantains 614951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>4 weeks? Oh my. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614950 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:56:15 +0000 lilyann 614950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Too young in my opinion and I could not have done that...to each their own I guess! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614949 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:56:01 +0000 mediagirl 614949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hurts my heart hearing this. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614947 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:55:23 +0000 googly-eyes 614947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's definitely too young, I wonder if the baby is colicky/unsoothable? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614946 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:55:23 +0000 MsLipGloss 614946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Makes me wonder what information they have/received that suggested going that route? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614944 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:55:18 +0000 littlek 614944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's too young. We waited until LO was 6.5 months old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-a-4-wk-old-cio#post-614940 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:54:36 +0000 pinkcupcake 614940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>(Not sure if this is the right topic or not...)</p> <p>I try really, really hard not to judge people's parenting, but when I recently found out that some (very distant) family members were using the CIO method on their 4 week old daughter (up to an hour!!!), I couldn't help but say OMG. In my opinion, that's just way too young!</p> <p>ETA: This bothered me enough to consider saying something (nicely), but in the end, it sounded like they had done their research and this was their decision so I let it be. </p>