https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 07:15:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122424 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 11:22:53 +0000 BeachMama 2122424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents have been babysitting 2x weekly since DD was 4 months old. My mom always takes her places - the zoo, library, museums, etc without me and I'm totally fine with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122300 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 10:17:50 +0000 mrsrain 2122300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like you're not ready to send him out alone with her, and that's ok! There won't be anything there for him to do, and the environment could prove to be overwhelming, especially without your reassuring presence. If she wants to spend time with her nephew, invite her to come spend time at home, or to take him on a walk or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122295 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 10:16:43 +0000 Orchid 2122295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would, but not to Chuck e Cheese. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122278 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 10:09:11 +0000 bunnylove08 2122278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>10 months at chuck e cheese.. no because there is nothing he can do and it gets pretty crazy there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122178 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 09:05:38 +0000 Adira 2122178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't, just because I think it's weird and I'm very clingy of my mama-baby time since I WOHM full-time. Plus I'm nursing, so no way am I letting my kid out of my sight and having to provide a bottle if I don't have to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122125 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 08:26:57 +0000 ElbieKay 2122125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Generally speaking, I would encourage your sister to spend time with her nephew. However, since he won't really get anything out of going to that sort of venue, and he is probably crawling and it's probably full of toddler germs, I would be reticent to say yes to this particular activity.</p> <p>Also, if it will disrupt your nursing schedule then I would say to skip it. But I really really really hate pumping! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122115 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 08:19:09 +0000 MenagerieMama 2122115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I'm gonna join the minority and say no. Definitely if it was my SIL I'd say no because she's not my favorite. But I'm still a little clingy with my LO and don't want people carting her off without me! I'd offer to go with if it was really important to her, but LO and I would be a package deal. I definitely don't find anything wrong with it but it's how I feel personally! Our nanny takes LO out but that's because I'm at work... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122103 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 08:10:38 +0000 irene 2122103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh this cracks me up! So she got invited to a purse party, she doesn't own a purse, so she wants to borrow one from you? hahahaha</p> <p>This is so weird but I guess it is up to you. Personally I wouldn't - Not that I wouldn't feel comfortable to have LO go out without me blah blah, I just don't see the point at all.</p> <p>Besides, 10 months old doesn't enjoy parties. If it is at chucky cheese I assume it is a party for at least 3 year olds. Hmm. no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122097 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 08:04:13 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2122097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I would totally let her take him! My mom and MIL take my daughter out and about all the time. They LOVE getting to take her out and show her off, and I love the break!</p> <p>Honestly, your SIL probably feels weird going to a kids' party with no kid, so it'd be a favor to her too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122094 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 07:57:19 +0000 Madison43 2122094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to take my nephew out all the time when he was young -- I think I was 21 when he was born? I loved the one on one time and my sister and her husband loved the break. So I don't think its weird, but if you're not comfortable with it, I also think it's fine to say no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122091 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 07:50:40 +0000 illumina 2122091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Has he spent a lot of time with her with you around, so that he knows who she is? Otherwise I would worry he would become upset whilst there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122079 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 07:39:49 +0000 looch 2122079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's totally okay not to feel comfortable, so if you would be worried and anxious the whole time while your son is out without you, I'd skip it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122077 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 07:36:34 +0000 catomd00 2122077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My nanny took DD out all the time around 5<br /> Months. My in laws and sil did too when they watched her. I trusted them so no big deal. I took my nephew out alone lon before I had kids from infancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122068 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 07:27:44 +0000 babynumber1 2122068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This would be totally normal in our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122066 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 07:24:03 +0000 travelgirl1 2122066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to take my niece out all the time from when she was tiny and I loved it, we bonded so well and my sister got a lot of breaks. That said, I am a bit crazy about letting my own LO out of my sight. I think you have to do what works for you. If you feel ready to let her take him, great, you get some chill time and they get to bond. But if you need a bit more time to feel comfortable with it then that's okay too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122055 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 07:16:54 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2122055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly this sounds like a great way to get a break!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122044 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 07:02:31 +0000 Glitter 2122044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: the father of the birthday boy is her cousin so she'll just be there hanging out, no kids to supervise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122003 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 02:40:44 +0000 Mama Bird 2122003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um, how would she watch him if it was a kids' party and she had to keep an eye on the other kids too? Or is someone else throwing the party and she'd be there with just him? Maybe a party is not the best place for your SIL to try taking LO out by herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2122000 Thu, 26 Mar 2015 02:25:25 +0000 lamariniere 2122000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on your relationship with the person and if you trust them. At that age, we didn't live near anyone (no family) that I would have trusted and none of my friends would have dreamed of asking. Haha! That said, I'm not sure what a 10 month old will do at chuck e cheese. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2121971 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 22:51:18 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2121971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know. Maybe if the party were somewhere else. I'm not a fan of chuck e cheese. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2121965 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 22:29:01 +0000 loveisstrange 2121965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as I trusted the person, I dont see it as an issue. </p> <p>Yay for me time! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2121963 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 22:22:55 +0000 SweetiePie 2121963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've let my nanny take my son out for a walk or a play date, but that's just because she's done it a million times so I know she knows what she's doing.<br /> I'm not sure id let anyone else though. Maybe my mom or sister (my sister has 3 kids ranging from 9mos to 8years old and my mom watches them all the time and has taken them out in public). But no one else. Not yet! He's 6 months now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2121955 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 22:13:08 +0000 Grace 2121955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first thought was that it was weird, but some of the other posters have made me change my mind. I like the precidence that it sets - where your kids become close to your SIL, and they learn to enjoy eachother's company as they get older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2121950 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 22:01:08 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2121950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws took him for a walk at 2 months and we didn't realize. It was only 20 minutes or so. I was in the shower and my DH was sleeping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2121949 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 22:00:43 +0000 meganmp 2121949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would totally be OK with this. I'd look at it as, how great is it that he has an aunt who wants to be with him! He might have a bite of pizza or fuss a bit, but he'll also get to bond with his aunt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2121944 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 21:54:13 +0000 Glitter 2121944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: she just loves being with him and thought it was something he'd enjoy... But in those environments he can get flustered and needy for mommy. </p> <p>@jetsa: I trust her to watch him in controlled environments, but she doesn't have much experience (no kids) and I often have to ensure she's not trying to feed him wrong things when we're all out together. I guess I just don't trust her to think through all the things I would concerning him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2121939 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 21:51:46 +0000 blackbird 2121939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I let MIL do this from early on. She took her to her work skating party a few weeks ago. I don't think its a big deal at all if you trust her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2121936 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 21:46:17 +0000 HLK208 2121936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO's were 18 months by the time my parents starting taking them out. I let my sister take DS to a movie and lunch once when he was 4 and she left him in the car to run into my house to get something (the car was running and she was inside the house for a few minutes). Ever since, I've been more cautious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2121935 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 21:46:08 +0000 jetsa 2121935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you not trust her? I see no problem with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-lo-go-out-without-you#post-2121894 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 20:49:03 +0000 Mamasig 2121894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My boys go out with my mom all the time, but she's their caregiver while we're at work. My sister took DS1 to a friend's son's birthday party at about 15 months old. I have no problem with my sister doing it. She's their godmother. No one else has taken them out. Not sure I trust anyone else! DH definitely doesn't trust anyone else! </p>