https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 02:26:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-go-and-ttc#post-2799522 Wed, 24 Jan 2018 16:37:45 +0000 chesamine 2799522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms.Mermaid: I heard some type of study that was conducted that showed an average of 78-times to have to "try" before conceiving. I was shocked! BUT, that's an average so it could be much less but much more. Just like what I said to ALV91711, God has plans for our families. It will happen but yes, it is super frustrating! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-go-and-ttc#post-2799520 Wed, 24 Jan 2018 16:33:36 +0000 chesamine 2799520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ALV91711: Thank you for the words of encouragement! It's good to know I'm not alone.</p> <p>They always say it is when you stop trying when it happens. I'm pulling for you guys. But God has his plans for your family, and I'm sure for mine too. We don't see it right now but we hope to see it soon. There are lots of perks being a family of three. One thing for sure is that it's easy to ask somebody to look after just one child. Also, hugs are double for DD for us since he's the only one. So super perk there! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-go-and-ttc#post-2796782 Sat, 13 Jan 2018 12:16:35 +0000 Ms.Mermaid 2796782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are just starting out but after conceiving our LO on the first try I’m feeling really discouraged that our first cycles weren’t successful and worrying we are in for a long haul. I would have liked to have a second when my LO turned 3 but life stuff kept that from happening. I am thinking we will try for maybe a year and then decide we are done but I will be really bummed to get rid of our baby gear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-go-and-ttc#post-2795702 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 00:32:06 +0000 ALV91711 2795702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's such a tough decision. Around when DS was 3 is when DH and I felt we were ready to add to our family. DS will be 5 in March and it is still just him. After almost 2 years we are almost done with trying and have talked about the great things about being a family of 3. </p> <p>Putting away/giving away the baby stuff is hard. </p> <p>No advice, just know you aren't alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-go-and-ttc#post-2795669 Mon, 08 Jan 2018 17:42:51 +0000 chesamine 2795669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope everybody had a great time over the holidays and HAPPY 2018!</p> <p>Wow! I have not been on any of the boards since LO was born. This community has helped me a lot when we initially were TTC for our son. Now, baby fever has set in BIG TIME. </p> <p>LO is now 4yrs old and 2 mos. DH and I have talked to each other about having another one and when that would be. DH answered me at that time and said, "Now!" :grin: I would like to say it has probably been about a year now, or maybe a little less. </p> <p>I've had several "maybes" after being late for 4 days (at the most). But just like before, if I was late a certain month, rest assure I would be early the following. I'm in that frustrating stage again and I don't like it. A friend who is also currently TTC35+ said, "Who knew it was THIS hard to get pregnant after being told our lives to be careful about being pregnant?" I know right?! WHO KNEW!!! </p> <p>After over a year, DH and I tried out the SoftCup when TTC for LO and maybe within a couple of months, we got our BFP. I was so excited and even gave the rest of the cups in the box to a friend of mine. Within a couple of months, that friend also conceived using the SoftCups. This time around, we've started using them right away, but haven't been successful. It's a different type of frustration. It makes me think and ask myself, "Should we just not try or do we keep trying? We have LO right now; we should be happy with that." And yes, we are happy with LO. But both DH and I have several siblings and thought having a sibling for LO would be good/nice.</p> <p>I was folding laundry last night and noticed that LO still had 2T-3T clothes. So I had to fold them away and box them up ready for donation. I started to get REALLY emotional and every piece of clothing I folded reminded me of the little things LO did while wearing it; whether it was just running around the house or reaching a milestone. So the frustration kicked into high gear for sure as I thought to myself, "Aww wouldn't it be nice to have another one?" But sometimes I do think perhaps not; especially when I think of the stress and sleepless nights when LO is sick. I had pretty bad post-partum anxiety and thought, if I'm freaking out at the mere sound of a cough or a sight of runny nose; what business do I have having another one and would I be able to even handle it?</p> <p>Ugh, so many emotions!!! I hope I'm not the only TTC mom going through this. </p>